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Straight up, why is it taken as an insult to say that asexuality is modifier? It's still just as important to your identity if they want it to be but they take it as like you're 'invalidating' them and acting like it doesn't exist and I don't get it at all lol

It’s all because of the identity politics of this website and ace tumblr’s obsession with “validation.”

Tumblr is a rare form of social media because it’s a lot more tuned into SJ AND it’s a blogging site where everyone has a voice. So, a lot of marginalized voices that would otherwise be muted are actually quite boosted here and they’re given value they wouldn’t be otherwise. So, a lot of privileged people are trying to contend with the fact that groups they don’t belong to have formed solidarity, have a humor/culture that they can’t participate in, and can openly hate/mock their oppressors.

White people (myself included, please not I am recognizing my role as a white person), who may have only had a few people of color in their friend group growing up, suddenly have to contend with jokes about white people that aren’t for them. They have to recognize their white privilege. They have bow out of conversations and stay in their lane. And that can be frustrating and make white people feel like they have no culture and groups of their own because they can’t talk about their own experiences that way.

When privileged people’s make jokes about their experiences (ie privilege) and other group’s experiences (ie lack of privileg), that is often punching down. And not okay.

Similarly, cis straight people have to deal with the LGBT community coming together to mock our oppressors and talk about our shared experiences and culture. They have to recognize their cis and straight privilege. They aren’t allowed in the conversation and they KNOW we’re uncomfortable when they laugh along with our jokes as if they aren’t about them.

On a website where being marginalized actually in some ways offers MORE solidarity and friendship and attention and “fun” because we’re laughing over our shared experiences, it can make someone feel left out and uncultured. Like… there is no “white culture” and there is no “straight culture.” At least, to white and straight people it feels that way because they’re so catered to my mainstream culture that they don’t even know they’re being catered to.

White people can’t ever really negate their whiteness to get into spaces made by/for people of color, though I’m sure many white people have tried. I know in the past I have definitely tried to talk about my experiences with near-poverty/classism as a way to relate to racism in ways that are extremely inappropriate just as a way to fit in spaces where I never belonged in the first place. I’ve made those self deprecating “fucking white people” jokes to distance myself from my white privilege to wedge myself into a narrative that is not my own.

But ace/aro tumblr thinks they have found a way to negate their cis/straight privilege combo in a way they THINK they can use to join the LGBT community and roll around in our culture to feel less left out. If ace and aro are orientations of their own and they can scrape together a way to prove they’re “marginalized,” suddenly they can join the club of marginalized orientations and join in without feeling like the awkward oppression sitting at the edge of the dance with no one to dance with.

This very insidious attempt at fitting in becomes more obvious the more obscure and nitpicky they make their “orientations.” The aro/ace “spectrums” are so fucking broad that anyone can identify as aro-spec and ace-spec and therefore “negate” their privilege. Cishet men who only want to have sex with women but aren’t interested in dating them are now no longer privileged and can make “fucking straight people” jokes. They can join in on the “fun” parts of being gay. CIs straight people who “need an emotional bond to feel romantic attraction” are now able to use slurs that they couldn’t use before which made them feel invalid uwu.

When we recognize that asexuality and aromanticism and their broad broad BROAD spectrums are modifiers and not in fact orientations, that gateway into the community collapses. It absolutely fucking collapses. Because lots of things modify our sexuality that we wouldn’t consider orientations and wouldn’t say negates straight privilege. It puts asexuality and aromanticism on par with kink and polyamory and whatever the fuck else. Like, “kinky” can absolutely MODIFY “straight” but it does not cancel it out. It is not an orientation on its own.

They wanted something that could cancel out “straight.” And only another orientation can do that.

Ace tumblr and aro tumblr feel “invalidated” when we point out that, no, you’re not “valid” as an orientation. Your orientation is still dependent on whoever you are otherwise attracted to. You cannot rewrite our culture and history to include you. You are not one of us.

Because they think if asexuality is recognized as an orientation, then they sit at the cool kids club of marginalized orientations. That’s why they make so many posts like “aces and bisexuals are so invisible :’)” or “all or nothing!! pan and ace!!” because grouping themselves with us makes them feel less alone and more in on our jokes and culture and fun.

They want to have fun with us without paying any dues. And this uniquely comes from places like tumblr where marginalized people get to laugh and joke about our suffering so it seems just a tad bit glamorous. Or like “well it sucks but at least I have friends.” For someone who already might feel “broken,” this is ideal.

Being a marginalized orientation sounds ideal.

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Shae Koda (Dawn of the Jedi: Force Storm)

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We’d be living a lie.             [   indie Padme Naberrie Amidala rp blog    ]

I couldn’t do that.                [  set in any time frame from TPM to RotJ    ]

Could you Ani?                   [ mun & muse of age | multiverse, multiship ] 

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               don't make me k i l l you.

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her mind broke.                   shattered.                   lost in the dark

                                                (    autoplay  !!  )

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Reblog if you're a Star Wars indie RP account.

Jocasta Nu is creating a giant master-list for every SW roleplayer. 

The list is here.

Reblogs ONLY, likes DO NOT count.

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THE STAR WARS #3 Pages 12 & 13 Art by Mike Mayhew, with color by Rain Beredo.

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I like this blog quite a lot. Cool theme, very clean, nice backstory/connection to the old and new movie verses. 5 stars.

haha thanks...it’ll probably be a little while until I’m completely up and running though

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                        ❝     did somebody order a miracle ?     ❞

                                                                                               ( still under some co. )

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((Found this incredibly helpful for anyone who feels like memorizing the Star Wars galaxy))

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Shae Koda, from Force Storm

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Xesh.

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Origin of the force and the Jedi order.

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Je'daii Code (Jedi & Sith Precursors)

There is no Ignorance; There is Knowledge.

There is no Fear; There is Power.

I am the Heart of the Force.

I am the Revealing Fire of Light.

I am the Mystery of Darkness

In Balance with Chaos and Harmony.

Immortal in the Force.

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Xesh // Rakata Force Hound.

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“The Force Wars of Tython, fought with Force-forged swords, were the first clashes between the Light and the Dark side.”