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“Try it right now. In the next moment, choose a thought that feels good, such as… ✓admiring the beauty of a tree outside your window ✓appreciating the love and support of a good friend ✓delighting in your child, grandchild, or pet ✓relishing a recent accomplishment ✓dreaming of “Won’t it be wonderful when…” When you can’t seem to find a thought that really feels good, find a thought that at least feels better, such as… ✓accepting that it’s okay to cry ✓realizing you probably won’t remember this pain five years from now ✓you don’t have to do anything right now… but just be ”

Excerpt From 8 to Great MK Mueller https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewBook?id=0 This material may be protected by copyright.

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“The message is consistent: your life is like it is because of what you choose to think about, focus on and believe in.”

Excerpt From 8 to Great MK Mueller https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewBook?id=0 This material may be protected by copyright.

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“As you grasp the concept of the Power Pyramid, more and more aspects of your life will start to make sense. For example, you’ll see that “5” and “95” personalities do not choose to be around each other. When we’re “5-ing” and having a bad day, and come across a “95-er” who is having a great day, we tend to write them off, label them as fake, or assume they’re just “lucky.” Not only that, but when we look at the “what goes around” principle, it’s clear that because there is a smaller circumference at the top, what goes around (the good stuff) comes around faster up there. When we’re choosing thoughts that feel good, what we desire shows up quickly. We often call those manifestations “luck,” “coincidence”, or “miracles.” But this wonderful power we’ve been given by our Creator is not random. It’s at work every moment of every day. Success is not the way to happiness. Happiness is the way to success. — Albert Schweitzer”

Excerpt From 8 to Great MK Mueller https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewBook?id=0 This material may be protected by copyright.

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We hear what we want to

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刻意冷靜

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John Watson:

(turns to Mary) You. What have I ever done? Hmm? My whole life, to deserve you?

Sherlock Holmes:

Everything.

John Watson:

(steps towards Sherlock threateningly) Sherlock, I told you. Shut up.

Sherlock Holmes:

No, I mean it. Seriously. Everything, everything you've ever done is what you did.

John Watson:

Sherlock, one more word and you will not need morphine.

Sherlock Holmes:

You were a doctor who went to war. You're a man who couldn't stay in the suburbs for more than a month without storming a crack den, beating up a junkie. Your best friend is a sociopath who solves crimes as an alternative to getting high. That's me, by the way. (waves hand) Hello. Even the landlady used to run a drug cartel.

Mrs. Hudson:

(surprised) It was my husband's cartel. I was just typing!

Sherlock Holmes:

(offhandedly) And exotic dancing.

Mrs. Hudson:

(insulted) Sherlock Holmes, if you've been YouTubing--

Sherlock Holmes:

(losing patience) John, you're addicted to a certain lifestyle! You're abnormally attracted...to dangerous situations and people, so is it truly such a surprise that the woman you've fallen in love with conforms to that pattern?

John Watson:

(voice breaking) But she wasn't supposed to be like that. Why is she like that?

Sherlock Holmes:

Because you chose her.

John Watson:

Why is everything...always...MY FAULT!?!? (kicks a chair aside ferociously)

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Dr. John Watson: I don't understand.

Charles Magnussen: You should have that on a t-shirt.

Dr. John Watson: [... much later] I still don't understand.

Charles Magnussen: And there's the back of the t-shirt.

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The problems of your past are your business. The problems of your future are my privilege.

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“瓦伦达效应”其实非常简单：过度紧张带来的压力，摧毁了长期训练所形成的无意识反应能力。所谓“熟能生巧”，当出现某些意外情况的时候，一个技巧熟练的人会下意识地做出正确的应对——这并不是运气，而是在日常训练中获得的潜意识记忆。

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因此，与一般社会心理学理论所提倡的“不要在意他人看法”的观点相反，“镜中我效应”指出，每个人的“自我观”，都是通过与他人的相互作用形成的。

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"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style."

Maya Angelou

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“But that truth does not go deep enough—not if I am to discover the meaning of “way closing” behind me. I was fired because that job had little or nothing to do with who I am, with my true nature and gifts, with what I care and do not care about. My resort to adolescent rebellion reflected that simple fact.

Obviously, I should have dealt with my feelings more directly and exercised more self-control. Either I should have quit that job under my own steam or settled in and done the work properly. But sometimes the “shoulds” do not work because the life one is living runs crosswise to the grain of one’s soul. ”

Excerpt From: Parker J. Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak”. Apple Books. 

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“But in the moment she sat down at the front of the bus on that December day, she had no guarantee that the theory of nonviolence would work or that her community would back her up. It was a moment of existential truth, of claiming authentic selfhood, of reclaiming birthright giftedness—and in that moment she set in motion a process that changed both the lay and the law of the land. Rosa Parks sat down because she had reached a point where it was essential to embrace her true vocation—not as someone who would reshape our society but as someone who would live out her full self in the world. She decided, “I will no longer act on the outside in a way that contradicts the truth that I hold deeply on the inside. I will no longer act as if I were less than the whole person I know myself inwardly to be.”

Excerpt From: Parker J. Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak”. Apple Books.

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“By surviving passages of doubt and depression on the vocational journey, I have become clear about at least one thing: self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others. Anytime we can listen to true self and give it the care it requires, we do so not only for ourselves but for the many others whose lives we touch.”

Excerpt From: Parker J. Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak”. Apple Books.

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“It was right for me to leave the university. But I needed to do it for the wrong reason—“the university is corrupt”—because the right reason—“I lack the gifts of a scholar”—was too frightening for me to face at the time.

Eventually, I was able to get off that white horse and take an unblinking look at myself and my liabilities. This was a step into darkness that I had been trying to avoid—the darkness of seeing myself more honestly than I really wanted to. But I am grateful for the grace that allowed me to dismount, for the white horse I was riding back then could never have carried me to the place where I am today: serving, with love, the academy I once left in fear and loathing.

“Today I serve education from outside the institution— where my pathology is less likely to get triggered—rather than from the inside, where I waste energy on anger instead of investing it in hope. This pathology, which took me years to recognize, is my tendency to get so conflicted with the way people use power in institutions that I spend more time being angry at them than I spend on my real work.

Once I understood that the problem was “in here” as well as “out there,” the solution seemed clear: I needed to work independently, outside of institutions, detached from the stimuli that trigger my knee-jerk response.”

Excerpt From: Parker J. Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak”. Apple Books.

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“Though I taught for two years in the middle of graduate school, discovering that I loved teaching and was good at it, my Berkeley experience left me convinced that a university career would be a cop-out. I felt called instead to work on “the urban crisis.” So when I left Berkeley in the late sixties— a friend kept asking me, “Why do you want to go back to America?”—I also left academic life. Indeed, I left on a white horse (some might say a high horse), full of righteous indignation about the academy’s corruption, holding aloft the flaming sword of truth. I moved to Washington, D.C., where I became not a professor but a community organizer.

What I learned about vocation is how one’s values can do battle with one’s heart. I felt morally compelled to work on the urban crisis, but doing so went against a growing sense that teaching might be my vocation. My heart wanted to keep teaching, but my ethics—laced liberally with ego—told me I was supposed to save the city. How could I reconcile the contradiction between the two?

Georgetown University offered me a faculty post—one that did not require me to get off my white horse altogether: “We don’t want you to be on campus all week long,” said the dean. “We want you to get our students involved in the community. Here’s a tenure-track position involving a minimum of classes and no requirement to serve on committees. Keep working in the community and take our students out there with you.”

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“ I had been driven more by the “oughts” of the urban crisis than by a sense of true self. Lacking insight into my own limits and potentials, I had allowed ego and ethics to lead me into a situation that my soul could not abide. I was disappointed in myself for not being tough enough to take the flak, disappointed and ashamed. But as pilgrims must discover if they are to complete their quest, we are led to truth by our weaknesses as well as our strengths. I needed to leave community organizing for a reason I might never have acknowledged had I not been thin-skinned and burned-out: as an organizer, I was trying to take people to a place where I had never been myself—a place called community. If I wanted to do community-related work with integrity, I needed a deeper immersion in community than I had experienced to that point.

I am white, middle-class, and male—not exactly a leading candidate for a communal life. People like me are raised to live autonomously, not interdependently. I had been trained to compete and win...But something in me yearned to experience communion, not competition ...

So I took a yearlong sabbatical from my work in Washington and went to a place called Pendle Hill outside of Philadelphia. Founded in 1930, Pendle Hill is a Quaker living-and-learning community of some seventy people whose mission is to offer education about the inner journey,...

Though I felt called to stay at Pendle Hill, I also feared that I had stepped off the edge of the known world and was at risk of disappearing professionally.

I’ll tell you what I was doing: I was in the craft shop making mugs that weighed more and looked worse than the clay ashtrays I made in grade school, and I was sending these monstrosities home as gifts to my family. My father, rest his soul, was in the fine chinaware business, and I was sending him mugs so heavy you could fill them with coffee and not feel any difference in weight!

Family and friends were asking me—and I was asking myself—“Why did you get a Ph.D. if this is what you are going to do? Aren’t you squandering your opportunities and gifts?” Under that sort of scrutiny, my vocational decision felt wasteful and ridiculous; what’s more, it was terrifying to an ego like mine that had no desire to disappear and every desire to succeed and become well known.

Did I want to go to Pendle Hill, to be at Pendle Hill, to stay at Pendle Hill? I cannot say that I did. But I can say with certainty that Pendle Hill was something that I couldn’t not do.

Excerpt From: Parker J. Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak”. Apple Books.