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Yes- this is my brain

bpd in a nutshell. i’m usually not this honest about my paranoia.

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20.6.2015: When Marsh Tea is Blooming by Suensyan

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tips if you are friends with a person who suffers from borderline personality disorder:  * if you love them, tell them often (bpds lack emotional permanence which means we know you love us, but we can’t remember what it felt like to be loved thus leaving us in a very needy and uncomfortable position)  * COMMUNICATION AND HONESTY - I can’t stress this enough. if you’re angry with them, tell them. if something they did made you sad or upset, tell them. bpds tend to overthink and find every possible sign that you’re upset with them, which is why you should be honest right away. don’t try to hide your feelings, they will know instantly. * ease their fear of abandonment by doing things like let them borrow something from you (it means you’ll definitely see each other again) or (when you part) use reassuring phrases like “see you soon” or keep talking to them even after parting with them. * talk to your loved one and ask them to try to explain to you how they work. a lot of people with bpd come from an abusive environment can therefor be more sensitive and broken than they like to admit. listen to them and validate their experiences. * educate yourself. this is the most important thing because bpd it is a very hard disorder to have in an uneducated environment. realise that not all bpd people are the same. some of us struggle with relationships more than others, some of us can’t handle impulsivity and some of us find it physically impossible to regulate emotions and some of us are a mix of all of this or other symptoms - we are all different and work differently. * don’t read idiotic things that makes us out to be abusive and monstrous. bpd people are smart and creative and we love stronger than anyone. our diagnosis doesn’t automatically make us into every bpd stereotype that you can find online on sites written by ableist assholes.

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WTF?

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“These questions are necessary for me to ask out of self-care. At this point in my life, and at this point in my consciousness of what culture, society, and the world thinks about my body, I’m beyond giving more latitude to other people than I am for myself. I deserve to know what level of respect someone is able to give to me before I decide to invest in them. My body and identity isn’t a learning lesson. And as a fat Black queer femme trying to survive, I’m not willing to suffer through a relationship with someone who might be detrimental to my mental health and survival. Fat Black girls like me aren’t asking for too much, we just want to be fully and radically loved.” - Ashleigh Shackelford, Dating While Fat: 5 Things I Consider Before Commitment

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You have nothing to gain in this world. You have come here to give.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar (via pure-awareness)

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BPD symptoms to stop making fun of and recognise as what they really are:

Needing attention Outbursts of emotion (especially anger) Not getting out of bed Social withdrawal Self-destructive behaviours Being ‘clingy’ Forgetting things Getting upset about everything Bad self-care Promiscuity ‘Weird’ or ‘unusual’ triggers Needing validation

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OK Tumblr,  i see a lot of reblogs for Bernie here but we have to make sure we’re taking actions to ensure he has a fighting chance in this arena. His opponents have the money and the media circus backing them but he has us, so let’s run it!  The primaries are elections held months before the ACTUAL presidential election that basically decide who the main candidates for each party will be, specifically, who will be listed on the ballot in the election in november. if we want Bernie to stand a chance at all he MUST be on the ballot in November. For that to become a reality we need everyone reading this to get them and their friends to vote in the Primaries! I’ve used the site www.voteforbernie.com to list the following info below so you can all see it easily enough and share it with just a click. Check your state below for the appropriate information on when and how to vote in the primaries!  Below are the registration and voting dates for all 50 states, Puerto Rico and Washington DC (as a separate voting date). Be sure to register! Click your state to find out how! Below is a key to reading the following information! Some states have open registration meaning it doesn’t matter which party you’re registered as, you can still vote for Bernie. *** Some states are CLOSED meaning you MUST be registered as DEMOCRAT by the date’s i’ve listed to vote for Bernie.  *~* Some states are SEMI-CLOSED meaning you must be registed as DEMOCRAT or UNDECLARED to vote for Bernie. # means you can register or switch parties the day of voting at the voting station.  NEW YORK!!! you have less than 30 days to register even tho your primaries aren’t until April. PLEASE GO REGISTER AND TELL EVERYONE ELSE! Alabama - Tuesday, March 1st (register by February 19th) Alaska - Saturday, March 26th *** # (register by January 19th)    Arizona - Tuesday, March 22nd *** (register by February 22nd) Arkansas - Tuesday, March 1st (register by January 31st) California - Tuesday, June 7th *~* (register by May 23rd) Colorado  - Tuesday, March 1st *** (register by January 1st) Connecticut - April, 26th *** (register by January 26th) Delaware - Tuesday, April 26th *** (register by April 2nd Washington, DC - Tuesday, June 14th*** (register by May 15th) Florida - Tuesday, March 15th *** (register by February 16th) Georgia - Tuesday, March 1st (February 1st) Hawaii - Saturday, March 26th *~* # (register by February 25th) Idaho - TBD (check the site early next year!)*~* Illinois - Tuesday, March 15th *~* # (register by February 16th) Indiana - Tuesday, May 3rd (register by April 4th) Iowa - Monday, February 1st *~* # (can register day of!) Kansas - Saturday, March 5th *** (register by March 5th) Kentucky - Tuesday, May 17th *** (register by April 18th) Louisiana - Saturday, March 5th *** (register by February 4th) Maine - Sunday, March 6th *** (register by February 14th) Maryland - Tuesday, April 26th *** (register by April 5th) Massachusetts - Tuesday, March 1st *~* (register by February 10th) Michigan - Tuesday, March 8th (register by February 7th) Minnesota - Tuesday, March 1st (register by February 9th)    Mississippi - Tuesday, March 8th (register by February 7th) Missouri - Tuesday, March 15th (register by February 17th) Montana - Tuesday, June 7th (register by May 8th) Nebraska - Saturday, March 5th *** (register by February 19th) Nevada - Saturday, February 20th *** (register by January 20th) New Hampshire - Tuesday, February 9th *~* # (register by January 30th) New Jersey - Tuesday, June 7th *** # (register by May 17th) New Mexico - Tuesday, June 7th *** (register by May 10th) New York - Tuesday, April 19th *** (register by October 9th 2015) North Carolina - Tuesday, March 1st *~* (register by February 5th) North Dakota TBD (check the site early next year!) Ohio - Tuesday, March 15th *~* (register by February 14th) Oklahoma - Tuesday, March 1st *~* (register by February 5th) Oregon - Tuesday, May 17th *~* (register by April 26th) Pennsylvania - Tuesday, April 26th *** (register by March 27th) Puerto Rico - Sunday, June 5th (register date TBD) Rhode Island - Tuesday, April 26th *~* (register by March 27th) South Carolina - Saturday, February 27th (register by January 28th) South Dakota - Tuesday, June 7th *~* (register by May 23rd) Tennessee - Tuesday, March 1st (register by January 31st) Texas - Tuesday, March 1st (register by January 31st) Utah - Tuesday, March 22nd *~* (register by February 21st) Vermont - Tuesday, March 1st (register by February 24th) Virginia - Tuesday, March 1st  (register by February 8th) Washington - Saturday, March 26th (register by July 6th) West Virginia - Tuesday, May 10th*~* (register by April 19th) Wisconsin - Tuesday, April 5th (register by March 16th) Wyoming - Saturday, April 9th*** (register by March 26)

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Two things prevent us from happiness: living in the past and judging others.

Paulo Coelho (via mysimplereminders)

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Hi just a psa. 

Aokigahara Forest is not somewhere to be afraid of. Aokigahara is not a frightening place. It’s a sad place. Movies like The Forest are turning it into a spooktacular, spiritually vengeful, white washing sleigh ride and people are letting that happen.

Aokigahara is not a place to be afraid of. So please don’t be. It’s such a sad, mournful place. It’s a place people go to end their lives. It’s not scary. It’s tragic. 

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The worst part about having mental health issues is that you’re seemingly required to have a breakdown in order for people to understand how hard you were trying to hold yourself together.

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Same. I especially struggle at work... Been with the same team for about 2-3 years and still everyday I question if they like me, accept me, are mad at me... Etc... It's stupid but it is the way it is. DBT helps

any tips on dealing with lack of emotional permanence??? it seems that no matter how often my friends talk to me and do nice things for me and tell me they love me, as soon as the communication or attention stops I forget everything and start to feel like everyone hates me. I know this is a super common thing for others dealign with bpd and I didnt know if u had any tips on how to make myself feel better or more relaxed??? I'm making myself so sad and I feel so irrational and confused

i struggle with this a lot myself so i don’t really have any good advice, sorry :(

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Idris Elba for Maxim Magazine September 2015

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