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The "world" and you

What happens when you've realised you can't live in this world "This World" basically meaning living your life by only externals which is how todays society runs itself. We are all constantly telling each other to not care what others think of us, but our actions say something different. Particularly in the western world everything is a success failure and a right wrong and there are infinite possibilities of what you would consider a success a failure, a right and a wrong. But this is impossible and leaves everyone split. When people kill themselves they aren't trying to kill themselves. They are trying to kill their conditions and a lot of them realise they cant be who they are and live in todays society with the constant splitting and rules they have learnt. What if you woke up today and you didn't have those conditions. All of what this society has taught you is gone. My guess is you'd be free. You could kill yourself or you could shape your world the way you want to live in it. And it doesn't mean trying to get everyone else to live in your world. I find it incredibly triggering to live in this society and constantly faced with authority and pressures that really have nothing to do with life as a human. I feel like this is just unnecessary suffering. We have seemed to overcomplicate natural feelings and call them "insert mental health term here" Our natural very authentic feelings are a core part of us. Instead in this fake society world that has been conditioned into our brains since childhood has taught us that we either shame, hide or glorify our feelings. Everything is a right or wrong. Feeling is feeling and it's that simple.

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“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

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a reminder

Your needs are just as important as everyone else’s. Repeat. Your needs are just as important as everyone else’s.

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{Healing takes time, don’t give up.}

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{Allow yourself to feel your feelings.}

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Black Dogma | Unclench Your Jaw | Ink Mildly aggressive self care advice for your Monday! 🖤

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{You are not your flaws}

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resist the urge to give up on healing just because it is slow

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It’s never too late to be you

Digital illustration of an older Black fem. They are striking a pose with their hands framing their face. They have a green hair scarf, thick black frame glasses with a dangling chain and are wearing a oversized rainbow wrap sweater. There’s text that reads, ‘it’s never too late to come out.’