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i’m aware that being noticeably angry while i talk about the ways oppression impacts me is an instant ticket to some people just tuning out. i don’t even have to be particularly aggressive for this to happen; just anger that’s identifiable as such makes people not want to care about this shit.

men don’t want to hear how angry women are; abled people don’t want to hear how angry disabled people are; straight people don’t want to hear how angry gay people are. and on and on and on.

it’s offputting. it feels confrontational. it feels like i’m blaming someone for my oppression instead of just gazing around and saying ‘isn’t it unfortunate that some nebulous force has made it so some of us are human and others only conditionally so’

and i get that, i really do. i struggle with being on the other side, with seeing how angry people are about the way they’ve been dehumanised, denied their human rights, treated as lesser in a billion tiny ways by people like me, maybe including me. it’s hard to swallow sometimes.

because none of us want to think this is really real, that this problem is here and now and involves us - you and me specifically. that there’s some culpability to be claimed here by individuals, maybe including us and people we respect. that not every oppressed person is willing to sweetly take us by the hand and inspire us to be better. that we don’t deserve that soft gentleness.

but this is part of the lesson.

to learn to sit with those feelings, with the discomfort of not being catered to in this moment. to hear the rage and misery and pain and fury and to not rush to be comforted or distracted.

to not immediately respond with “but what about ME, i’m better aren’t i, i’m different right? you don’t mean ME, please tell me i’m not part of what makes you feel like this! please reassure me i’m not a bad person.”

to learn to sit with the guilt and shame and discomfort and to learn to listen, really listen and absorb not just the words being conveyed but the fact that the way things are has brought this person to these feelings and to learn to understand that we’ve been part of making this horrible thing happen and to sit with that knowledge and not reject it.

it’s part of the lesson respect someone’s pain and fury that you have been part of causing, to let the conversation be focused on their feelings when you’re so accustomed to them focusing on yours. to connect with them in that human way while they express what they are constantly told they shouldn’t express.

it’s part of the lesson to learn to hear, believe, respect those feelings. it’s part of the lesson to try to understand the kind of work it takes when people do sit sweetly with you and gently explain.

the anger is an honesty worth hearing.

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Tbh if you have a kind of privilege I think you should be able to take some harsh words and criticism from marginalized people. Like, if you're a gringo who just got insulted by a black person, maybe you oughta just shut up instead of feeling sorry for yourself.

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"sorry the empire deemed you as not noteworthy enough to learn about in middle school and in the decade since I have more or less unwaveringly agreed with this assessment"

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i love their interactions so much.

| Batman #37

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(clark wearing glasses on top of the bat cowl is the best part of this issue)

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Asexuality win! Person who repeatedly pressured their ace partner to "compromise" on sex because it was "a necessary part of a healthy relationship" fucking dies. <3

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this does not necessarily have to be your favorite character or the one you'd want to impress most etc. who would truly crush you the most to hear you disappointed them

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"you don't get it, the usa is a fascist country full of government propaganda, and our rights as women and queer people are constantly attacked!! you have no idea what that's like!!" i'm hungarian 👍

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what are you wearing rn and is it representative of your style

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As far as I’m concerned, the single most radical change from journal fandom is the idea that fandom is primarily a space for kids.

*shakes cane* in MY day, teen fans pretended to be adults while we walked uphill both ways!

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“whatever the fuck these two characters had going on” is a vastly underrated character dynamic

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Hello I am once again thinking about the fact that Hollywood hates the fact that Batman is a father

Like. I looked into it today. Robin has literally been with Batman since issue#1, within a year of Batman’s first appearance. As of now, he has six children: Dick, Jason, Tim, Cass, Damian, and Duke. Batman is a father, has always been a father, will probably always be a father.

And yet his reputation in pop culture is ‘he works alone.’ People know, vaguely, about Batman-and-Robin, that they’re iconic. But a lot of people don’t know that Robin is straight-up Batman’s son, because for some reason that never makes it into the movies.

It’s just- such an irrevocable part of his character. Yeah, it doesn’t fit the stereotypes, it makes him less edgy, less hypermasculine, it softens some of his edges. But like- you’re seriously just going to pretend it’s not true?

You don’t even have to write him as a good father. Not everyone thinks he is! I personally might think that’s inaccurate, but it’s a lesser crime than just. Pretending like he would never have kids

It’s just a baffling creative choice. Fatherhood has pretty much always been a cornerstone of Batman’s character, why do people keep taking it out??

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everything. cost money

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unstoppable force (desire to write) vs immovable object (tired)

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I express myself in a variety of ways. some are incomprehensible, some are peculiar, and some break the laws of physics, but that is okay