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If you’re in pain right now, we are here for you 24/7 at 866-488-7386 and thetrevorproject.org. TrevorChat.org is available 3-9pm ET 7 days a week and Trevor Text is available Thurs-Fri 4-8pm ET. Text the word “Trevor” to 1-202-304-1200. Here are some self-care resources. 

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Incredible illustrator @thelatestkate has never been afraid to talk about difficult topics; in the past, she’s shared her personal experiences with depression and leaving her religion, and her courage and candidness are always inspirational to us.

Today, she deals with another serious issue: how to cope if your parents are bullies. Bullying may seem like something that just happens in high school hallways, but it can happen at home, too—and if it’s happening to you, please know that the SparkLife community is always here for you, and that there are places you can turn to for help. 

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You’re still cute if you have acne. You’re still cute if you have scars. You’re still cute if you have stretch marks. You’re still cute if you have birth marks.

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Trying to find something to motivate myself and I found this little line from Van Gogh

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List Plus Size Stores

A

http://www.asos.com/Women/Curve-Size/Cat/pgecategory.aspx?cid=9577

http://www.alwaysforme.com/

B

http://www.barenecessities.com/Plus-Size_catalog_nxs,35.htm

C

http://www.catofashions.com/plus-sizes

http://www.citychiconline.com/index.php/jeans.html

http://carmakoma.com/en/

D

http://dorothyperkins.com/

http://www.dominodollhouse.com/

http://www.debshops.com/Junior-Plus-Size-Clothing/1002,default,sc.html

http://www.drjays.com/shop/G5-V84680-R375/plus-size.html

E

www.evans.co.uk/

http://www.eddyandbri.com/

F

http://www.forever21.com/product/Category.aspx?br=PLUS&category=faith_main

http://www.figleaves.com/uk/ranges/plus-size/

http://www.fashiontofigure.com/

H

http://www.hm.com/us/subdepartment/LADIES?Nr=4294928449

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/

L

http://www.lanebryant.com/

https://www.lucyclothing.ca/

M

http://www1.macys.com/shop/plus-size-clothing?id=32147&edge=hybrid

www.monifc.com

N

http://www.newlook.com/shop/inspire-plus-sizes/view-all-inspire_2030089

http://www.nakimuli.com/nakimuli-plus/

O

http://www.oldnavy.com/products/plus-size-clothing.jsp

http://outlet.lanebryant.com/content.jsp?pageName=FashionBug

P

http://www.1-plus.com/on/demandware.store/Sites-1Plus_CA-Site/default/Home-Page?id=PE

http://www.1-plus.com/on/demandware.store/Sites-1Plus_CA-Site/default/Home-Page?id=AE (different site than above)

S

http://www.style369.com/

www.simplybe.co.uk

http://www.sorellaswim.com/

http://shopruche.com/curvy-plus-sizes-c-178.html

T

http://www.torrid.com/

U

http://www.ullapopken.com/

V

http://www.very.co.uk/

Shoes

Exceptional Footprints (Goes up to size 14)

Barefoot Tess

Zappos

Avenue

Shoe Buy

Shiekk Shoes

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Emi’s Curly Coily, Cotton Candy Hair (2014) 

“Emi is a creative 7-year-old girl with a BIG imagination. In this story Emi shares a positive message about her Curly, Coily, Cotton Candy Hair and what she likes most about it. The vibrant illustrations and fun story teach basic natural hair care techniques and tips in a playful and memorable way.”

By Tina Olajide, Illustrator: Courtney Bernard 

Get it now here and leave a review if you can.

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do urself a solid 2k16: this year should be full of doing favors for ur future self. if ur super tired but u still have homework, outline what u have to do so u can finish it faster in the morning instead of leaving urself with a blank page and more stress. figure out what u wanna wear tomorrow the night before so u have more time in the morning to do others stuff. if u see a snack u like get it and save it so u can have it later when u forgot u even bought it. the best moments are the ones where ur like ¨damn i really came thru for myself.¨ be ur future self’s best fren

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I’m not searching for my other half because I’m not a half.

(via antropophobe)

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You can’t love someone’s mental illness away.

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It is an act of bravery to feel your feelings.

Gayle Forman, I Was Here (via stellanympha)

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the whole “anger is poisonous and bad for u” mindset was created by people who didn’t want to deal w the justified anger directed at them by others

anger is powerful and important, anger is fuel, and only you determine whether or not your anger is good or bad for you

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Watch: There are some horrible stereotypes about curvy shoppers out there — these women are proving them wrong.

In collaboration with @fedex

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tips to help you stop dissociating while driving (based on experience and things that have worked for me):

turn the radio up

sing along to the radio

remind yourself where you are, where you are going and where you are coming from.

if you have your blinker on and it’s making noise try to focus on the sound (sounds weird but it’s helped me stay grounded)

rub the steering wheel with your thumbs, focus on the texture and how it feels (but also keep your eyes on the road of course)

roll the window down

while still trying to stay focused on driving notice the colors of the cars around you, try to find all the red ones

if you start dissociating pretty heavily it would be a good idea to pull over where it will be safe, breathe, tell yourself where you are, start identifying objects around you outside and inside your car, breathe (do any other grounding techniques you might know of) and when you feel safe, safely get back on the road.

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Affirmations For Self Worth

I accept myself for who I am without judgment or criticism.

I accept myself for who I am without fear of rejection from others.   

I accept myself for who I am without fear of judgment and criticism from others. 

I will no longer give my power away to those who try to control and manipulate me. I own my own power and take responsibility for the choices and decisions I make everyday.    

I respect myself.   

I honor the essence of who I am, as my Light shines brightly for all the world to see.    

There are no limits to what I can achieve in my life.    

I release all negative thoughts and will only focus on the positive in my life.     - I will be an inspiration to all of those around me.    

I am able to see each day as an opportunity to make things better.    

I let go of the old me and welcome my new figure without judgment or criticism. 

I honor the wisdom of my soul and I am consciously aware of the choices I make.    

I honor the wisdom of my soul and I will trust in the guidance I am given.   

I believe in myself.

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No offense but if you expect every marginalized person to be well-versed in academic texts and theories regarding their marginalization then you’re ableist and classist, and also just plain annoying. Not everyone can access and understand academic jargon, and not everyone cares to.