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Happy pride month to fellow systems with "it's complicated" genders and orientations.

To those who say "fuck it" and simplify it down, and to those who say "fuck it" and hoard as many labels as possible.

To those with some alters who love labels and others who wish to be unidentified or use umbrella terms.

To systems who've collectively transitioned or had their orientations change because of their systemhood.

Happy pride!

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Using IFS to build my own mlm army

The three phase approach:

Step 1: split

Step 2: ??? Stop splitting now?? Please?

Step 3: profit?? Please tell me there's at least profit

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system whose collective name is james and all their alters are named jame (singular form of james)

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It can be a bit difficult at times to explain how our weird little soupy subsystem exists and functions within our overall system, so to provide a bit of a visual aid, we made a quick... comic? Infographic? Whatever this is!

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"Dissociation" as a term is kind of in a weird position compared to a lot of other medical terms that slowly enter public knowledge, because people expect it to be misused like OCD and delusions and so on; they assume people are using it for situations where it doesn't apply, that they are "watering down" an important concept. But the thing with dissociation is no, all these people who are using the term "dissociation" lightly are also using it correctly.

Zoning out is a form of dissociation. Daydreaming is a form of dissociation. Dissociation covers a lot of different things, from complex disorders to everyday behavior. People aren't "misusing a serious term" when they describe these experiences as dissociation, and they aren't hurting anyone who experiences more severe forms of dissociation by doing so. I'm not offended when people without DID describe their daydreams as dissociation, I'm happy that they can recognize there are healthy and everyday forms of dissociation, and so when they encounter dissociation in the context of trauma or a disorder, it hopefully won't be as scary to them.

This is a "yes and" situation, not a "no but" situation. Yes, zoning out is a form of dissociation! And this is how I experience "zoning out" as someone with a dissociative disorder! I'm glad you now have a better understanding of medical terminology and will hopefully be able to better understand any medical texts you come across in the future

If you're looking for people misusing "dissociation", I assure you there are still plenty of people who associate any mention of it with senseless violence. How about we tackle that first before deciding the word for a spectrum can only be used to describe the most extreme forms of it

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being frontstuck feels like a free trial version of being a singlet except it’s cluttered with ads.

- 🥀

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I love just saying "you're plural boy" in response to alterhumans being like "anyone else have their kins talk to them in their brain" like, I don't even feel the need to write a full "oh um maybe you might be a BIG SCARY SYSTEM.... look at 10 different essays now....." I'm just like. yeah that's plural. and I move on with my day. and yes, I do unironically feel like this is how plurality should largely be treated.

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Think systems with a high number of fictional introjects are a new phenomena? Kluft's paper on polyfragmented/extremely complex DID from 1988 includes a patient with LOTR introjects, and another based off of Shakespear's Tempest. Fictional introjects have been a thing for a very long time!

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How bad do you all have it in the shared "I bought the snack and someone else swiped it when I wasn't fronting" experience of plurality? (/Silly)

Personally i think it's extremely funny when someone gets a snack and then another alter fronts by accident/because of something completely unrelated and they're just like "Oops,"

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not what I was going to write . but fine

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its like a gacha pull talking to my plural wife i might get the one who usually fronts but there are the rarer ones also . dormant ones would be a legendary but i havent seen those

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Mods, unlatch his autoproxy.

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... no... should I..?

Game idea: what do you think they have in common? Wrong answers only

My guess, hard, slimy core theory

Because big seed in the middle

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*holding the Pluralizer 5000 behind my back* nice character you got there. mind if i borrow them real quick.

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I’m a little too tired to figure out what my words here are but—

A person is not ableist for doing something that makes your struggles harder.

Like, for instance: folks who can’t type with proper grammar/spelling in servers I’ve been in. There’s loads of folks who do not have English as a first language in servers I’m in, and people who have delays with English speaking, and people who have to use alternative methods of speaking.

When I see broken English, it often makes me anxious. It reminds me of my abusive father for Reasons. It frustrates me and makes The Tism go Brrr.

Are they ableist for not speaking English? I mean, it’s triggering me, right???

Obviously, the answer is no. But this connects to so many different ideas surrounding conflicting needs. To go a few steps further:

Those who use pluralkit or other proxy bots aren’t ableist, even tho it gives me migraines.

Those who use AAC emojis aren’t ableist, even if others can’t read it.

Those who cannot write alt text due to whatever reason are not ableist towards those who need alt text.

Is this tracking? Is this anything? /genq

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this is kind of shit but like. you get it right