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the play hamlet by william shakespeare does not begin with the appearance of the titular character, but rather, the appearance of a ghost who has a frightening interaction characters who, for the most part, will not show up again. this scene serves the purpose of showing something strange and unnatural is afoot, paving the way for hamlet to encounter this being later in the play. yet this strategy of introducing a ghastly character through a short introductory sequence is not limited to 16th century plays; it appears also in television shows such as scooby doo and supernatural. in this essay

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Sofia from Goncharov is Side B!

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nowhere else

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I think we as a society really need to learn to let people talk about their moms’ flaws.

YES I know sometimes moms get unfair hate. The act of raising children, especially of staying home to raise them, is often looked down upon and laughed at it and nobody should be made to feel ashamed of it. It’s hard work and people will say it’s not, but it is. You are responsible for another person and people don’t value that because they don’t value kids or see them as people. (Don’t get me started on how society has been raising generations of kids who feel unwanted or like their very existence is a burden.)

But… moms who talk about being their sons’ first date or who talk about not wanting to share their sons with any potential girlfriends? They’re weird. It’s emotional incest and it’s not okay.

And the truth of the matter is that as much as we talk about girls internalizing all these toxic expectations of how they should act simply because they’re girls, nobody wants to talk about where they’re learning those expectations. Oftentimes it’s from other girls. And oftentimes it starts with their moms.

I have almost never had guys tell me that I shouldn’t want to play knight or that my makeup didn’t look good enough or that I looked slutty for wearing red lipstick with shorts. I’ve had girls tell me that though. I’ve had my mom say these things.

Oftentimes daughters are told that their moms have been through a lot. That their moms are tired. That their moms would have been happier if they’d never had kids. Maybe some of that is true sometimes. But a lot of times abusive fathers were raised by abusive fathers and I’ve never had anyone tell me that I shouldn’t talk about the issues I’ve had with my father because of that.

Maybe there’s some truth to those things but we are not obligated to fix our mothers’ problems. They are obligated not to put their problems onto us. I’m not interested in excuses.

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I remember as a kid I used to fantasize about being a guy because I felt like a failure of a girl. I was awkward and liked stories about wars and battles and I thought about kissing other girls. It was so lonely.

Undoing that is still taking time, but… there’s no right or wrong way to be a girl. It’s okay if you like pink and makeup and boys. It’s okay if you like black leather and battle ballads and girls. It’s okay if you like all of those things.

You’re not doing anything wrong.

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So what songs are Side B coded to you guys? I’m thinking of With or Without You by U2 and I Can’t Be With You by The Cranberries as a couple of mine

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Doomed yuri/yaoi couples are so fun to me and I in part blame my inner Side B for it

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Has someone sent Glinda and/or Elphaba to your @yourfaveissideb yet

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Yusuke Kitagawa is so funny like nothing will convince me this man is straight and I love him

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Love how tumblr has its own folk stories. Yeah the God of Arepo we’ve all heard the story and we all still cry about it. Yeah that one about the woman locked up for centuries finally getting free. That one about the witch who would marry anyone who could get her house key from her cat and it’s revealed she IS the cat after the narrator befriends the cat.

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whatever souls are made of, yours and mine are the same (insult)

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"The church is not a museum for saints, but a hospital for sinners."

-Morton Kelsey

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the thing that gets to me about "purity culture" is how women's bodies are objectified. like yes, okay, being pure is good for you and super healthy for your soul but if you've had sex you are not a licked cupcake. you are not a chewed stick of gum, or a crumpled piece of paper. if you haven't been living the most holy pure life ever guess what? you're normal, you're not alone, you're not broken or damaged, you're completely lovable and completely worthy, and you are still called to chastity like everyone else.

purity is not a god you worship. you are not a virgin sacrifice to it. you are not to lay prone on the altar to be burned. you can kiss your boyfriend before you get married. if you've messed up you can try again. if you've made mistakes you are still good. chastity is a virtue, not a god. gods are worshiped. virtues are practiced.

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Cleric Luce

Without Tabard

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