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Being the only bi cis guy amongst almost exclusively trans friends and peers is wild because in theory its like im living in a horny manga where all of a dudes friends turn into hot babes, but in reality they are hunting me like the last bison on the prairie. 5 years ago I mentioned bionicle and one of them asked when I was starting estrogen.

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This is true when you think about it

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told my girlfriend that if she proposes i want a secondhand wedding ring. i explained i don't want to contribute to a vanity-based industry like diamond mining, and that it would be important to me to continue marriage traditions in a way that causes minimal environmental and personal harm. she asked me if i was just trying to roll the dice on obtaining a haunted object, and i told her i can want two things.

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Door Appreciation

I was thinking about Door. By, erm...The standards of the D family, he's actually quite a good parent!

He's physically affectionate with Boy, rather than being "traditional" and kind of distant with his son. He's unafraid to show concern for him.

He's quite honest with him; he doesn't try to shield him from the truth for the sake of peace of mind. This is probably also partly because in these situations, underestimating how fucked you are will get you killed, but I think it also shows that he respects him. He treats him as being intelligent and capable enough to be told exactly how it is. He isn't the kind of parent that raises their child on heavy condescension and infantilisation. Although, Boy is 11, so, you know, a bit more being treated like an 11 year old might be in order, but, you know, by the standards of this family's way of life, not bad.

He isn't the kind of parent that raises their child on negative reinforcement. When Boy does something well, he praises him. He encourages his skills, interests and sense of humour. He rewards him when he does well. He's not the kind of parent that rules by shame and judgement, causing their children to grow up feeling inadequate and like they're never good enough. His way of parenting is far healthier than that, and I think it shows in the ways Boy is mostly quite open about himself, like freely showing the family his writing and sharing interests such as gaming with them.

Also, again, by the standards of the D family, he shows concern for Boy's mental health. While he does seem to equate being able to get through it with being "strong", he doesn't seem to hold it against Boy that he's having difficulties, or view it as some failing.

Despite bringing Boy into hunting and teaching him how to use a gun, letting him drink booze, etc, he does have concern for Boy's childhood innocence, and he supports his interests like any good parent would do.

TL;DR: Door looks like he kind of smells of BO, but I think he's a good dad by the standards of the D family. His relationship with Boy is super cute and I love them.

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i love seeing cardinals and bluejays together i’m always like “hehe.. evil siblings”

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Guy who learns kung fu, then realizes kung fu can be defeated by MMA so he learns that, then realizes MMA can be defeated by guns so he buys one, then realizes that guns can be defeated by law enforcement so he becomes a lawyer, then realizes that the law can be overthrown so he becomes a paramilitary general, then realizes that naked force can be enveloped by ideology so he becomes a religious leader, then realizes that ideology is primarily determined by the means of production so he becomes an inventor, then realizes that successful invention requires a finely honed mind so he becomes a psychologist, then realizes that the mind is just part of the body so he learns kung fu

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just saw a furry go "ugh pup masks are the worst thing to happen to the furry community" and it's like what are you talking about those are your cousins, at the end of the day you're both pretending to be gay dog men, i think it's just an aesthetic choice at that point

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inspired by that one post about how you can cut out the middle of “fine looking” for an expert YTP style sentence mix

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Spent tonight at a local short film festival. One of the shorts was made by two 12 year olds in their backyard and it was the best short of the entire night

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The ability to turn reblogs off has really added a new dimension to shitty posts

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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