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like people forget that weird girls grow into weird adult women. it doesn't just go away. and no you don't perish when you turn 25 or automatically turn into a nonweird wife and mother like some kind of Pokémon end evolution, you end up like me.

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I had a dream last night that I had transitioned. I was hanging out with guys as a guy. And I was happy.

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i have midterms tomorrow and here i am 

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I cannot make any more lemonade from all these damn lemons! I don't have enough sugar!!

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I’ve been away from home for a few weeks since coming out to my husband about transitioning. I came home the other day and I’ve finally gotten mostly settled back in; it hasn’t seemed like anything has changed.

And yet.

He said to me today that he has no intention of leaving and wants to support me through this transition. If true, it’s a pretty big paradigm shift.

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hey i saw in your bio that you're nb, can you tell me which slurs a transphobe might call you if they wanted to bash your head in? i need to know if i should treat you as transfem lite or ciswoman lite

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Imagine if there was someone using they/them pronouns and every time someone asks them why they do that, like isn't that a plural, they just look at the asker with the most deadpan expression and say "my parents were really poor when I was growing up. They couldn't afford to get us all our own pronouns so me and my siblings all had to share."

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anti-imperialists of catan

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i think all straight people should try being a little bisexual just to see how they feel about it. i dont even mean physically i just mean like. stare a photos of hot men for a bit. watch gay porn. deeply consider the potential of reconnecting with your childhood best friend who you kind of lost touch with despite how close you used to be, leading to a long slowburn romance in which you rediscover the things you love about eachother but don't want to commit in case it ruins your friendship. its called exploring your options ok.

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people seem to be forgetting that "you don't need to transition medically to be trans" was born out of a time when blair white was the most popular trans person online. when the overwhelming zeitgeist was "you need to have bottom surgery, top surgery, ffs/fms, you need to be skinny (and white) you need to xyz to be really trans. if you dont do all of these things you are a faker who just wants attention." I remember there was a whole scandal about non-binary people entering in a binder swap program were accused of "stealing resources of trans men" because "these theyfabs aren't even going to transition anyway why are they taking all of our binders"

"you don't need to transition medically to be trans" was and is a response to virulent exclusionary transmedicalism. and it is not in opposition to "we need to make HRT and surgery available to anyone who seeks it"

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Fixed it.

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houseplant type friend

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Lady Oscar (1979)