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Got an ad for something called timeleft--it marketed itself as a way to make friends and theres a women only setting which is cool

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when nobody does nothing to your nowhere 😍

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Im sorry for being unwoke on here but legitimately i dont understand the ferocity with which some lesbians try to include TIMs in their attraction. Like to some extent i can understand wanting to be supportive

But some of these ppl are actively praising and including "girldick" in sexual situations like imma be real yall are bisexuals or severely gaslit or both

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and it's like. this is how love happens. you make friends, and they become your family, and you take care of each other when and how you can. you plan little parties for each other, and you move furniture, and you text be safe when you know someone is on a long drive. like! that's what it is! that's all it is! it's eating together and watching old movies and holding someone through their divorce. it's showing up unannounced with dinner and having your friend's kid call you auntie and getting a call that says i heard about your cousin. do you need anything? that's it, my guy! that's what love is! that's all it is!

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Don't answer if you don't feel comfy but how many side b/side y lesbians have you encountered irl? What about side b/side Y SSA Christians in general? I've only encountered three by chance, two were gay men and one was a bisexual woman – bisexual women in general seem to be fairly common. Sometimes I think meeting a fellow side b lesbian is just not going to happen to me in this life.

Only one irl, since my ex was side x (not sure if she's still that, iunno). I would also like to meet other side b lesbians irl so bad 😩

I made a discord server for side b/y lesbians tho! You should message me off anon and join 👀

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The only thing that has ever improved my mental health in any measurable capacity is making more friends. That's literally it

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the anti-aging industry is disgusting. we will inevitably age, you don’t have to inject your face with botox and drink from specialized straws when you can just face reality.

aging is beautiful. God created us this way, and we should allow ourselves to feel life to its full extent instead of fearing our beauty being lessened.

when your worth is placed on character instead of outer-appearance, you will glow with happiness, and that’s what truly makes someone gorgeous forever.

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Also I think protestants really have failed in helping ssa folks and that needs to be acknowledged. Catholics are way ahead of us when it comes to accepting the side b position and valuing celibacy as a vocation

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Stop trying to make the Ruth verses gay, they arent gay

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https://www.instagram.com/reel/DL8M887Sw0_/?igsh=dmRmMGNranM3NDAw

Side b lesbian sharing some of her experiences on insta. Go show her some support if you can.

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God gave me very few friends on purpose to teach me humility and stubborn animal devotion. i may not love you as beautifully as somebody with more to offer but i sure as hell can love you longer

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on principle I agree about the importance of loving people who wouldn't reciprocate, but in experience, pouring love into people who can only tolerate parts of you creates a long term build up of hurt and can erode your sense of self worth. I guess it just depends on how much you're willing to put up with / how good you are at not internalizing the homophobia. good luck to us both regardless

I'm not saying you can't have boundaries, you should.

I love my friends very much but if we at least can't reach respectable disagreement, then changes will have to be made to our relationship for sure.

But I think its worth trying at the very least. I said and did a lot of the things they did before I realized, so I'm going to at least make an attempt to extend grace.

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christian homophobia sanitizes itself by claiming its about opposition to "sin", but there are a million other lifestyles that would hypothetically fall into a similar category and being gay is the only one they focus on tearing down. the reality is that they're disgusted by the existence of same sex attraction and the language used in the bible and mainstream conservative christianity backs them up on it. you can maybe get away with being openly gay if you're properly disgusted by it in yourself, but any sign of self love or acceptance is seen as, at best, a gateway to depravity. most christians don't actually hate the sin, love the sinner, they hate the sin and any form it may take, from representation in media to the real life people in their community. genuinely, why would you continue to commit yourself to a group of people that are vocally repulsed by the existence of anyone like you? why should you be expected to swallow all of the pain that comes from their homophobia? loving god shouldn't require accepting vitriol from people who claim to represent him. they would not do the same for you.

I mean I mostly agree. I think Christians are massively hypocritical in how they treat homosexuality in comparison to other sins and I agree that some of them actively hate more than the sin. I think that's a problem that needs to be addressed amongst the church big time.

But I think you're missing a very important part of Christianity. A loving God literally died to save the people that hated him so much they killed him despite not being guilty of any crime. Loving people that don't deserve it and wouldn't do the same for you is like. The point.

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i just saw your post about "being faithful to scripture vs homophobia" and i would like to ask, how do you view paul's repeated bashing of gay ppl? i'm a queer christian and im having a lot of trouble with interpreting those passages. he repeatedly says homosexuals wont get into heaven and a bunch of times when he lists sins he includes homosexuality

I think in those passages its more accurate to say that Paul is condemning homosexual practice but not necessarily people who have it wholesale, if that makes sense.

Being a faithful Christian doesn't necessarily mean your ssa will go away but it does mean that you will make a commitment to not indulge it (which will not be a perfect effort as nothing is). So if that's you, Paul isn't talking about you.

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Good day!

Just wanted to say that this blog makes me feel a lot less alone in maneuvering ssa & christianity

it's refreshing to see someone calling out the unfair behavior of many other christians toward this subject matter

I'm glad I can help folks feel less alone! And yeah it frickin sucks >:0

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when you say that a lot of the christians you know are genuinely homophobic, what does that entail? what do you consider just being faithful to the scriptural teaching vs homophobic? asking out of curiosity as a ssa christian

I wouldn't consider being faithful to scripture homophobic or else I myself would be homophobic.

I mean in the sense that most of them pay lip service to the idea of loving gay people or wanting to reach them until you want to talk about your experiences or use language they don't like. God forbid you want to pursue a celibate lifestyle instead of bowing down to the idol of marriage either.

Most straight Christians will never do the work to empathize or try to understand the lives or experiences of people with ssa, Christian or not because why would they? It makes them uncomfortable that any of us are visible at all, and they'd rather we all stay silent or keep it hidden.