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The gift of 1s

1s excel at making the chaos of the unconscious into something structured and clear which people can understand, and then use as a framework to better their lives.

8s are the opposite of 1s. 8s excel at tearing down structure and/or escaping structure in order to plunge themselves into the unknown. The reason 8s become fixated on Lust where they struggle to feel like anything is ever enough, is because they are missing the Competency-based ability to create and form structure. All of the insight that 8s gain from their adventures and their fearless exploration of the chaotic underworld, end up wasted and meaningless, because the 8 cannot order any of it into a structure that makes any of it concrete and meaningful and lasting. The adventurousness and chaoticness of the 8 is even stronger in 7: the integration point of 1. Perhaps so many 1s envy 8s and mistype as 8s because they’re actually envying 7s, and it is a real bitch to tell 7s and 8s apart if you don’t understand typology deeply.

Unlike 8, 1 already has the ability and the motivation to create order and structure — it’s what they do. What fucks up the 1 is the emotional inability to stomach the ambiguity and chaos of life. Many 1s live chaotic lives, full of sex and drugs and parties. But what makes them 1s is that psychologically, they cannot handle the ambiguity of other people, the ambiguity of the human condition and human belief systems, the ambiguity of the psyche, the ambiguity of anything, without feeling ANGER and FRUSTRATION and a wealth of other intense emotions. The struggle for 1s is learning to get in touch with their shameful emotions of anger and frustration — and deeper down, their shame and sense of inadequacy. 1s feel they are somehow too inadequate inside to handle a chaotic life’s challenges, regardless of how untrue this is.

all the 1s I know have the “shamanistic” trait of 4. They are seeking to find what kind of person you really are — they envision the best, most perfect version of you, the way they envision the perfect version of themselves — and then try to help you to embody this version of yourself. 1 and 4 suffer from a problem where they can become too emotionally attached to abstract ideals about who everyone really is, including themselves. For example, the 1 might think you are a pianist deep down and become offended when this isn’t who you actually are deep down. This problem of idealizing people in hyper-specific, detailed archetypal ways originates from 4, and 1 inherits it from their disintegration line.

1s become fucked up when they refuse to embrace ambiguity, chaos, expansive thinking and subjectivity, each represented by one or both of their lines (1 -> 4) (1 -> 7). The belief systems and structures they form in attempt to seek meaning and give others meaning, turn out to be meaningless and reductive. 1s reduce reality to the five senses — the opposite of their original goal, which was to give mankind true meaning that allows him to expand his consciousness, 1 -> 7 — because they are filled with rage and anger and shame when forced to confront a more complex reality. I’m too tired to whip it out now but Modern Man in Search of a Soul by Carl Jung (he is a 1, btw!) has some excellent quotes which explain this phenomena, of religion becoming reductive and meaningless because the pastors (who are probably also 1s) are too scared to explore the chaotic and ambiguous unconscious full of fantasies.

1s are known for establishing and running religious institutions, because it is the calling of the 1 to provide meaning to other people’s lives.

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I'm removing type from my bio. I'm sick of the primitive narcissistic way people use enneagram and I'm not even going to be polite about it anymore. If you know anything about this shit you know that you're supposed to work on ALL your ego fixations, all nine of them. Go read Almaas. Most of all you're supposed to balance all nine lines that exist inside of you which basically represent all your fragmented warring selves. Enneagram is a powerful healing tool when used right because it allows you to better visualize the fragments of your personality that are struggling with each other and need to be unified to make you whole. or as MPD therapists call it, "integrated".

I'm much more interested in that than going in circles debating how people shallowly perceive me over the internet. Or shallowly trying to perceive other people over the internet. Stop this obsession with how you are perceived. It's navel-gazing self conscious 4 bullshit that has become the promoted norm in this community. No wonder everybody is "mistyping" themselves as 4s, you have to be a walking dysfunctional 4 case who is obsessed with categorizing how others perceive you in order to fit in to this community at all. Stop looking for your true type. Stop thinking your One True Type even exists, cuz it probably doesnt. Start living life without the idea of type in your head and then during reflection time you can use the enneagram framework to see if you find patterns in your behaviors and feelings, and the behaviors and feelings of others. You'll find heaps. Remember if there is no movement, ie if you're saying something is "3" but there is no wing action, and no 9 or 6 movement to back it up and connect it back to the whole, your observation is kind of meaningless.

People are holding back so much authenticity in this community because they're scared of getting retyped if some sanctimonious wanker puritan typologer thinks that one thing they said is out of line with the way they were previously typed. It's such a shame because we draw the most typological insight when we are being totally authentic about our experiences and allowing ourselves to speak whatever comes up and relate to whatever comes up, which could really be fucking anything. When we limit ourselves to one core type or one tritype or one xwx xwx xwx, we make our scope of self realization so needlessly limited. The only people this serves are neurotic, narcissistic busybodies on the internet with a terribly unbalanced 1-4 line who want to turn everyone into a caricature for the sake of their own fragile, self-serving ideologies.

The truth is we have all nine types in us and we will exercise all of them at different moments. it's unhealthy image type nonsense (specifically unhealthy 1-4 line nonsense, also 5/6 resistance of ambiguity you're guilty too) to believe otherwise.

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masterpost | instinct variants

since there’s been a rennaissance of mbti in kpop, i’ll introduce you to a related personality typing tool that might interest you. instinct variants! 

the three instincts in this system are commonly combined with the mbti to further specify/subtype it (hence it’s called ‘variant’) and, maybe you’ve heard of it, one’s enneagram personality type. but you can also type yourself or others separately, it’s not 100% tied to it. this post will introduce the typology on its own so you can apply it however you want.

:: why “instincts”? because these archetypes indicate the person’s priority in life to secure their well-being, survival, and self-fulfillment. it’s about human instinct, orientation, what compels you. 

🍓if you like motivation psychology, this is a great basic way to find out and categorize what drives you/someone. it’s absolutely eye-opening.

Keep reading

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Probably 614 or 164

I can't tell between ennea 1 and autism rigid black and white morality sometimes

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OPLA

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this panel is so sad omfg. they would've understood each other like no other

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AHN BO HYUN AND BP JISOO??????

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dear god just saw a podcast located inside a library if this happened to me irl I would commit a war crime... A library??? My place of worship???

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anyone else just woke up one day and realized that our time on this earth is limited and that they really really really want to live despite every bad thing that happens and proceeded to have a break down or is it just me

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maybe life is all about waking up every day and trying to learn how to appreciate the beauty of the world without allowing the ugliness of everything that has happened to me in the past to interfere with it

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ngl gotta appreciate this man's dedication

that looks like a minimum of 3 hours of straight calling

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when your mortal enemy begrudgingly calls you everyday just to make sure you're still alive enough for them to kill you <3

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Eunyung and Haejoon have the most romantic platonic enemies to friends tale of all time 🥰😘😍

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there is no known universe where baek eunyung ISNT an asshole but there is one where he isn't traumatized and when the AI tech overlords have finally made it possible for me to transmit my consciousness into the no home webtoon in this particular universe only then will i finally rest

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am fully updated with no home now 💖 finished it yesterday and this is definitely the scene that stays with me

LOVE these lil guys. also, this series gave me insane whiplash because it dropped the comedy tag real fast then hurtled into a drama/angst coming-of-age.

i maintain that it feels like skip to loafer, except evil because (1) the kids tend to be actively troubled in more dangerous ways; (2) messy crass teenage years; (3) my feelings hurt after reading this

eunyung and haejoon definitely are soulmates(derogatory) to me