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i wanna make this really really clear: i do not care at all when someone calls me an acephobe.

comparisons matter. history matters. my grief and rage at the senseless waste of human life that is the United State’s response to the AIDS pandemic matters.

i don’t know if you’ve ever talked to long-term survivors, but i have, and i’ve talked to the gay men and women who lived through the beginning of the crisis. they say it was like a horror movie. everyone was dying. handsome strong men, men who were powerfully alive, men who were only 27, 23, 18 years old, friends and lovers and acquaintances and strangers– 

just vanished. wasted away before your eyes.

my friend tells me a story about when she was born. her mom was living in the gay ghetto of san diego, and the four men in the apartments above, two couples, were all HIV+. one of the men came to visit, and my friend’s mom asked if he would like to hold the baby. he burst into tears. “i can’t believe you’d let me hold her,” he said, “people won’t even shake my hand.”

they’re all dead now. they died one after the other, and my friend’s mom eventually moved to los angeles.

when someone sees that history, stands in the face of it, and can manage to say, “but straight people who don’t fuck have it bad too!” i get a little enraged. when someone can say, “my mom jokes that i’m a plant,” and i say, “the United States wants me dead,” and they call me an acephobe– i get a little enraged.

this is the history of our community. it’s my history. and when you draw a comparison between a lack of visibility and genocide, you are spitting on a grave. thank god that you’ve never needed to bury your dead like we have. 

i recently found out that a trans woman my age, who wrote a scintillating funny blog about sex and HIV and poverty, passed away from AIDS complications. i cried when i heard the news. 

edit: this is OK to reblog

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anyway katie has changed urls to lunalovegood please be careful (callout here)

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Hey guys I decided to make this post because I think it can be for the safety of a lot of people. Katie (used to be tumblr user antiquedolly / frenchwife / babyiestbabydoll) has moved blogs. Idk why but i think she was trying to hide from what she has done. She’s moved to electradrociak. 

tw for: #violence ; #self harm ; #incest ; #pedophilia ; #gaslighting ; #abuse ; #manipulation ; #ddlg mentions ; #suicide ; #rape mention 

just to update people on what she’s done:

romanticized the columbine shooting

fetishized incest and blamed minors for being groomed (she’s not an incest survivor) - here’s my experience with it

distributed child porn to adults -  another post about it

sent self harm gore to me, and then apparently lied about it

victim blamed and gaslighted me for being upset with the images

contacted my rapist + made up lies saying people i was a pedophile and 25 years old (big file)

told someone they were afraid of me “because i was abusive” and then said this

suicide baited a 15 year old

told me that incest turned her on

attempted suicide, which prompted lion to make a post blaming me another user for it (it got a lot of backlash)

also defended lion-against-sjw for saying the N slur when lion isn’t black

as well as is dating a man who does a lot of the similar things, as well as dated a 14 year old at the time 

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Hey guys remember the whole fiasco with the abuser and pedophile @frenchwife? Well she is at @electradrociak now. Block her or whatever to stay safe. Any info about her can be found on our frenchwife tag.

Also her fiance @frenchhusband can be found on @richdeadfuck. He is also very violent and misogynistic and is a pedophile as well. You can go on his tag and see info. Also be careful. His blog has a lot of gore. He also runs the blog @npdadvice so please avoid that blog if you can because it is run by an abusive, misogynistic pedophile.

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No, but remember YOU abused HER. /sarcasm

In case anyone doesn’t believe me

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Abortion Rights

Okay, so I’m taking some downtime from studying combat strategy and PTSD (because I’m a masochist and I write books about this) to watch people be idiots. Since I’m not home and I’m too tired for the social dynamics of reality shows. So some of you might have seen this vid, it’s older, from 2014. It’s what looks like a passive demonstration against abortion, with just a sign or two propped up, no crowds, just a few folks. This gal comes up and gets in their faces, saying they’re white males, have privilege, racist, misogynistic, etc. The usual stuff. Then she says “No uterus, no right to talk about it.” Now let’s hold on just a sec.

You’re telling me a man can’t talk about abortion? Now don’t get me wrong, I’m pro-choice. But I believe BOTH parents should make the choice, unless there’s reason the male can’t be involved. Which happens plenty of times, that’s fine! No big deal, in that case, yes, it’s a woman’s choice. No, I don’t like the idea of abortion, but nor do I like the idea of a child growing up in unfit circumstances, or taken by the state, suffering that system, or any of these circumstances. We see it in animals, if the mom can’t take care of the kid, it dies. We’ve got systems in place and it still doesn’t stop death and suffering of these kids. So no, I won’t tell a woman she can’t have an abortion because it offends my sensibilities.

But let’s be clear, and don’t get it twisted. If the father is a part of the mother’s life (which is vague, I know), HE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE INVOLVED.

If he’s her rapist? Sorry, fuck that shit, man, that’s a case where I AIN’T on your side. You don’t get to talk about her body after you violated it.

But if he’s an ex, he’s her boyfriend, her fuckbuddy, her partner, her husband, or just her friend, if he’s a part of this life he gets a damn say.

His decision doesn’t override a woman’s, that’s so true. But nor do we get to shut down male discourse on the subject. Men do not have the right to DICTATE. They have the right to CONTRIBUTE.

Too many times, the rights of the father are overlooked. It doesn’t matter what his thoughts are, women decide. Hell, if he didn’t want a child but an accident happened (condoms break, and birth control isn’t perfect), then he’s going to be milked for the rest of his life for a child he’s likely not even going to get to see.

This isn’t “male privilege”, to contribute in that discourse. It’s fucking female privilege to get out of all responsibility and claim they have no control over getting pregnant. Like this isn’t 2016 and there aren’t PLENTY of affordable options. No, if you got pregnant and the sex was consensual, and you chose not to use any method of birth control, or ask about using it? No. You don’t get to play the victim.

“Mother Right” is female privilege. And if you think every one of the fucking billions of men in this world just want to knock a woman up and leave, you have a SEVERE distortion of reality. A woman didn’t make that baby on her own, for fuck’s sake, without him, there is no child. THAT’S HIS CHILD.

A man has a right to stand for reproductive issues. I’m pro-choice to hell and back but you don’t get to dictate the discourse any more than a man does.

No penis? NO RIGHT TO TALK ABOUT IT.

Fox out.

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It seems like you're completely ignoring the fact that trans male partners can and do exist. Men do not get the final say, but if they are the woman's partner then it should be a discussion they have together.

Abortion Rights

Okay, so I’m taking some downtime from studying combat strategy and PTSD (because I’m a masochist and I write books about this) to watch people be idiots. Since I’m not home and I’m too tired for the social dynamics of reality shows. So some of you might have seen this vid, it’s older, from 2014. It’s what looks like a passive demonstration against abortion, with just a sign or two propped up, no crowds, just a few folks. This gal comes up and gets in their faces, saying they’re white males, have privilege, racist, misogynistic, etc. The usual stuff. Then she says “No uterus, no right to talk about it.” Now let’s hold on just a sec.

You’re telling me a man can’t talk about abortion? Now don’t get me wrong, I’m pro-choice. But I believe BOTH parents should make the choice, unless there’s reason the male can’t be involved. Which happens plenty of times, that’s fine! No big deal, in that case, yes, it’s a woman’s choice. No, I don’t like the idea of abortion, but nor do I like the idea of a child growing up in unfit circumstances, or taken by the state, suffering that system, or any of these circumstances. We see it in animals, if the mom can’t take care of the kid, it dies. We’ve got systems in place and it still doesn’t stop death and suffering of these kids. So no, I won’t tell a woman she can’t have an abortion because it offends my sensibilities.

But let’s be clear, and don’t get it twisted. If the father is a part of the mother’s life (which is vague, I know), HE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE INVOLVED.

If he’s her rapist? Sorry, fuck that shit, man, that’s a case where I AIN’T on your side. You don’t get to talk about her body after you violated it.

But if he’s an ex, he’s her boyfriend, her fuckbuddy, her partner, her husband, or just her friend, if he’s a part of this life he gets a damn say.

His decision doesn’t override a woman’s, that’s so true. But nor do we get to shut down male discourse on the subject. Men do not have the right to DICTATE. They have the right to CONTRIBUTE.

Too many times, the rights of the father are overlooked. It doesn’t matter what his thoughts are, women decide. Hell, if he didn’t want a child but an accident happened (condoms break, and birth control isn’t perfect), then he’s going to be milked for the rest of his life for a child he’s likely not even going to get to see.

This isn’t “male privilege”, to contribute in that discourse. It’s fucking female privilege to get out of all responsibility and claim they have no control over getting pregnant. Like this isn’t 2016 and there aren’t PLENTY of affordable options. No, if you got pregnant and the sex was consensual, and you chose not to use any method of birth control, or ask about using it? No. You don’t get to play the victim.

“Mother Right” is female privilege. And if you think every one of the fucking billions of men in this world just want to knock a woman up and leave, you have a SEVERE distortion of reality. A woman didn’t make that baby on her own, for fuck’s sake, without him, there is no child. THAT’S HIS CHILD.

A man has a right to stand for reproductive issues. I’m pro-choice to hell and back but you don’t get to dictate the discourse any more than a man does.

No penis? NO RIGHT TO TALK ABOUT IT.

Fox out.

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My favorite part of all of the comments is people completely ignoring what Fox is saying. It is explicitly stated in the post that men should get to contribute, but ultimately DO. NOT. MAKE. THE. FINAL. DECISIONS.

He's not going over anyone's thoughts or feelings saying that men should be able to control women and how they manage their bodies. He's saying that the person has a right to make his opinion know. Whether or not the woman takes it into consideration when she makes her choice is up to her.

Abortion Rights

Okay, so I’m taking some downtime from studying combat strategy and PTSD (because I’m a masochist and I write books about this) to watch people be idiots. Since I’m not home and I’m too tired for the social dynamics of reality shows. So some of you might have seen this vid, it’s older, from 2014. It’s what looks like a passive demonstration against abortion, with just a sign or two propped up, no crowds, just a few folks. This gal comes up and gets in their faces, saying they’re white males, have privilege, racist, misogynistic, etc. The usual stuff. Then she says “No uterus, no right to talk about it.” Now let’s hold on just a sec.

You’re telling me a man can’t talk about abortion? Now don’t get me wrong, I’m pro-choice. But I believe BOTH parents should make the choice, unless there’s reason the male can’t be involved. Which happens plenty of times, that’s fine! No big deal, in that case, yes, it’s a woman’s choice. No, I don’t like the idea of abortion, but nor do I like the idea of a child growing up in unfit circumstances, or taken by the state, suffering that system, or any of these circumstances. We see it in animals, if the mom can’t take care of the kid, it dies. We’ve got systems in place and it still doesn’t stop death and suffering of these kids. So no, I won’t tell a woman she can’t have an abortion because it offends my sensibilities.

But let’s be clear, and don’t get it twisted. If the father is a part of the mother’s life (which is vague, I know), HE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE INVOLVED.

If he’s her rapist? Sorry, fuck that shit, man, that’s a case where I AIN’T on your side. You don’t get to talk about her body after you violated it.

But if he’s an ex, he’s her boyfriend, her fuckbuddy, her partner, her husband, or just her friend, if he’s a part of this life he gets a damn say.

His decision doesn’t override a woman’s, that’s so true. But nor do we get to shut down male discourse on the subject. Men do not have the right to DICTATE. They have the right to CONTRIBUTE.

Too many times, the rights of the father are overlooked. It doesn’t matter what his thoughts are, women decide. Hell, if he didn’t want a child but an accident happened (condoms break, and birth control isn’t perfect), then he’s going to be milked for the rest of his life for a child he’s likely not even going to get to see.

This isn’t “male privilege”, to contribute in that discourse. It’s fucking female privilege to get out of all responsibility and claim they have no control over getting pregnant. Like this isn’t 2016 and there aren’t PLENTY of affordable options. No, if you got pregnant and the sex was consensual, and you chose not to use any method of birth control, or ask about using it? No. You don’t get to play the victim.

“Mother Right” is female privilege. And if you think every one of the fucking billions of men in this world just want to knock a woman up and leave, you have a SEVERE distortion of reality. A woman didn’t make that baby on her own, for fuck’s sake, without him, there is no child. THAT’S HIS CHILD.

A man has a right to stand for reproductive issues. I’m pro-choice to hell and back but you don’t get to dictate the discourse any more than a man does.

No penis? NO RIGHT TO TALK ABOUT IT.

Fox out.

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Alright so you guys know the drama that happened awhile back, that involved Erik posting a picture Kate supposedly peeling skin off of their face horribly? This was February 9th.

Take a look at these selfies that they posted today. (February 11th)

“My face is healed enough that I can wear makeup so I’m instagraming it up tonight“

Why is it that 2 days later this self harm is somehow fully healed? That is NOT how the healing process works, something that bad would’ve been scabbed grossly by now. A scab that could also NOT be covered up by makeup seeing as it’d be puffed upward and visible through makeup.

My point here is that Kate is lying about self harm.

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@outtingfrenchwife

IF YOU’RE SO SCARED OF HIM, WHY WERE YOU “AN INFORMANT”.

None of this adds up.

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Look I understand why you hate tumblr user ran-un-cu-lae (using hashes so it doesnt show on the character tag) but you guys keep sending her really really awful messages telling her to kill herself and that is really shitty. I know her personally, despite being self dxded... she has shown signs of bpd for YEARS and to be honest you guys could hurt her.

I don’t even know who she was until she stuck her nose in business where she doesn’t belong. But I -never- send anon hate. Ever.

I’ll send anons if I’m joking around with a friend or I wanna know something or sending out a nice word.

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Stop sending asks asking about the situation. I’m tired of talking about it and I just want it to die off.

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Look I understand why you hate tumblr user ran-un-cu-lae (using hashes so it doesnt show on the character tag) but you guys keep sending her really really awful messages telling her to kill herself and that is really shitty. I know her personally, despite being self dxded... she has shown signs of bpd for YEARS and to be honest you guys could hurt her.

I don’t even know who she was until she stuck her nose in business where she doesn’t belong. But I -never- send anon hate. Ever.

I’ll send anons if I’m joking around with a friend or I wanna know something or sending out a nice word.

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Did no one bring up that when Frenchwife first told Eddie he scared her, he called her out for "being abusive", then when she came crawling back he immediately erased it and started praising her like that is the cycle of abuse, he berates and ruins her, then praises her when she pleases him, as soon as she leaves he ruins her again. That is how abuse works, this is the abuse cycle in action am I wrong ?

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It's a major symptom of BPD to have unstable relationships, so Frenchwife ending friendships, getting paranoid/afraid and leaving people and generally being unstable and rocky in her interactions with people is kind of to be expected because she is actually Borderline, as you have said. So I don't know why astrangerdream is trying to shit on her for it, or for being afraid of someone at all. That's nothing to beat someone up over.

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At the people accusing you of lying in your post about your friend you don't seem to be the lying type, you never lie on this blog that I've seen and I've been following for a while, and everyone knows sjw cunts are out for blood and everyone knows eddie CONSTANTLY tells people to die so idk why people are suddenly being fucking retarded about this shit, if you say your friend tried to OD I say you friend tried to OD and people should stop being twats about it

Ya. Even when I kept my age a secret, I vague’d it at 20s. Like idk where people get the idea that I lie.

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if you don't mind me asking, what's going on with eddie now? i am way far out of the loop recently.

as usual, my friend dropped him as a friend after a while because they were tired of him copying them and shit. 

so he freaks out and starts talking about hhhoow parannnoid he is because my friend is going to hurt him? like.. 

??

then callout started being made.

so yeah.