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Deeply concerned by the number of people (especially women) who genuinely believe that women and men have the same capacity for physical strength

and who think you’re being sexist if you point out that they don’t

ma’am the only one equating physical strength with innate value here is you

it’s concerning that you think strength has anything to do with value

and if the men in your life ever stop being decent you are setting yourself up to be in so much more danger

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Streamer is most likely dating a butthole and he's ugly I'm laughinghgg

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on principle I am against a surveillance state but I do thing we as a society should have a system that keeps track of how many misogynistic reddit posts a man makes and if he makes too many it becomes legal to run him over with a car. in minecraft

LMAOOOO

Or an amber alert specifically for people who do that so everyone knows to avoid them lmaoooo

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Saw a thread where a guy stopped walking his friend home at night (he implied he'd been doing this for years) after she rejected his romantic advances and people were like. Actively defending this???

It's one thing if he'd sat down with her and discussed redefining the boundaries of their relationship but he didn't. It was clearly out of pain/spite.

And people are like saying he stopped doing that bc its boyfriend behavior. No the fuck it isn't??? I've walked friends home, I've helped them move, I've even helped assemble furniture. I helped bestie clean out her gross fridge bc her roommate had rotting food in it. Had no romantic interest. I just did it bc they were my friends.

This one dude was adamant that men only do attentive things for women that they're interested in which is really fucked up actually?? If you would not do the above things for someone you had no romantic interest in you are legitimately a shit friend and there is something wrong with you. You have been banned from gf, coochie and women in general because I said so.

And walking a woman home is a big deal for us-- it is very scary for women to walk alone in the dark. We can get attacked or sa'd or trafficked. I'm an idiot who generally has no fear so I have walked in the dark alone but it's still dangerous and I get why women don't feel comfortable doing it. It's not just a frivolous thing to us. It's not a boyfriend thing, it's a not being an asshole thing.

This is why I'm so hesitant to be friends with guys bc some of them deadass believe serving ur friends and being nice is the fucking romance dlc. BITCH THAT IS IN THE BASE GAME!!!!

LORD HELP US, CHRIST

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Sometimes I think about how different "feminine" is from "butch" (obviously) but also how both are so vastly different from just "existing as a female person".

I have this woman coworker. Idk how old she is (my guess is mid-30s to early-40s like everyone else I work with). She's straight and married to a man. She does not wear makeup. She has chin-length hair she doesn't style other than tucking it behind her ears to keep it out of her face. She wears baggy pants and long sleeves. I've never seen her cleavage or even her decolletage.

She is not "butch". She is not "femme". She simply exists while being female. There are many women I work with less directly who are very similar.

So like idk I appreciate the struggle that clothing sold to women is often needlessly skimpy, but also I know and see plenty of women who perform neither Kardashion fast fashion femininity nor contrarian just-as-performative butchness.

So like it can be done.

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we should be getting iced coffee and going to creepy and musty antique stores together why must we be separated by our screens…

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I am literally an ex dream stan it cannot be more embarrassing or parasocial than that. also idk why I'm sending this on anon because I am now being specific enough about my past crimes to be obvious but still <3

OK YEAH ITS NOT THAT BAD

Shes cool and hasnt done anything bad afaik but like it's just embarrassing that I'm crushing on someone like this let alone frickin admitting it out loud man

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I just want you to know that I appreciate you and your blog. It's very encouraging to see someone who takes their sexuality in stride. I've recently settled on the fact that I'm fruity, and I'm okay with that! It just means that I have to start learning how to control it, where I just didn't before. Girls are beautiful too, and I'm thankful that I can see the raw beauty of both genders, while most people can't.

I love messages like this so much, it's awesome that I can help ppl or provide some solidarity with this dumb lil blog 💖💕✨️

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who's the streamer 👀

THERES NO WAY IN HEIL IM TELLING HAVING THIS STUPID PARASOCIAL CRUSH IS BAD ENOUGH

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me killing off the last bit of romantic feelings towards friends who are currently non dateable characters in my life's story

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online communities are so strange because people slip away so easily. you can be on here for years, folding people you've never met into the fabric of your daily life, and then they disappear, leaving only ghost posts scattered across tumblr behind. or their blog stays dormant, for weeks, months, years, until you're only still following them because you remember that they love sunflowers or they were kind to you when they didn't have to be or the last thing they posted was sad and raw and you still worry about them sometimes.

and sometimes they come back when you least expect it, years later, even, and there's this sudden rush of relief like there you are, there you are, even though you barely knew each other.

there's a strange kind of love to it. i don't know you and i want to hold your hand across miles and time zones and oceans. i can still see the imprint of you in this community you left. you don't anyone will notice or care when you're gone, but we notice and we care and we wish you well.

i hope you're all okay out there. i hope the sun is shining on your face and you are breathing deeply. i miss you.

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@ my close friends

Yes I do want to hear about your 'dull and boring' day, that work sucked, that something small annoyed you, the weather sucks

It's called unconditional love you dweebs and I'm here for it, having any conversation with you is the highlight of my day

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i want to be someone else’s safety. even nonromantically. i want to be “hey can i tell you something?” i want to be - i tried something new and i’m a little scared but i wanted to show you. i want to be “i knew i could trust you”. i want to be okay to hold the hand of, always ready to listen, always trying. even if i don’t get it perfect, you know? i just want to be a place other people can relax and be themselves and not worry for a fraction of an instant. 

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I know I'm losing my mind probably due to cycle shiz but there isn't much I can do to stop it besides put effort into not self destructinggggg

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does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok

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Brain went a lil delulu yesterday bc yt recommended me a really cute streamer and she started talking about her ex who is a woman OH MY GODDD