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I wonder how many times this is going to scare the shit out of me now that its in my bedroom.

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Ok so my point with this post was to say that Jelly should not be stalked and harassed over something she's actually taken accountability for.

Nowhere did I deny that she did harm and nowhere did I deny that she was a grown adult. I may have misjudged when she was told the victim's age however, I still do strongly believe that the context of her being sexually abused by her family from a young age matters here. I have encountered her family and I believe every word she says about them. She had normalized inappropriate behavior because it went ignored or she would face punishment by speaking up and her view of the world had been incredibly limited, she didn't understand HOW serious what she was doing was until she started pulling away from her family and learning about the world. She DID NOT understand then and I'm sure of this because unfortunately I've watched her younger sister act like her parents setting her up with with a 20 year old when she was 16 and forcing her to marry him is completely normal. When she started getting away and defying her parents, she started to learn what she was doing was terribly wrong and she tried to disengage. She handled it VERY poorly and did and said harmful things at the time. This is to say she had no intent to take advantage of the victim, she genuinely viewed them as a peer until she realized the weight of her actions. That whole situation is just incredibly unfortunate and messy but there was nothing predatory going on. When she got away from her family, she learned better, she was horrified, she tried harder and harder to do better. To this day she's careful to make sure she NEVER hurts someone like that again. It is VERY unlikely that she will do anything like that again. Stop assuming she is the same person she was back then.

Stop tracking every account she has to try to "warn" people about her. There is no groomer amongst you here, just someone who started perpetuating the same abuse she'd been through all her life then eventually corrected when she started to learn and break away from her own abusers. She is by no means perfect now but she is a FAR cry from a pedophile and a groomer. She's impulsive and thoughtless at most anymore, we're working on it, but she isn't a monster that must be purged from the internet. Just move on with your own lives and let her move on with hers, you're not protecting anyone by going after her now.

So I have a statement re: starfallbluez/jelly-fish-wishes:

CW: grooming, pedophilia, stalking and harassment

Her and I have known each other for about 6 years. She is one of my closest friends and we've been living together for a little over a year now. She isn't the same person she was when we met and she is DEFINITELY not the same person she was 10 years ago. Was she behaving irresponsibly online at that time, absolutely. However, she was ABSOLUTELY not grooming someone. Grooming and pedophilia mean there would have to be intent to target someone and take advantage of them sexually specifically because they're a minor. There is no evidence of this intent, in fact, she didn't even know the person's age when they first made contact. She treated them like a peer because she assumed they were and didn't think to check, that's not predatory. The messages show me that, after learning the kids age, she tried to make sure they weren't exposed to explicit content. That still wasn't the right move but it isn't exactly nefarious. This does not negate the harm done to a minor being exposed to those kinds of conversations and that kind of content but it also doesn't make Jelly a groomer.

What SHOULD have happened is them both blocking each other and leaving each other the fuck alone and seeking help if accessible. Jelly TRIED to do this, she tried to move on with her life, she couldn't really seek the appropriate help but she left the kid alone and was careful with her interactions with minors from then on. Someone involved kept seeking her and her accounts out and sending messages to those close to her to try to oust her for years. Now as far as I'm concerned, the mistake Jelly made haunts her enough, nobody needs to follow her around online to try to ruin her image over something irresponsible she did as a young adult. Its not heathy for either party, its just really not constructive, and at this point its stalking and harassment. Constantly keeping tabs on her to see if she has changed her name, or is really just trying to use the internet in any capacity, is stalking. You said your piece now block her and her friends and move on because its not good for you to keep this up. Someone should have contacted the appropriate authorities by now if there were that much cause for concern.

There is no proof of this being a CURRENT behavior. She DID take accountability, she accepted the harm she did, she respected the victim's boundaries when cut off, and she changed her behavior so something like that would never happen again. Jelly is not running from anything, she's just moving on with her life. The victim and those around them should be doing that as well. Seeking Jelly out to then relay where she is to the victim does more harm than good already but I can't imagine how harmful it is to them for someone as close as their fiance to be as obsessive about keeping track of her as they are. So just stop, please. Leave Jelly alone, move on with your lives and let her move on with hers. She may have harmed someone by acting irresponsibly when she was younger but she is most definitely NOT a groomer or a pedophile.

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So I have a statement re: starfallbluez/jelly-fish-wishes:

CW: grooming, pedophilia, stalking and harassment

Her and I have known each other for about 6 years. She is one of my closest friends and we've been living together for a little over a year now. She isn't the same person she was when we met and she is DEFINITELY not the same person she was 10 years ago. Was she behaving irresponsibly online at that time, absolutely. However, she was ABSOLUTELY not grooming someone. Grooming and pedophilia mean there would have to be intent to target someone and take advantage of them sexually specifically because they're a minor. There is no evidence of this intent, in fact, she didn't even know the person's age when they first made contact. She treated them like a peer because she assumed they were and didn't think to check, that's not predatory. The messages show me that, after learning the kids age, she tried to make sure they weren't exposed to explicit content. That still wasn't the right move but it isn't exactly nefarious. This does not negate the harm done to a minor being exposed to those kinds of conversations and that kind of content but it also doesn't make Jelly a groomer.

What SHOULD have happened is them both blocking each other and leaving each other the fuck alone and seeking help if accessible. Jelly TRIED to do this, she tried to move on with her life, she couldn't really seek the appropriate help but she left the kid alone and was careful with her interactions with minors from then on. Someone involved kept seeking her and her accounts out and sending messages to those close to her to try to oust her for years. Now as far as I'm concerned, the mistake Jelly made haunts her enough, nobody needs to follow her around online to try to ruin her image over something irresponsible she did as a young adult. Its not heathy for either party, its just really not constructive, and at this point its stalking and harassment. Constantly keeping tabs on her to see if she has changed her name, or is really just trying to use the internet in any capacity, is stalking. You said your piece now block her and her friends and move on because its not good for you to keep this up. Someone should have contacted the appropriate authorities by now if there were that much cause for concern.

There is no proof of this being a CURRENT behavior. She DID take accountability, she accepted the harm she did, she respected the victim's boundaries when cut off, and she changed her behavior so something like that would never happen again. Jelly is not running from anything, she's just moving on with her life. The victim and those around them should be doing that as well. Seeking Jelly out to then relay where she is to the victim does more harm than good already but I can't imagine how harmful it is to them for someone as close as their fiance to be as obsessive about keeping track of her as they are. So just stop, please. Leave Jelly alone, move on with your lives and let her move on with hers. She may have harmed someone by acting irresponsibly when she was younger but she is most definitely NOT a groomer or a pedophile.

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writers be like, i can fix him! *gives him pneumonia* *has him lose a limb* *has him almost drowned* *has him barely avoid execution* here, fixed.

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me when the disability disables me: oh what the fuck? this sucks. what the hell man!

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selfshippers

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“Hot and bothered” in the sense that it is 90 degrees out and I am extremely annoyed

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do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

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I am done with ADHD. From now on I will only be HD. My resolution is crisp as fuck these days, you have no idea. Look at my pores, boy.

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A couple of Hello Kitties I made to sell at a craft thing this friday. I've been feeling more shit than usual the last couple of months so I haven't had much time to prep, I'm absolutely crocheting my hands off this week.

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forgot to poke air holes in the crotch of my pants and my penius died:(

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hobbies include mumbling and bad posture

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Got Stardust Fields done quick since I've had quite a bit of downtime lately.

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Minecraft Face Blanket, a free crochet pattern designed by Kara Michelle on Ravelry.