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Helloo!! I'm wondering if there's any term that's kinda like aegogender but for just... the entirety of your own attraction?

Like, I still feel attraction. I just don't bother to label it because it feels disconnected from me. It's like this little entity that feels separate from the actual me-

I've tried using unlabeled as well but it just doesn't fit me. So I'm wondering if there's anything like this?

Also, I do know about aegoromantic & aegosexual, but neither accurately explain it either. I'm not on the aroace spectrum, so that's one thing.

I just don't know!! My orientation and attraction is just a little thing I can hold and it's just something I experience but it's not *me* nor is it my identity so I don't know like is there any label for that at all???

~ @starryfield-sys ( 🖍️ )

( yes this is meant to be posted off anon so i can get alerted like extra fast cuz sometimes the mentions don't notify me T×T )

Hello!

The main term that comes to mind is cass-(sexual/romantic/etc.)—someone who is indifferent to the idea of sexuality/romantic orientation/etc. and believes it not to be an important part of their identity. I found cassattractional (someone who is cass for all attraction types)

The other term that could potentially fit is pomo-(sexual/romantic/etc.)—someone who doesn’t fit or denies any labels for a particular type of attraction

If neither of those seem right, feel free to send in another ask and I can do a deeper dive!

@starryfield-sys

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Queer Dictionary Update 17/05/25

Major update: added hyperlinks throughout the dictionary, for example if in the definition of a gender term it references "epicinity" and the word is underlined, you can click on "epicinity" and it will take you to that term in the dictionary.

Other things:

Added a handful of new terms throughout

Fixed a few terms with incorrect definitions or flags

Fixed a few grammatical errors

You can find the dictionary carrd here:

Feel free to send in any asks with questions about the dictionary or if there is any incorrect information/flags! (Just be respectful about it)

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Hi, I'm questioning my gender and I'm VERY lost, I think the closest label I found for now is gender apathic because I just feel like me, I don't experience gender dysphoria, but I do experience gender euphoria, but it's very little and I don't even know what I want to become, I'm not really unhappy, but I want to be perceived as androgynous, idk it's just weird

Also my pronouns change with language? Probably not important but it's there

Hello!

In terms of only feeling like "yourself" gender wise, there is egogender (a xenogender where the only way to describe one’s gender is simply as oneself)

There is also genderqueer (anyone whose gender is "queer" or has a non-normative experience with gender)

Not every non-cis individual experiences gender dysphoria or euphoria, and pronouns don't necessarily align with gender, and some cis individuals experience gender euphoria (although generally not in the same way as non-cis individuals). You mentioned not knowing what you want to "become", which if you mean that in a gender sense, many, if not most, people don't necessarily "become" their gender; they simply are their gender. If you mean "become" in the sense of transitioning, not all non-cis people transition, and the way you transition doesn't necessarily have to align with your gender identity. All of this is to say I can't really give anything else with what you've described, because none of it necessarily describes a certain gender experience--it moreso describes your experience with and how you perceive gender /nm /npa.

Good luck on your gender journey!

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Is there a gender relating to feeling like you are just a "blob of gender"? like all genders at once but also some feel more "potent" if that makes sense? also is there a gender for just feeling like everything at once? not just gender but like.. everything. Like the whole universe? Sorry if that doesnt make sense ;-;

Hello!

I was able to find a few terms that could potentially fit:

Blobgender - A xenogender where your gender just feels like a blob

Blobgender (alt def) - A gender that cannot be clarified/defined 100%. It's like a blob: it feels blurry, fuzzy, hazy, irregular, odd, etc. Or it can be defined as a blob on one's gender, a blob that confuses/blurs one's gender or gender identity

Everythinggender - A gender related to the concept/idea of everything

Everythinggender (alt def) - A xenogender that pertains to and encompasses everything

Omnigender - Definitions vary but specifically the one where an individual experiences all/almost all genders but each part may feel different in intensity

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Sorry if this is kinda messy,,,im just having a bit of trouble with my identiry

It's like being gay in the way a man/nb likes a man/nb and having a male preference but also not minding liking girls, like, i dont mind liking girls in b oy way but its much more comfy in the genderless way,,,

Sorry if this doesn't make sense,,,thank you in advance!

Hello!

The most similar term I found was courpalian (someone who is nblnb, nblw, nblm, mlm, and mlnb but not mlw)

Other terms that could potentially fit are

Azalian - An agender/genderless individual that is attracted to women and/or women-aligned individuals, exclusively or not

Agenirian - Someone who is aglw; an agender individual that is attracted to women, exclusively or not

Azurian - Someone who is mlm and nblm and prioritizes their attraction to men over other attractions they may have

Opalian - Someone who is mlm, mlnb, nblm, and nblnb and prioritizes their attraction to nonbinary individuals and men over other attractions they may have

Torico - Someone who is most commonly attracted to men, frequently attracted to nonbinary people, and rarely attracted to women

Toro - Someone who is primarily attracted to men and nonbinary people and can sometimes attracted to women, although it is unlikely

Lilacean - QLM; queer attraction to men

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ohh great!! tytytyy for turning media on, i really needed help-

im prettyy sure i saved it from pinterest but i have no idea and reverse image searching has resulted in zero help 💔

thank you sm for the help!!

Hello!

I was able to find it: ambonecflux (A gender identity where one identifies as male, female, both, neither and fluctuates between them)

@tommy-x3

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Are there any genders that call forth images of slime? I relate heavily to genderfluidity, however my gender feels more like a slow moving liquid rather than a fast moving one.

Hello!

The only term I could find that was related to slime in the way you described is slimegender (a form of fluidflux/genderfluid where all of one's genders feel like differently gendered slimes mixing together, with different combinations and amounts coming to the surface at different times)

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is there a label for someone whose gender identity changes depending on their emotional state? like, feeling genderless when they’re sad, feeling masc when they’re happy, etc.

Hello!

The primary term I found is emotugender (someone whose gender is fluid or fluctuating and is affected by one's emotions, mood, or state of mind)

For feeling genders when happy or sad, I found:

Joygender - A xenogender connected to joy, happiness, or similar emotions; one could feel that their gender fluctuates while experiencing these emotions, their gender is only felt while experiencing these emotions, or they feel as joy and happiness are an important part of their gender

Tristegender - A xenogender connected to sadness, disappointment, or similar emotions; one could feel that their gender fluctuates while experiencing these emotions, their gender is only felt while experiencing these emotions, or they feel as sadness is an important part of their gender

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Is there a label for somebody who is polyamorous and monogamous at the same time? Like, I wouldn't prefer being in a relationship with one person over being in a polycule.

Hello!

There are a few terms that could potentially fit:

Ambiamorous - Someone who can enjoy both monogamy and polyamory and has little to no preference between the two

Monpoly/polymono - Someone who can enjoy both monogamy and polyamory and may have a preference for one over the other

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are there any other terms like queerplatonic? essentially any label for being in some kind of relationship/ wanting a relationship that isn’t romantic or sexual but is not simply platonic? sorry if this is too vague

Hello!

The primary term that comes to mind is alterous (a form of emotional attraction that is not necessarily platonic, but not romantic in nature)

Some other, similar terms are:

Exteramo Attraction - A form of attraction that is neither platonic nor romantic nor anywhere between them

Amical Attraction - A form of emotional attraction that is like a "best friends" or sibling-like relationship; it is described as similar to platonic attraction/friendship, but is on a higher affinity

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helloo, uhh im struggling to find the definition of a flag but your asks have images off so im not entirely sure how i should ask💔 is there a way you'd like me to send it? /genq /nm

Hello!

I didn't realize I had asks with media turned off—you should be able to send in the image of the flag now!

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Hello

I found the label Aegogender but I don't know if there's another label that fits me better

I don't feel I have a gender but I also feel there's my agab like it's there but I can see it 'cause I'm disconnected from my gender, but I think I'm not cis by default 'cause if I wake up being a male I would care, I like being female but I think it's 'cause I'm AFAB

Hello!

I found some labels other than aegogender that could potentially fit:

Cisgenderless - Someone who defaults to their AGAB due to a lack of a gendered feeling

Intrafeminine - Someone who is AFAB and is not cis but has a similar experience to that of cis women (specifically the third example: Being AFAB and feeling that their gender identity is heavily influenced by femaleness or femininity) Cassgender - Someome who may or may not experience a gender identity, but feels that it is unimportant

Cassgirl - Someone who identifies as female or female aligned, but considers their gender identity unimportant

Greygender - Someone who is not entirely without a gender, but is it not entirely “with” a gender either; someone who has a strong ambivalence toward their gender identity; someone who has a gender but it is weak, undefinable, not felt most of the time, and/or one isn’t invested in it

Genderfaint - Someone who has a gender but it’s very hard to feel; numb and almost like an empty space but it is there, either undefined and confusing or just too dull to feel it properly, it could feel completely blank, or genderless but you know you have a gender but can't feel it

Demigirl - Someone who identifies partially, but not wholly as a girl/woman

Distaregender - Someone who feels like their gender is distant, far away, hidden, buried, or generally disconnected from oneself in a way that one can't properly feel or appreciate it

Emicis - Someone who feels heavily related to their AGAB, which makes them comfortable with going by cisgender even though they're not cisgender

Cisvenient - Someone who is only cis because it’s convenient

Demicisgender - Someone who identifies partially as their AGAB

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Is there a term for someone who is unlabeled but only for their sexuality and not their gender identity?

Hello!

I couldn’t find a label like you’re describing, but the term “unlabeled” can be used by itself for an unlabeled sexuality alongside a labeled gender identity

An alternative to unlabeled sexuality is pomosexual (someone who denies or doesn’t fit any labels for sexuality)

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Hi there!!!

I was wondering: is there a term like bear or can i just use bear? I call myself one but i dunno if thats okay.

I'm Nonbinary, bi lesbiflux, aroace and i am fat. But I'm not currently super hairy ( hoping kinda that maybe getting on t will help? ) but also i kinda am borderline? Just no beard hair or heavy belly/back hair.

Am i a bear or is there a term for wanting to be one or a term for being a little in between Hairy and Non? iirc Seal is non hairy? Thanks !!!

Hello!

If you feel like you fit the label bear, then that’s fine!

I found two alternate labels that could potentially fit: ursule/urse (a beary nonbinary individual) and exotic cat (someone who wants to gain more body weight and hair like a bear; alternatively, a chubby person who feels like they don't meet the requirements of a bear yet, and therefore do not want to call themselves one)

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Is there a term for someone who only wants to be in a sorta “friends with benefits” relationship? Like, someone who likes being friends with someone, and will also be sexually active with them, but doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with that person?

Hello!

If you are wanting a label for someone who only experiences sexual attraction, not romantic attraction, there is aroallo (someone who is aromantic and allosexual)

If you’re looking for an alternate term for friends with benefits, there is casual relationship and foveo

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okay so this is my friend but he isn’t on tumblr so I’m asking on his behalf

he (male) is sexually attracted to men and for most of his life has only been, therefore identified as gay

when he met his now girlfriend he did start having sexual thoughts abt her but figured he could still be gay since he didn’t think he actually wanted to do it in reality, it was just a fantasy

After like a year of being best friends they kissed “as a joke” and eventually he realized he wanted to date her. he isn’t really sure if it’s romantic or not (quiroromantic?) but he doesn’t care what label applies, he just wants to be with her

so he’s said basically he likes guys and like. a girl. he usually says pan. what labels would apply?

Hello!

I found some labels that could potentially fit in regards to the gender exception:

Perracearomantic - Someone who experiences a rare “gender blindness” to one specific person that is not typically included in their romantic orientation, but the individual does not consider this a change to their romantic orientation

Homoflexible - Someone who is primarily attracted to the same gender but experiences very rare attraction to different genders

Paroromantic - Someone who is arospec towards certain gender(s) and alloro to other gender(s) (for example greyromantic and/or quoiromantic towards women, and alloromantic towards men)

If wanted additional labels from the other parts of your ask (the unsure if it’s romantic or not, not labelling part, etc.) let me know!

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a term related to being bigender but leaning more to one gender than the other? (ex. being bigender between male and female but feeling more like a woman than a man)

Hello!

There were two terms I found that could potentially fit:

Bigenderratio - A static gender where one has two genders that are mixed or intertwined and one gender outweighs the other

Bigendersize - A static gender where one has two distinct, separate genders and one gender outweighs the other