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eat an entire can of sweetened condensed milk. you deserve it.

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honestly i think im good without that thanks

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keep her safe

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nothing but respect for the art of cosplay, by the way. But there is also an undeniable element of fanworks just replacing the actual character of female characters across all medias with the affect of a patreon cosplayer cosplaying that character. It's respectable work! But kind of weird to overwrite all these female characters with that persona, actually.

There's a certain kind of gamer and a certain kind of fandomite that sees literally all aspects of female characters as present to serve as set-dressing for Idealwoman, the Woman inside your head who is The Girl. The Girl puts on cosplay!!!! :D to become all the women in the media and then they create fanworks or make comments about them that are so confoundingly divorced from the actual character they're supposedly featuring that it leaves you wondering if they even bothered looking at the character directly even once before assuming they probably had this one figured out and just put Idealwoman in her clothes and, if you're lucky, her skin, too.

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There's a certain kind of gamer and a certain kind of fandomite that sees literally all aspects of female characters as present to serve as set-dressing for Idealwoman, the Woman inside your head who is The Girl. The Girl puts on cosplay!!!! :D to become all the women in the media and then they create fanworks or make comments about them that are so confoundingly divorced from the actual character they're supposedly featuring that it leaves you wondering if they even bothered looking at the character directly even once before assuming they probably had this one figured out and just put Idealwoman in her clothes and, if you're lucky, her skin, too.

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Black activists compare anti-trans bathroom ban to Jim Crow-era segregation laws at Texas Capitol

“As a Black American whose family originally hails from Texas, I personally know how state-sanctioned discrimination has harmed communities in Texas,” Antonio Ingram said, as reported by local media. “Segregation never increased safety. Segregation only served to isolate, erase, and endanger.

“Whether it was Jim Crow signs baring my ancestors here in Texas from water fountains and restrooms, or modern legislation policing where trans people can access basic resources, such as using the restroom, the intention is the same: to control and discriminate through exclusion.”

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A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.

Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.

Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.

And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.

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I started saying "that's babyschool" as a joke at my own expense about how I just make up phrases and use them, but then it actually entered my vocabulary so I have to physically stop myself from calling things babyschool in front of strangers now

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Maybe if we expected adults to treat children with respect it wouldn't dazzle kids so much when groomers show them basic kindness. But man, how HUMILIATING would it be to NOT put down and dismiss children whenever you possibly can? Ha Ha. Just legally mandate that all humans publish their complete genome and send it to every library on earth, THAT'LL stop the pedophiles

a lot harder for "the pedophile" to take advantage of children if children are allowed to question the authority of adults, but that means teachers can't embarass students who know more than them in the classroom so i guess the only option is to upload your entire medical history to craigslist to prove you're old enough to see boobs

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Holy Shit: This Cat Just Launched A Salvo Of Ballistic Missiles From Its Mouth And Then Laid Down And Meowed

"Of course I called 911," said an onlooker, "But not before giving the cat a little pet. It just looked so comfortable"

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a lot harder for "the pedophile" to take advantage of children if children are allowed to question the authority of adults, but that means teachers can't embarass students who know more than them in the classroom so i guess the only option is to upload your entire medical history to craigslist to prove you're old enough to see boobs

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"But have you SEEN porn these days! So misogynistic!" Yeah we were talking about that actually before it became impossible to even mention porn without people losing their minds. Also if you think porn is misogynistic wait until you see hollywood lol. Porn isn't special, you just think sex is sinful and dirty, which is a you problem, actually!

Nauseating, by the way, just how prevalent abstinence-only ideology seems to have completely washed through people like. It's just common now for some shithead to show up like "you think it's normal for teenagers to watch porn? 😬" Yeah actually it is one of the most historically well-understood axioms of teenagers that they are horny all the time because of puberty. They're literally in the process of sexual development, their bodies are building and testing the hardware for sex.

Of course every person is different and there's a full spectrum of sex drive among teenagers, but if you're seriously expecting most teenagers not to masturbate until they turn 18 you are living in a fantasy. Sex isn't evil!!!!!! Sex isn't damaging!!! Sex is not toxic or harmful!!! Sex is just sex, and whether or not something constitutes sexual abuse or sexual harm has more to do with what makes something abusive or harmful, and little to do with how sexual it is.

Also, the idea that children seeing porn is how sexual abuse happens is fully based on gut-disgust reactions and has genuinely nothing to do with the realities of the factors that actually give rise to sexual abuse. Of course it should not be possible or at least likely for kids to just accidentally stumble into porn, but that's true in general; nobody wants to be jumpscared with porn when they're trying to do some other shit. If some non-adult is out there seeking out sexual materials, all that matters is that they're keeping it to themselves and not trying to engage strangers online about it, and that they have a solid foundation of sexual education and media literacy on which to make smart, healthy decisions while doing so.

Sexual development, like all development, happens over time, and starts before adulthood. We need to accomodate the reality that exists, no matter how uncomfortable that reality is. Trying to push to make it impossible for teenagers to see porn is just divorced from reality, and the basis for trying to do so is anti-science. Figure out how to deal with it.

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Nauseating, by the way, just how prevalent abstinence-only ideology seems to have completely washed through people like. It's just common now for some shithead to show up like "you think it's normal for teenagers to watch porn? 😬" Yeah actually it is one of the most historically well-understood axioms of teenagers that they are horny all the time because of puberty. They're literally in the process of sexual development, their bodies are building and testing the hardware for sex.

Of course every person is different and there's a full spectrum of sex drive among teenagers, but if you're seriously expecting most teenagers not to masturbate until they turn 18 you are living in a fantasy. Sex isn't evil!!!!!! Sex isn't damaging!!! Sex is not toxic or harmful!!! Sex is just sex, and whether or not something constitutes sexual abuse or sexual harm has more to do with what makes something abusive or harmful, and little to do with how sexual it is.

Also, the idea that children seeing porn is how sexual abuse happens is fully based on gut-disgust reactions and has genuinely nothing to do with the realities of the factors that actually give rise to sexual abuse. Of course it should not be possible or at least likely for kids to just accidentally stumble into porn, but that's true in general; nobody wants to be jumpscared with porn when they're trying to do some other shit. If some non-adult is out there seeking out sexual materials, all that matters is that they're keeping it to themselves and not trying to engage strangers online about it, and that they have a solid foundation of sexual education and media literacy on which to make smart, healthy decisions while doing so.

Sexual development, like all development, happens over time, and starts before adulthood. We need to accomodate the reality that exists, no matter how uncomfortable that reality is. Trying to push to make it impossible for teenagers to see porn is just divorced from reality, and the basis for trying to do so is anti-science. Figure out how to deal with it.

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hark, seekers of truth! the omens approach

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daddy is the "bad" parent and mommy is the "good" parent but daddy is the "smart" parent and mother is the "servile" parent and somehow I'm supposed to respect the institution of The Family? Conservatism is a joke. Youth liberation fucking yesterday please, why are we letting random shithead adults have completely free reign to play dollhouse with the real actual lives of their children with no resistance or challenge because having sex without a condom magically instills the complete body of knowledge A Parent Needs To Raise A Child, Apparently.

When teenagers get pregnant most people call them stupid but when adults do it suddenly they're the only people on earth qualified to raise that child? Get fucking real. Most people these days seem to have kids because they think they're supposed to or because they want someone they can relive their youth vicariously through. That's who you expect to do this right? That's who we're entrusting the lives of these kids with? "Think of the children" my ass.

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no actually she should not be spanking you, especially not your bare ass, she should not be groping you, or sexualizing your outfit, or vocally presuming your sexual activity, or touching you in private areas over or under your clothes for any reason short of medical emergency. She should not be pinching your ass or any of that other "cute" shit "mothers do." It doesn't need to involve nudity to be sexual harassment or abuse!

but also mother knows best so really who can say if it's possible for mom to be the one who wronged. Obviously only men's actions can be sexually abusive

i love how "the pedophile" is always depicted as some stinky masculine man male hiding in the bushes or hunched over a computer serial grooming random little girls like holy shit none of you are ready to confront just how much sexual abuse mothers commit toward their children on a regular basis. It's not even uncommon people just accept the idea that mothers are an exception to 100% of their children's boundaries for some fucking reason