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my buy me a coffee account got approved! if you want to donate money to me once or on a recurring basis, you can now do so here:

as of right now the only thing i'm offering in return is simple sfw doodles, and you have to ask, i'm not gonna come see if you want one if you don't say so in the donation comment or message me first. mostly for my own sanity

i have no expectations, this isn't a demand, and while i'm very vulnerable financially right now, it's not a crisis (yet), so this isn't me pleading for whatever you can spare. just, y'know, if you wanna help or you like what i do, feel free.

might be opening a "tox's art and stuff" server soon like all the cool kids do. it's mostly set up, i'm just nervous, lmao

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can someone please fund the medicaid transport people better. that van was rattling very loudly the entire drive to and from the doctor's office

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Revolutionary parenting hack:

If your child is in the middle of some activity and clearly enjoying it (and wasn't supposed to be doing something else instead), DO NOT interrupt them and have them do chores that will "only take 5 minutes or so!"

You haven't asked them to do anything before they got out the Legos, started reading a chapter of their book or painting the complicated picture, or began playing their video game.

As a result of being repeatedly interrupted, they will learn that their presence in public space of the household=availability to do chores, so they will make themselves scarce so you can't find them and order them around. They will also become suspicious of your efforts to engage with them as they play, as they've learned that these pleasantries are a prelude to "Take out the trash", or "move your boots and vacuum the entryway, there's dirt everywhere ".

"But I need my children to help me around the house!", I hear you cry. I understand. Children should not be treated like royalty and left to their own devices 24/7.

An alternative is to give the kids a clearly delineated chore chart and stick to it, resisting the urge to add anything to it. There are some chores that are easier and quicker with two people, though. A (in my opinion) even better option is to divide the child's day into "on-duty" and "off-duty " time. When they're on-duty, you can interrupt them as before, but you have *consulted with your child beforehand * and they understand that during this time they can relax, but they must be ready to jump in and lend a hand.

That way they won't start trying to level up in their video game or break out the clay and make stuff. When they are off-duty, you leave them alone and their only responsibilities are to clean up whatever mess they make at the end of this time.

Also, if they are tearing around the house or whining about being bored, don't make them do chores so they will "have something to do"; this could make the child conflate extra chores with punishment for whining and make them reluctant to help out when you randomly tell them to at other times because they might think they're being punished but they have NO IDEA WHAT THEY DID. And IMO children should see chores as things everyone has to do no matter what, not punishments.

I may seem unqualified to offer parenting advice as I have no kids, but I was talking with my dad today and he said: "I wish you didn't hide from us in your room so much, but every time your mom walked by she'd give you a chore to do, so I can't blame you for that." A kid who hides in their room to play has an entirely different relationship to the family than the child who sprawls on the livingroom floor and excitedly describes the city they are building out of Legos.

And today, in times of Covid I play a complicated game of hide-and-seek with my mother as I try to do my online coding homework and apply for jobs. I am now attempting to turn my bedroom into my own tiny office because if I work in our home office, she'll find me and go "I can't attach this file to my email," and so on.

Children *have* to obey their parents when they are young. But true respect and honoring collective responsibilities is stronger than forced obedience. If you demonstrate to your children that you respect them and their time, they will reciprocate.

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funeral for a mask

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you would not believe the speed at which i can go from "unlovable depressed wretch" to "loyal and vengeful knight" when someone is In A Situation close to me. get behind me m'lord i will be your shield. don't trip over that pile of laundry i was too sad to deal with it

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sunkissed, plush?

this list is so hard to search for some reason. maybe it's the colors

autumn or spring?

autumn!!! i used to prefer spring bc 1. my birthday 2. flowers and rain :) but climate change has made spring unbearable in the heat department. autumn is great, it's cooler and the colors are pretty and HALLOWEEN is there and if i'm lucky it rains then too

how many stuffed animals do you still own?

i have dyscalculia i can't count that high. but it's a lot. it's so many. i love plushies

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For the soft ask game: poppy, shampoo, sweetheart 💖

favorite pastel color?

as with all things. green

if i can't use neon green in something (usually because that saturation hurts to look at in a lot of instances), i usually move to pastel green before anything else. very good color 10/10

favorite scent?

watermelon kiwi in anything usually gets me. hazelnut candles, also, that's a special nostalgia thing. and the cherry blossom body spray from bath and bodyworks (i think?) that i had years and years ago and have never gotten again. idk if they sell it anymore. it was amazing though

favorite mug/cup?

if i had another one i'd talk about it here (i did get this one in the last ask). alas, i have no special cups. except my twilight sparkle mug. which really is baller i love that thing

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i never know how to interpret softblocking with people i've been close to when it's done without a word, but a boundary is a boundary, i'm not gonna go ask. hurts my feelings but it's certainly one of the more mild ways to stop being friends with someone. also everything hurts my feelings

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how about golden, buttery, and sweetheart :3

favorite stationary product?

well in trying to assess my options i found out it's actually "stationery" so there's my learning for the day

does "big hardcover expensive drawing book" count if i never wind up drawing in the fucking things. i just love the idea of them. especially the spiral-bound ones that still have a hardcover those rule

...do you think the original poster meant "my favorite thing that never moves"? don't really have an answer for that one anyway. i guess "myself" would be a funny joke

favorite snack?

well it changes every few months but right now it's these fuckin things

big flavor indeed

favorite mug/cup?

MY TWILIGHT SPARKLE MUG

am i a pony fan? well i was. and she was my favorite. and i still like a lot about g4 and liked the g5 movie too and have pony ocs and also some vintage toys--NOT THE POINT.

this mug is fucking huge. but also the shape means it's less likely to spill while i'm walking and it's sloshing around in there. i usually use it for tea

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soft asks:

cherry - what is your sexuality?

lollipop - favorite makeup products?

daydreams - if you could be anything or anyone, who would you be?

october - what month were you born in?

caress - do you like to snuggle?

ivory - describe your pajamas?

golden - favorite stationary product?

freckles - most-worn article of clothing?

twilight - best friend?

silk - do you like k-pop?

poppy - favorite pastel color?

dimples - most attractive features of a person’s face?

sunkissed - autumn or spring?

buttery - favorite snack?

whisper - how much sleep do you get?

pencil - do you own a journal?

cupcake - are you a good cook?

honey - favorite term of endearment?

clouds - describe one of your favorite dreams?

velvet - who was your first crush?

paper - favorite children’s book?

peaches - do you have a skincare routine?

mochi - favorite studio ghibli film?

backyard - did you ever have an imaginary friend?

strawberry - favorite fruit?

kiss - have you ever kissed a friend?,

nightlight - do you read before bed?

shampoo - favorite scent?

skin - what distant relative are you closest to?

aphrodite - favorite actress/actor?

cuddles - do you have any pets?

lace - if you own any dresses, which is your favorite?

sheets - sanrio or san-x characters?

cream - frozen yogurt flavor?

watermelon - do films ever make you cry?

sapphos - favorite poet?

plush - how many stuffed animals do you still own?

roses - what flower do you find most beautiful?

sweetheart - favorite mug/cup?

sunset - what are your pronouns?

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as a hater, it's important to keep in mind that true fandom is a long game. for example, yeah, it's fucking annoying when you genuinely enjoy a show or something for multiple reasons and it happens to have gay people (or people who could be read as gay) in it and so the fandom gets flooded with the kind of fans who are literally just here for the "Hot New Thing to Slash Ship" and therefore have bad opinions on everything because they think entirely in shallow fanfic tropes and are going to get mad every time something doesn't line up perfectly with their fanfics, but with time they will move on to the next "Hot New Thing to Slash Ship," and you'll realize your real enemy is and has always been That One Blogger who Sincerely Loves this Show as Much as You But Has the Worst Fucking Opinions on Planet Earth.

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If you've heard of Persona 4, you've probably heard of the infamous controversy over whether major character Naoto is a trans boy whose character story went into transphobic detransition propaganda...

...but you may not have heard about the part where Naoto's writing was actually a lot more straightforward in Japanese, while the most alarming aspects of it were actually a byproduct of the official English translation making some abysmally terrible wording choices.

In today's Leaked Experience article, H.C. goes into a breakdown of the Japanese and English text of Naoto's key scenes and how only a handful of wording and nuance differences in translation can end up derailing an entire character arc.

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Ironically, hard light is bad for recording sexy time.

It will highlight every pore, every vein, every wrinkle on your nutsack.

One day I will end this ring light fad. It is my ultimate side quest.

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cozy night💫

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from the same group. read me for fucking filth

going through my pictures folder and properly organizing everything and found this lone screenshot from a persona group rp i was in years ago. the title indicates i was responding to how the plot ended