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I've never been a fan of verbal encouragement. Anyone I know who loves to give excessive verbal encouragement has never lived up to their verbal encouragement in action. They generally use people, take them for granted and just leave them in the dust when their done with them. So their words turn to lies and I then see them negatively, as liars. So you can either shut up with your verbal encouragement of lies or you can treat people with care and respect and show in action that you think highly of someone. Words need to match action. And when they don't, it makes people trust less.

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Why is it so hard and awkward to visit new churches? 

you go in..

sit down next to a stranger...

listen to the pastor welcome you and ask you to stay after the service for a cuppa...

the service ends and you linger there like a loner as people walk past you and awkwardly smile but don't say hello..

you get ignored...

and then you leave after standing around like a doofus for 5min while everyone just talks to the people that they've grown up with..

and the church wonders why they aren't growing... 

We’re all just people. Why is it so hard to welcome new people? especially when they're sitting RIGHT NEXT TO YOU! 

Im so passionate about this! I have never been perfect at this but when I've realised theres a new person in my past churches I try so hard to talk to them, integrate them in, invite them to lunch/supper, introduce them to people, invite them to do social stuff, add them on Facebook...anything to make them feel welcomed.

why do people not include people in churches? why do we have to work so hard to become part of this so called ‘church family”. If these people are my brothers and sisters in Christ then why are they not more inviting?

Church is a priority in my life. I don't let the rude people stop me from looking for a church to go to. But geez it is discouraging! 

I wonder what its like for non christians that decide to visit church because they've been invited and told that they will be loved there because the sign outside welcomed them to come .. and then they're ignored. 

Its disgusting really. Im so ashamed of myself and my failings in the past as well as my so called Christian brothers and sisters who do not have the courage to welcome others in and instead tell themselves ‘someone else will talk to them because I have too much anxiety and I'm too shy” and therefore no one talks to them....and they walk out never to visit church again. 

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Worship is an incredible privilege, not a religious duty.

Chris Tomlin (via myfaithwillstand)

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Of course I missed you. It devoured me. But since I could not take you back, and you could not be replaced, I allowed myself to miss you, until at last the missing stopped.

Beau Taplin || T h e  M i s s i n g (via afadthatlastsforever)

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And there you are. And I liked you a lot today. A lot. And I want to talk to you. Selfishly.

Anne Sexton, No Evil Star: Selected Essays, Interviews, and Prose ; “The Freak Show (via wordsnquotes)

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If you don't crave to hear my voice then you don't want me and I won't chase you down.

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I don’t want people to matter to me too much. Sometimes it hurts too much to think about them. Ones you love who don’t love you, ones who hate you, ones who you think about but never get to be with. I like people but when I get too close, it fucks me up.

Henry Rollins, The Portable Henry Rollins (via theglasschild)

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I sincerely hope that you – you with that big, tender heart of yours, with always kind words to speak – has been kind to yourself today. You are immeasurably precious, and please, don’t you ever forget.

neurims (via wnq-writers)

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If you want 2016 to be your year, don’t sit on the couch and wait for it. Go out. Fucking make a change. Smile more. Be excited. Do new things. Clean your room. Throw away what you’ve been cluttering. Unfollow negative people on social media. Go to bed early. Wake up early. Kick ass. Every damn day

My opinion on 2016 (via umibenome)

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Let yourself go, take it easy, don’t strain yourself to make it work—forget all about what happened and everything will fall back into place naturally.

Clarice Lispector, from The Complete Stories: The Imitation Of A Rose  (via violentwavesofemotion)

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So you have chosen aloneness. You have chosen the security and the relative freedom of solitude, because there is no risk involved. You can stay up every night and watch your TV shows and eat ice cream out of the box and scroll through your Tumblr and never let your brain sit still, not even for a moment. You can fill your days up with books and coffees and trips to the store where you forget what you wanted the second you walk in the automatic sliding door. You can do so many little, pointless things throughout the day that all you can think of is how badly you want to sleep, how heavy your whole body is, how much your feet hurt. You can wear yourself out again and again on the pavement, and you do, and it feels good. No one will ever bridge that gap and point to your stomach or your hair or your eyes in the mirror and magically make you see the wonderful things about getting to be next to you. And maybe that’s it, after all, this fear that no one will ever truly feel about you the way you want to be felt about. Maybe what you want is someone to make you love yourself, to put sense into all that positive rhetoric, to make it so the aloneness of TV and blasting music in your ears at all times isn’t the most happy place you can think of. Maybe you want someone who makes you so sure of how wonderful things are that you cannot help but to tell them your feelings first, even at the risk of being humiliated. Because you will know that, when you’re telling them you love them, what you’re really saying is “I love who I become when I am with you.

Chelsea Fagan, For When You Think That No One Will Love You (via wordsnquotes)