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People really need to realise that “media can affect real life” doesn’t mean “this character does bad things so people will read that and start doing bad things” and actually means “ideas in fiction especially stereotypes about minority groups can affect how the reader views those groups, an authors implicit prejudices can be passed on to readers”

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i cannot for the life of me find that essay about how sterilized, approachable, “nice” literature was used in victorian england to create a cultural imaginary that wholeheartedly ignored the atrocities being committed by the state, but every time i see someone sincerely make the argument that escapist stories are the only moral form of storytelling it rings in my head like a bell. it haunts me. some of y’all actually think that wide-scale erasure is better that attempting to grapple with messy reality in fiction and it’s honestly so exhausting

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Please be nice to yourselves

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I think it’s really important to talk about how different people have different power fantasies.

For example:

For some people, the idea of someone redeeming a villain is a power fantasy.

For other people, the idea of a villain being defeated is a power fantasy.

And for other people, the idea of a character owning their villainy is a power fantasy.

I would argue a lot of fandom conflicts re: villains come from people being unable to see that their fantasies, which put them in control of a narrative (and all three of these are designed to give the author or reader control of the narrative in different ways) are someone else’s horror stories.

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a cosplay cafe where employees are encouraged but not required to dress up

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I wish that ao3 had an option to filter warnings (and tbh certain authors) out like I will never ever want to read it and just seeing it puts me off so much that often I end up closing my browser because that content upsets me so much lmao

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No bitch 

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So I have read several people complaining that they can't be expected to know the "unwritten rules" of fandom. So here's what I wish people knew:

Fanfiction is fiction.

Fictional people are not real.

Fictional people do not have rights.

Fictional people cannot be abused.

Reading or writing about something does not mean the desire to do or support it in the real world.

If I find art upsetting/triggering/disgusting/outraging/unpleasant/squicky/distressing/offensive, it is on me not to read it, not the creators and hosts to remove it.

Curate your own experience. The back buttons exist for a reason.

If you don't trust yourself to do that, get someone you trust to do it for you.

Fandom is an adult space. Adults create and own and host fandom spaces. If minors want to participate, then the onus is on them and their parents/guardians/trusted adults to ensure they participate appropriately, not on strange adults to stop being adults.

You often don't know the assault status or mental health status or neurotype or race or nationality or religion or gender or sexuality or age of a creator or consumer, and they do not have to disclose to you to justify their fantasy.

AO3 is not a safe space. It is not intended to be a safe space. Proceed accordingly.

Just because you don't like something or find it offensive doesn't mean it is a "problem" that "has to be dealt with".

Most characters in anime are not white.

There is no onus on you to reblog or share anything.

Everyone makes mistakes in fandom and is less than their best self sometimes.

Persistent pseudonyms encourage long term relationships.

Ship wars are stupid.

Someone else enjoying things does not impact on your own enjoyment of other things.

Tagging and warning is a courtesy, not a requirement. Assume any fic might contain untagged content.

Rating is an imprecise art, not a science.

Don't hassle IP creators.

Most people who are in fandom are hoping to make connections based on a shared passion.

Trying to profit from transformative fanworks puts us all at risk.

No one is obligated to share your head canon or fanon.

Being kind rarely fails to pay off.

It is okay to block and remove people who make your experience unpleasant. You don't have to placate them. (Learn from my mistakes).

Britpicking is a good thing.

You don't have to justify why you like a canon/pairing/trope/kink. Sometimes navel gazing is fun, but you don't have an obligation to explain yourself, especially to strangers. I share the overwhelming desire to refute an unfair accusation, but the people accusing you are rarely doing so in good faith, so you're batting a losing wicket.

I'm not your Mum. (Well, okay, a very few of you can call me Mum or Mom, but if you are one of them you already know who you are ❤️)

If you aren't mature enough to take responsibility for your online experiences, you aren't mature enough to be in fandom spaces.

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The wifi is out which is fine and not a big deal except it is and I’m experiencing vaguely withdrawal-like symptoms

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Dear girls, be intensely wary of men considerably older than you obsessed with “mentoring” you. They’re most likely trying to groom you. Speaking from experience.

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some 15 year old on their blog: you know i just think it’s wrong to romanticize things like incest and pedophilia and rape and abuse because it’s bad and people read it and then start to think it’s okay or even romantic

hundreds of 30 year old women about to slam this teen using gifs every two words to explain how writing wincest smut actually relates to free speech:

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People age. Thats what time breaks are for. Hell characters in shows even age.

Confession discourse has made it’s way to this blog, and confession asked me to publish these where an audience can see. I’m making no comment on anything, this was just asked of me

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I am really glad that the harassment is finally being called tf out. Cause i’ve been seeing this bs for waaay too long at this point and honestly it is not acceptable behavior.

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Just a quick reminder for everyone:

You are allowed to like villains. 

You are allowed to like characters who have done bad things. 

You are allowed to like characters who are mean, manipulative, abusive, coercive, murderous, or just plain evil. 

Liking a “bad” character is not the same thing as condoning their actions. Villains are fun. It’s genuinely okay to like them! It doesn’t mean you want to be a villain, or that you are a bad person, or that you don’t recognize the issues with what they’re doing. 

There’s this really huge trend in fandom to try to redeem villains, or excuse their behaviors, or make them into woobies who aren’t really doing anything wrong–all for the purpose of being allowed to like them. I think it’s honestly part of the whole ‘purity’ culture (tied in closely with the anti culture)–this idea that you aren’t permitted to be a fan of, write about, or enjoy reading about anything that isn’t 100% ethically sound, and that if you do, you are inherently condoning it.

And like…that’s just bullshit? You don’t have to redeem a character to be allowed to like them. Don’t get me wrong, you absolutely can if you want to, because sympathetic redemption arcs are super fun too, but I just want to throw out the reminder that you really don’t have to. 

You are allowed to like villains as-is. 

You do not have to make excuses for liking villains. You do not have to defend your own moral stances in order to like a villain. You do not have to make up reasons or justify why you like them, or reconcile your own beliefs with your appreciation of them. You do not have to defend yourself against anyone who would try to attack you or your ethical stances just because you like a villain, because you are not doing anything wrong. 

You are allowed to like villains. 

Honestly, the only thing you owe anyone else vis-à-vis liking a villain is to respect the fact that some people don’t, and that is also okay. It is not your responsibility or your place to try to change their mind–but it is also not their responsibility or place to try to change yours, because neither of you is doing anything wrong. 

So, my villain-loving friends, go. Freaking. Nuts. Enjoy the heck out of those maniacal bastards. 

And have fun, everyone. Because that’s what fandom is supposed to be about.

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So go ahead and headcanon the Lieutenants as minors if you want to. However understand exactly what that entails. What you are headcanoning is child soldiers, which are a thing in real life too and it is horrific. You are choosing to put children in a situation where they are trained to fight and kill people. If you are a fan of the Halo franchise as well and have dug into the lore of that you will find that every spartan has been trained since childhood, every single person among the Spartan IIs was kidnapped at around the age of five and then condintioned and trained to fight then augmented to make them super soldiers. Some died during the augmentation process while others didnt but the augmentations cause permanent damage to a percentage. Of they weren’t bad off enough to require being frozen to later fix they were given desk jobs and most of them committed suicide. Same with the ones discharged from the UNSC. So if that is something you want for the lieutenants rather than people seeing them as adults who might be immature or got braces late in life so be it, but understand that the life of a child soldier is hellish and often times worse than that of soldiers who are already adults. Children should not be fighting wars.

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terfs in the discourse tag

We have terfs who admit that ace discourse was their first step towards radfem ideas. We’ve had multiple break downs of how terfs and radfems try to radialize other people by using ace/bi/pan/nb/queer/etc. discourse. We’ve had multiple break downs of how popular exclusionist arguments use the same faulty logic and arguments that radfems use.

Can exclusionists maybe finally admit that this is a problem and either drop the discourse entirely or try to come up with arguments that aren’t copied from radfems?