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why not trigger tag for unreality ?

( not in answer to anyone in particular , or attempt to stir conversations again - just want to have this for compilation . )

one gripe that still have with discussion of unreality triggers and tags is that ... unreality trigger is not really one solid category .

unreality trigger is not only something which contradict ideas of objective reality - this is just one potential kind of unreality trigger . but anything that can cause question and destabilisation of reality is , for all intents and purposes , unreality trigger .

everyone have different experiences , boundaries , and tolerances . to hear of witchcraft and gods might be unreality trigger for one , while denial of these is unreality trigger to another . pool toys could be unreality trigger to someone . so could minecraft . so on and so forth .

kossai have minor unreality triggers that can spiral if already in bad shape - prefer not to say what those triggers would be , internet safety and all , but these pretty silly and innocuous things to others . no one would consider these to contradict ideas of objective reality , but experiences which kossai go through contextualise these as destabilisers . 

this is why many physical nonhumans push back against trigger tag experiences as unreality , whether consider experience delusion or not , even if that seem cruel . to reinforce that others consider experiences to be unreal and delusional , and that others do not feel comfortable or safe to hear about experiences , is in fact unreality trigger for these folks .

some folks characterise this as selfish refusal to care for others , when really not . to cross lines of what modern world consider objective reality can and will deeply hurt some , this is true . but everyone who peacefully live beyond those lines not cruel to say that ideas of objective reality and classification as delusion just as much of trigger . 

unreality trigger is category as broad as PTSD trigger - these things both sets of mental processes and feelings , which can spur on by any triggers , even ones that contradict common perception of what triggers " should be " .

this is where kossai policy of unreality tags come from . not often come up here anyway - regardless , will tag thought experiments , works of art and fiction , or other posts that deliberately try to play with idea of what is real or not real . but will not tag personal discussions or experiences as unreality .

to draw line of whose experiences get to be reality , and whose experiences must be unreality to hide behind trigger tag , means to decide that only some triggers worth respect - which will hopefully agree , is pretty unfair .

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i had a food and im a bit better now

my head hurts and its hot and im tired and iccant be in my room because its too hot and my sister has the tv on and im going to shoot myself point blank

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my head hurts and its hot and im tired and iccant be in my room because its too hot and my sister has the tv on and im going to shoot myself point blank

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just saw a merle wolfdog im going to eat a fucking tide pod

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head hurtsss :(

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mee n u

yea and then i nom you /j

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we personally use BAH blogs for our fragments and " blank slate " alters with big gaps in identity and self -- understanding . while we cant change the traits of preexisting complex or fully self -- realized alters , we can sometimes trick our brain into filling in empty gaps .

BAH blogs can also help new splits find a sense of self that they may lack or struggle to develop on their own when first splitting . it helps to provide options for how they want to be percieved and label their feelings .

BAH blogs always rubbed the wrong way because they perpetuate the ableist myth that systems control what their alters are like

Idk how to tell you this, but some of us DO control how our headmates are

We've never personally used BAH blogs, but we know *a lot of folks who DO* and their headmates have genuinely found a more stable identity from them. Obv, most hosts do NOT "control" their headmates, however, if a host wants to offer a set of identities to their headmate and their headmate chooses to latch onto that, then.... that's fine ???? That's literally how BAH blogs work, anon, idk if you've actually ever interacted w/ any1 with a BAH blog or BAH-influenced headmates, bc this take is not the disabled advocacy you think it is

How abt we don't assume things abt how other's systems work, bc imo that's the real ableism abt all of this

Any1 who has actually used a BAH blog pls feel free to weigh in on this, bc we're absolutely not an expert on this given we've never used any BAH packs ourselves (however we are def considering it !!! We'd really like our Daan and Mewo fictives to have a more solid hold on their identities, and we think a BAH pack may help them with that)

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my head hurts. remember when the internet was fun

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weve recently taken to making increased eye contact as a form of affection which is quite possibly the most autistic thing ever

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things to do before getting on roblox for 8 hours

remake strawpage

sonadow fankid lol

retheme blog

draw more kinsona + fix his AF description

update toyhouse

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might retheme my blog to brown wolverine theme

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His mind shuts off when he's with big brother

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kinda wanna die cause i have to go to a big baseball game (hot as fuck. loud as fuck. so many people. cant bind bc the sweat will go crazy. sensory nightmare)

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making sonadow fankids bc i dont have a liiiife

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some magma doodles (four themed for some reason)