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Sometines we become too busy and excited to grow up too fast that we forget how to be a kid –until it's long gone.

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No need for alcohol; the sea and the city lights is enough to intoxicate a lonesone heart...

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"16 WAYS ON HOW TO KEEP A MAN"

So you feel like you found the one; he sends butterflies and dragons in your stomach whenever he's around. He calls you beautiful every single second. But for how long? Will you be able to keep him that way? Yes sister, above all reasons, you are responsible, to make him stay. How to? Here are 16 proven and tested ways on HOW TO KEEP A MAN:

1.MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A MAN TO KEEP.

What I mean by this is that make sure you are keeping a "MAN"; someone who's matured enough to have a life-long commitment with you and not just a "BOY" who will have tantrums as much as you also have yours too. So girl, find a man that you'll share your toothpaste in the morning, will dine with you in mid-day, watch movies with you in the night and make wishes with you at 11:11; not someone who's just willing to share bedsheets and bed with you  (y'all know what I mean).

2. MAKE SURE HE'S WILLING TO STAY IN THE FIRST PLACE. Ironic isn't it? As much as the title of this article is concerned, these ways is to help you keep a man. But honey, the old saying goes like this "You can never keep someone who doesn't want to be kept." Make sure that he is very much sincere and inlove with you to make these things work. If this step is not applicable nor not the case with your man, then proceed to number three.

3. ASK HIS ACTIONS IF HE WANTS TO BE KEPT OR WILLING TO BE KEPT THROUGHOUT THE PROCESS.

Finding a man who'll stay is a diamond in the rough nowadays. There are even situations that you can't even have just one, even just one man to consider your own or be your "make-believe" right man because instances, looks and money won't allow you to have one. LMAO. So girl, make sure that if you have a man that you want to spend your life with, his actions says that he wants to be kept or even if he doesn't want to, for the time being, he'll eventually want to stay and see your drooling face in the morning when you wake up as husband and wife one day. Actions speaks louder than words dear. Besides, no toothbrush nor mouthwash will ever prevent a man's lips from lying so better yet make him prove it through actions and sincere efforts.

4. KNOW WHAT HE LIKES AND WHAT HE DOESN'T : A MUST.

It's has always been one of the first step in a long term relationships, may it be friendly or romantic type of relationship. Knowing what he likes and what he doesn't, assure you that you will never go wrong in you choices and actions when it comes to the man of your life. The food he likes, the colors he prefer, the perfume he uses, and even the music he likes. By then, you'll be able to choose easily what to give him in special days and occasions or whenever you feel like giving something that he'll surely like.

4. COOK HIM GOOD FOOD.

Yeah, I know... I know this sounds cliche but hey, it always works sis. The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. If a woman cooks good food, she will not only make her man stay, but will morelike to win the hearts of the family of his partner too.

5. COMPLIMENT HIS EFFORTS AND PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

It isn't only us girls who wants to be complimented and to be told we are beautiful; men also want to hear from us about what we think about how they look, how his work and efforts are appreciated and how much you like him near you. Simple words like, "I like your shirt", "You smell good", or even "Thank you, Handsome" will definitely melt the macho man inside him.

6. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH HIM.

It's always given that time is bound to be one of the most important components of long lasting relationships. In men's perspective, they are more likely to stay with a woman who knows how to value time and balance it with work, personal life and of course, time for him. Go out on a date with him, watch movies with him, and do things the two of you enjoys the most.

7. NEVER EVER MAKE YOUR MAN JEALOUS.

For women, we are entitled to be too paranoid at times, thinking that every single girls around our Babe is a threat. But honey, jealousy is different in men. When they're jealous, they tend to keep it as much as they could for the sake of they're manliness. If he says never go out with men he doesn't like the vibes of or men who acts weird around you, just listen to him and do it. So always be observant towards his actions so you'll be able to know if he being a "jelly-oh-jealous" baby. Well, he's a man too. He knows when another man has different intentions because he's been there too; before your relationship ever existed.

8. GIVE HIM TOKENS OF LOVE AND GIFTS SPECIALLY IN SPECIAL OCCASIONS.

Men are definitely not showy most of the time. He will never tell you that he likes the shirt you two ran across the department store nor tell you he wants a birthday present on his birthday. But believe me, he's the happiest when you give him gifts or simple tokens of love. It makes him feel loved and important. I mean, after all his efforts and love, he deserves presents too.

9. KNOW THE BOUNDARIES OF BEING A "GIRLFRIEND" AND A "MOTHER".

Darling, believe me when I say that men feels irritated when their woman act like a "Nagging Mom". You can't go nag all day like a cringey mom that nags at his son 24/7(well that's what most mom's do. LOL). He already have a mom, what he needs is a loving girlfriend.

10. BE NOT TOO TIGHT NOR TOO LOOSE.

What were you thinking when you read this one? Well, whatever may it be, what I mean here is that never ever make your man feel suffocated nor being neglected. Allow each other to have a social life, be with their friends and give a "ME" time for each other. A good amount of air to breathe and waves to feel in a relationship keeps the boat sailing properly.

11. NEVER EVER SLEEP ON BIG FIGHTS AND CONFLICTS.

A small hole in a relationship will eventually grow over time if not resolved right away. Usually, a man compromises the argument just for the sake of fixing everything. But it can never be always like that. It doesn't matter who started the fight, it doesn't matter who's wrong and who's right, because what matters is that you guys know how to say sorry and swallow both of your pride to fix everything. Your man may not tell it to you directly whenever you fight, but it hurts him when he see's you cry.

12. EXERT SOME EFFORT TO LOOK GOOD FOR HIM.

Even though our man tells us that we always look pretty with or without anything in our faces but hey, there's no harm in exerting extra efforts in putting on makeups, spraying perfume and wearing nice dress when you're around him. This is not to actually make you change yourself to someone else or put on heavy, scandalous makeups and clothes just to please him. But the mere fact that he sees that you still try your best to look good for him make him feel that you are still excited to see him and have a good impression from him.

13. TALK ABOUT FUTURE PLANS WITH HIM AND MAKE IT HAPPEN TOGETHER.

Making plans and picturing yourself together for the next years is one of the sweetest thoughts in relationships. Talking about your future with him like your future house, your future kids and other plans in life, will make him see like you are really into him and that you are really committed to end up being with him for the rest of your lives. But of course, your plans together should also be put into actions. Imagine, you two, looking back to those days when you guys are just sketching your dream home then you eventually have one, with your kids with it and still the unconditional love for each other that makes your house, a HOME.

14. NEVER BRING UP YOUR EXES IN THE PICTURE.

Remember this girls, never ever bring up exes in the picture especially when you guys are quarrelling. Never compare him to your exes nor tell him to just go back to her peacocks before. Don't compare him to your exes as if they did better than he does. Well, because if they did, you wouldn't call them exes now, would you?

15. ALWAYS RESPECT EACH OTHERS' FEELINGS, THOUGHTS, AND DECISIONS.

You can never avoid arguments with each other. Knowing that us, women, are usually more sensitive than men, we ought to start arguments; sometimes even the petty things could even up being a huge argument whenever we feel like quarreling with our partner. But beyond any arguments, beyond any doubts and conflicts between the two of you, never ever disrespect each others' feelings. Of course that includes not doing anything that will void your commitment with each other, hurt each others' feelings, tell lies and anything above the sun that can disrespect each others' feelings (in short,don't date nor see another dudes when you're dating a man already, Hun). Respect his personal space if he asks for it. If you want your man to respect you and your feelings, give him it to him too.

16. ABOVE ALL WAYS TO KEEP YOUR MAN:

"TRUST AND LOVE HIM WITH ALL THE CELLS IN YOUR BODY, YOUR MIND, YOUR SOUL AND YOUR HEART."

Sis, believe me when I say trusting him will make him stay. Just like how you like him to trust you. Trusting him will make him see how mature your relationship is, how strong your foundation became, how much you really love him and remind why he loved you in the first place. Trusting him, is loving him. Sure, he could make you cry or will not buy that bag you really wanted, but honey, no man is perfect. So are you. He'll be wrong, he'll commit mistakes, but when the moment he sees you still believe in him and you still trust him despite of his imperfections, he'll think that he will never ever need another woman rather than you.

Being the woman, gives us privileges in relationships, yes. But let us never forget that in a healthy commitment, it will always be give and take. You guys have to assist each other to grow better together and always think that your love for each other is stronger than all the doubts in the world (stronger that Thanos with all the infinity stones with him). So step up your game and prove him that you too, is a diamond in the rough, worthy to be kept with his arms a lifetime~

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An Open Letter for the Extraordinary YOU

"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance..."

-Oscar Wilde

The reflection of the mirror cannot say who you are; nor those ugly voices inside you who kept telling you that you're not enough. You've been dwelling and lurking in the shadows of "what if's and why's'" that you forgot what makes you beautiful -love; SELF-LOVE.

No matter how hateful those snide remarks from the people about the way you dress, the way tou speak and the way you act, can never make you less of a person you are and you can be.

Those unwanted fats and freckles don't define you. Those thick glasses nor those makeup you did for hours will never tell you what you are; it is YOU. It has been always you, and will always be you who can introduce yourself to the world.

Expensive perfumes will never make someone's filthy character fragrant, designer clothes can never disguise bad personality, and branded makeups can never cover someone's undesirable traits. That's why there's no need for fancy stuffs to be pretty. The norms of the society knows nothing of self-appreciation. An Instagram model-like beauty maybe nice, but a heart of gold will always outshine all.

No need to hide those stretchmarks that makes you feel icky nor hide in the restroom to take those awful pills just to make you feel normal. What matters the most is how you view yourself so others will be able to see it too. There is never a need for conformity when your soul shouts for UNIQUENESS. Be the beYOUtiful person you always have been.

The skin tone and the color you are in, the curls or the volume of your hair, justifies the rich culture and personality you are in. May you have a fair complexion or a darker one, embrace it with open arms for it signifies a strong race that makes you, YOU; a diamond in the rough.

For great man, will never mind your imperfections ; he will fall in love with them instead. All those curves and spots on your cheeks, those mood swings, and your unexpected cravings will all be just fine and be loved by the right guy; as long as you make him see that as much as he doesn't mind those flaws, neither do you .

Imagine and view yourself that one day, you'll thank those people who pulled you down and make you feel less important than you really are for helping you be a better person. One day, you'll thank the society for calling you names and labelling you on how you look like for it had been your reminder that we are never born to impress everyone nor become what they wants us to be. And one day, you'll wake up with the right man beside you; you'll wake up thanking yourself for you chose to love yourself more than anyone else. Making sure that you love yourself completely, so you were also able to love another wholeheartedly.

Honey, there will be times that the mirror of the society will tell you differently, but let the sunshine on your personality prove them wrong. Shine brighter than the dull commentaries and judgments by those who only know you by name. Let the nightsky fall and crown on your hair and contain all the stars in your eyes for everyone to see. You are BEAUTIFUL.

You've made this far, dear. What else can you not make?

Now is the time to tell yourself that I am me, I am EXTRAORDINARY...

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"They will never say they don't love us no more, or their sad, nor tell us lies but they know how to love unconditionally. But most of the time, we forget that they only have a short time to be with us, mostly, they spend it waiting for us to come home..."

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