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You don't have to make yourself so small;

Your laugh isn't too loud.

You aren't taking up too much space.

Your needs aren't a burden.

Give yourself the space to be the full person you are, you deserve it just as much as anyone else.

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I am nervous and excited, I am having a gastric sleeve done on 2/11/20. I am already stressing over what ifs and it is literally making me sick. I have struggled with my weight for so long, I have become comfortable. But I am not healthy and at 44 I am not ready to be done...

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10 Self-Care Tips for Empaths

This a follow up to my last post! Here are some self-care tips that work for me and I hope maybe they’ll work for you too! 

1. Find some source of water. This is one of the first things that I do when I feel overwhelmed. I either go swimming (if it’s summer or maybe find an indoor pool), take a shower or bath, or drink a lot a lot a lot of water. Water is healing. Something about the feel and sound of water can be incredibly calming and soothing.

2. Listen to music without words. Although music can cause feelings even without words, I find that it’s usually better for when I’m overwhelmed. Words can become chaotic and we tie certain meanings with certain words and lyrics so why not get rid of them for a bit? I really suggest the artist “Sleeping at Last” when it comes to songs like these.

3. Writing writing writing. Write out your feelings daily. It doesn’t matter if you’re a good writer or not. Writing is a way to release your feelings in a healthy way. I know for me sometimes when I’m feeling overwhelmed I just need to rant or vent but I don’t want to talk to anyone so that’s where writing comes into play.

4. Talk a walk or a drive. This is a good way to spend some time with yourself and to collect your thoughts. When I go on walks I like to enjoy my surroundings and take deep breaths. Clear your mind as much as possible. Let walking or driving by yourself be a way of meditation.

5. Do something that makes you feel good about your physical appearance. Yes, physical appearance is not everything but I find that painting my nails, doing my makeup, or styling my hair in a different way can really boost my confidence. And a confidence boost can definitely create a better mood.

6. Spend some time learning something new. Teaching yourself something new is a great way to shift your focus onto something other than feelings and emotions. Pick up an instrument, learn a new language, or try out a new recipe. I’m currently teaching myself Polish and I find that it clears my mind (even when it becomes frustrating) and keeps me occupied for awhile.

7. Animals!! Animals are the best healers in my opinion. If you don’t have any pets maybe go to a pet store and pet all the dogs. Best advice I can give.

8. Try some sort of physical activity. It doesn’t have to be intense cardio and hardcore weightlifting. I usually stick to yoga. But if you would like something a bit more active try signing up for a fitness class. I’ve tried kickboxing and loved it. I know cycling is a big thing now. Working out is a great way to feel better inside and out.

9. Watch something funny. So if you’re like me and you’re not big on comedy, I highly suggest digging a bit deeper to figure out something that does make you laugh. Laughing is good for all sorts of reasons. Maybe a comedy show, a podcast, or youtube videos. I’m currently in love with Jenna Marbles and Julien Solomita and I watch their videos and podcast regularly. Find a reason to laugh even when you’re at your lowest, it’ll help tremendously.

10. The last and probably the most important tip. Take care of your basic human needs!! This gets neglected so often and even I am guilty of this. Take your medicine, eat regularly, and stay hydrated!! Basic needs are the most important needs so please please please take care of yourself.

with love,

darkkres

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🌹Hereditary empath tips

The gift of empathy has been in my family for generations. My mother is one, her father, and so on. Here are some tips that my family has used throughout the years to make life as a feeler a little easier. There’s also a list of correspondences all the way at the bottom.

Rose quartz is your best friend!

If your child is an empath, protect them by putting chunks of rose quartz throughout the house (my mother swears by this)

Any body of natural water is healing to empaths, especially the ocean. When you feel overwhelmed bring your heart to the water.

Moonlight is also extremely healing

Don’t wait till you’re too overwhelmed with emotion before you cleanse and ground.

Sometimes periods of isolation are necessary for empaths, set some time aside as often as you want, to be alone, preferably at a peaceful and calming place (beach, forest, your bathtub)

Remember you can’t lose your gift, but it can become blocked or suppressed. It’s likely to happen after a trauma or if you become too overwhelmed with the emotion you constantly feel. If it happens be patient, it’s more important to deal with your own emotions and take care of yourself first. It doesn’t make you a bad empath, I promise.

Shielding is super important! My mother had a cats eye necklace made for me as an infant for this exact reason. Shield however you see fit, even an quick energy sheild before you leave your house will help.

Try to connect to your element. Not every empath is gonna be a water element, althought water will still be healing for them. If you’re an empath who’s a fire element, light a bonfire to ground, and so on.

Spirit work might be challenging and can get extremely overwhelming for empaths. Be careful around any haunted places or antique stores. Although some empaths are extremely talented at spirit work and use their gift to help spirits pass on, this isn’t always the case, especially in younger empaths. An empaths ability to do that safely has everything to do with their comfort level, if you’re extremely sensitive to emotion, the wrong kind from a spirit can do a lot of damage. I don’t recommend any empaths go to places where violent deaths occurred (especially not empathic children, my mother learned this the hard way with me). It’s almost 100% of the time too overwhelming and pushing yourself only makes it worse in the long run.

You may find cannabis to be helpful during times when you need to ground and relax. It also might help unblock your gift if it get repressed. I recommend an indica or hybrid since empaths are prone to anxiety.

Aromatherapy, meditation, and self-care can make a world of difference for an empath. Remember to take care of yourself first. If you’ve had a hard day and your friend is upset too and you can’t handle both, it’s okay. It doesn’t make you a bad person or empath. You need to come first, try to set boundaries to protect yourself.

**quick correspondences page

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BBQ Chicken pizza and only 6 FP.

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Week #2 of Weight Watchers

I am down 9.6 and I should be proud of myself but I can't help but wonder if I can keep this up and make it stick. I know this is a lifestyle and I must remember I am worth it... yet those days when the anxiety is unmanageable I eat.... I eat to keep busy....I eat to soothe myself for being anxious... I am a food addict. And I am not quite sure how to recover. I am hoping Weight Watchers is the answer but I am scared it is not. I can not continue down this road of self destruction because I will die and I do not want that....

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The Journey from Alabama Tiny Homes

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Keto and doing IF!!!! #ketolife #intermittenfasting

Reblog if you're Keto!

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Love this!

Personal growth becomes so addictive once you realize that it’s always possible to improve your experience of being.

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Love this❤❤❤

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I struggle daily... I have to remind myself that if I quit or give up I am only hurting myself. I will not cheat myself I am worth more! I struggle with self esteem and self discipline but the definition of success is small efforts everyday! #ketodiet #IF

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Stretching is the best way to care for tired muscles. This sequence of 17 stretches with lengthen your entire body and leave you feeling energized.

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365 Days / 365 New Chances

9 Days - 9 Tasks for you before they expire

 1. Get a new planner for next year

2. Set that planner up with goals professionally and personally and your tasks.

3. Get a journal

4. Start using it  - not a huge entry just bullets top 3 good things 3 things you want to work on personally

5. Get a Visual of 3 of your goals and post somewhere you see every day. A Bill? Keep taking the statement to the fridge each time you pay it. A new luxury item. A picture of in on your phone or computers screen so its there every chance etc.

6. Practice choosing how your day will start.

7. Start every day with self-care. 3 things that you enjoy. A small walk. A Song. Writing. This should be the first 10 minutes of your day.

8. Before you decide to prepare for bed and sleep - take 5 minutes review what you have for the next day, mental awareness stops forgetfulness.

9. And finally at the end each day with giving thanks to those who helped you and congratulate yourself on succeeding getting through the day

~David Michaels

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Tried out a new spot for dinner. We will definitely be stopping by again

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Lemon Cheesecake Hand Pies

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I want to try this...

Vegan Chai Ice Cream…RECIPE