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Harry has a history of standing up for women’s rights. Biggest green flag ever, we are standing the right man https://twitter.com/rollingstone/status/1925129693100912935?s=61&t=RQ-H5E3Wp-yNx3Ufo2IrTQ

The comments on that post are deplorable. The way people think PP is only abortion services is proof of how little Americans research anything they're protesting. I'm really proud of him for signing that. I know it's performative, and it's not a controversial take (although, based on the idiots commenting, maybe it is), but I like that he's consistent about standing up for women's rights. I'm sure plenty of people will complain about what he hasn't stood up for and will say that this is "the bare minimum," so they can go add their comments to that post.

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in this stunt, up to now, what has been published in the newspapers has become reality within a few days.... can it really be that they are going to live together, as anticipated yesterday in that article?

Listen. I’m honestly not keeping up with this stunt at all. These things are so predictable at this point, you could literally run them on a bingo card. Tabloids can easily “predict” the next move because it’s just a repeat of every other stunt...

I don’t really know the full intention behind it. But from what I can tell, Zara has some promo to do, and they’re both tied to Soccer Aid, so for now it just feels like a move to keep them both relevant.

I have no idea how it’s benefiting him, though. But it’s an old move the way they’ve been trying to frame Louis as someone who’s settled down—with a girlfriend and a child, living this very “stable” life. They really tried to push that narrative hard with Eleanor, then Briana, and then Eleanor again. And it obviously didn’t work out. So worst-case scenario, maybe they’re trying to go that route again with this stunt and do the stuff Eleanor never agreed to.

I guess it just depends on where they’re trying to take this, you know. If it’s more about short-term promo or some long-term “beard” setup. But honestly? I’m not too invested in figuring it out. No thanks, this isn’t for me. Maybe people who are newer to the fandom or have a fresh energy to go over every detail and dissect it all, but I’m not one of them.

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I'm sure it’s probably been mentioned before, but I find it really interesting how alcohol shows up in Harry's songwriting—especially in songs that touch on his relationship with gender or how he deals with loneliness (and with himself) in general.

Not saying he has a problem with alcohol btw, it’s just interesting because it’s one more glimpse into his mind. And I think some people don't like to mention it because they get offensive or something, but I think it is actually very human.

Yeah, Harry definitely references drugs a lot in his songwriting. It’s hard to tell how much of it is autobiographical vs. just songwriting choices, but I agree with you... even if it’s not literal, it carries emotional truth.

And I think you’re right about how people can get weirdly defensive about it, always bringing so much judgment. But that just reminds me how much people love to forget he's human, they like the idea of something else much better, right? But artists have always used drug references to explore deeper feelings or to create certain atmospheres in their songs, so I do wonder if Harry leans into that intentionally as part of building a mood. But yeah anyway, it adds another layer to how he communicates through his music!

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have you ever thought that hlovia was too risky to be a PR relationship? like, it seemed too embarrassing to not be real.

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lol I’ll never stop being surprised by how many new fans insist this is some game. like… waiting around for “codes” and clues? wtf lol.

I always encourage people not to look at things from that perspective, yeah. It’s the fastest way to end up frustrated and stressed. This isn’t a game, and you can’t expect Harry or Louis to please fans who are sitting around waiting for “clues”. That mindset creates expectations that were never meant to be fulfilled, and it turns something extremely complex and real into a puzzle to be solved.

That said... I do blame Harry and Louis a little bit hahaha Listen, they were so unexpected in how they communicated, it's just so unconventional what they did. And that's why it fascinated most of us here. I don’t think it started with any big intention, probably just something that felt right at the time and gave them a sense of connection or acknowledgement they desperately needed. So from that angle, yeah, they kind of did turn it into a game a little bit, especially with the bears and all. But people need to understand this is not what is happening anymore, it served its purpose a long time ago.

The issue now is that new fans often don’t have the context to understand what made sense in 2014 vs. what actually holds weight now. If your entry point is RBB and those insane theories...I mean, I imagine it’s easy to fall into this idea that everything must be a signal. But it’s not. And seeing things that way today, without nuance, is honestly a pretty unhealthy way to start. You miss the depth and the real emotional layers by trying to turn it into a scavenger hunt.

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New to the fandom..only 7 months..so first stunt I guess you can say. Man ..what alot of feelings that go with that🤣😢😫😡 and these are just with in maybe 30 minutes throughout the day😜..not sure how you veterans lived through all of them. I know it doesn't really mean a lick of difference because at the end of the day we can only know what they "show us" and we piece or maybe hope for and speculate the rest. Just wishing them happiness. I will say alot has me wondering about the new albums. As a veteran is this pattern of stunting pretty identical to the previous ones? Or are you being thrown for a curve ball on this one? Do you even worry anymore about when the new albums come out and the music is not what the Fandom hoped it would be..meaning basically telling their love story in code between them? That is how i have approached and listened to their albums. Anyway. Sorry if this all sounds stupid. I just love your blog and you are always sweet in replying even though it must get daunting..sometimes the other veterans on here just can't take the newbie crap and questions.. I get it🤣🤣.. love to you.

Hi, darling! Welcome to the fandom.

The stunts are identical. There’s nothing new or special about this one that hasn’t been done before. I get that some of us might sound cranky when talking about this stuff, but if you scroll through my tags on past stunts, you’ll see just how similar this one with Zara is. I could explain it all here, but honestly, it’s something you need to see for yourself to fully understand—we’ve been going in circles for years.

I wasn't really expecting another stunt for him, considering everything, but at the same time… I’m never truly surprised. I can’t speak for everyone, but for me, I’ve hit a point where I don’t even feel anything about it anymore. It’s just “oh, this again” That’s all.

As for the music, my advice is to start seeing Harry and Louis (and their work) as rooted in real life, with nuance, layers, and yes, sometimes stunt songs. If you’re only in it for a coded love story, you’re going to end up disappointed and stressed. It’s always fun to interpret some songs through a “larry point of view,” but at the end of the day, it's just all interpretations. You really can’t build hopes or expectations around it... Personally, I don’t worry too much about this side of things. I just hope I’ll enjoy their new music and the direction they take. I don’t mind stunt songs—they’re always going to be part of it—but they don’t affect how much I genuinely love their music.

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This is brilliant!

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Since you seemed to like the “all fact, no theory” post about L’s faith in the future. Here another.

On March 8th 2025, Harry was pictured wearing a watch for the first time since 2016.

He was on his way to the Sabrina Carpenter concert at the O2 in London. Where he sat very close to Zara McDermott.

The watch made its paparazzi debut in April 2025.

And caught the attention of GQ - who confirmed a very important piece of information.

The watch is called a Tank Louis Cartier.

(Note that 2010 to 2025 is 15 years)

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Previous to that in 2024, he wore a single gold ring. Once at the Manchester United match February 18th and once at the Euros July 14th.

(Note: 2010 to 2024 is 14 years)

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Previous to that in 2022, Harry debuted this beautiful pearl necklace. Different from his others in that it was delicate and only had 12 pearls on it.

(Note that 2010 to 2022 is 12 years)

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(Note that the modern gifts for a 12 year anniversary are pearls. The modern gifts for 14 years are gold jewelry. And the modern gifts for a 15 years are watches.)

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Look at these cuties!!

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I don’t really have any friends in the fandom, so I didn’t know who to share this with—but I recently read something that said when you leave the fandom at a certain age and come back later, more “mature,” you realize things “weren’t that deep,” like implying what we see is just what it is.

But honestly, I feel the opposite. Of course, it depends on your experience and what kind of information you’re exposed to, but in my case, I left the fandom at 18 because of life stuff, and came back at 23—and it actually reinforced my beliefs about Larry. I felt like I could understand a lot of things better with more maturity. But more than that, I feel like I'm developing a deeper understanding of Harry and Louis as humans (not superstars or perfect angels or something, just humans)—through what they choose to share with fans and through their art.

When you first get in—or come back—it can feel overwhelming. You might have a lot of strong or confused opinions, and at some point you just want to give up again. But if you give yourself time to really look into things, do some research, breathe, listen to different perspectives, and especially listen to them, you start to see how layered and complex everything is. And weirdly, understanding that has made me feel more grounded in how I support them and where I stand.

I love what you said, and I relate to it a lot. It may have more to do with fandom maturity than actual age, though. But I can actually see both perspectives... the way you experience things when you first join (especially if you’re young) is usually very intense. Everything feels huge and dramatic, and there’s often not enough distance or context to understand the layers yet. Over time, as you spend more time in the fandom and revisit things, you start to see what’s actually meaningful and what’s just noise. It doesn’t mean “it wasn’t that deep”, it just means you can now process it better.

I was already an adult when I joined, so maybe that shaped my view differently, but even then, over time I’ve come to understand more nuance. Some things that once felt like the end of the world seem way less relevant now, while other things that seemed small at the time now feel much more important in retrospect.

The idea that coming back “older” automatically means you realise none of it was real or meaningful often sounds like an excuse people use because they didn’t think critically or got swept up in things without understanding the context. It’s easier to dismiss it than to admit you just didn’t take the time to look deeper.

So yeah, I totally agree with what you said, coming back later can make your beliefs stronger, not weaker. Especially once you stop seeing them as perfect or symbolic and start seeing them as real people—flawed, layered, thoughtful human beings. That shift alone makes the whole experience feel so much more grounded and healthy.

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Just want to say thank you for still being here and sharing your thoughts:). It is really refreshing and helpful to have people like you in the fandom.

Thank you so much, nonnie!! That’s such a sweet message. I really appreciate you! ❤️❤️

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Alliee, hi. Do you have a masterpost or some links about Harry's queer expression over the years?

Hi, love. I have QUEER CODING and CODED CLOTHING tags (both about Harry and Louis), and then also a specific tag for HARRY'S SEXUALITY and HARRY'S GENDER.

I hope you can find what you're looking for!

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Harry is beautiful but it’s creepy how he looks EXACTLY the same as in March 2024 when he took that couple’s pics.

I think that was March 2025, like, two months ago.

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Harry followed through on his promise and sent the film print he took of the couple via Instagram while in Italy last March. (17 May 2025)

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Allie, do you think Harry is actually aware of what people say about him on social media or what the general public thinks of him?

Like, for example, the queerbaiting accusations—not just from the gp, but also from people within the LGBTQ+ community. And the fact that, even now, his het image is still so dominant.

I was just thinking about something someone posted a while ago, saying it’s like he’s in a glass closet. And even though he has a certain level of freedom, it must be really hard to see people from your own community reject you, while the general public still sees you as this “fuckboy,” which is the complete opposite. Like, people are so cruel with their words sometimes...I imagine all of that must be emotionally exhausting to some degree.

If I ever had the opportunity to ask him something and he could answer, I'd ask if all of this is worth it. The same thing with Louis.

It has to be worth it. Like I was just saying in the previous ask, this isn’t just about money, right? It’s not a regular job… so it has to be worth it for their mental health and peace of mind.

Something that always stood out for a lot of people is that, after 1D ended, Harry basically vanished from social media. Over the years, he’s hinted that online hate and certain comments affected him deeply, so I imagine stepping back was a very conscious decision to protect himself. That said, I 1000% don’t think he’s oblivious. Maybe he’s not reading comments day to day, but I do believe he’s fully aware of every layer of his career—including how his personal image is perceived and marketed. He doesn’t strike me as someone who leaves everything in the hands of PR—he clearly knows what he’s doing and it’s interested in that as well. So if things are being presented in a certain way, I’d say it’s because he agrees with it to some extent.

Louis seems to be a bit more "online", or at least it feels that way. Obviously, he sees stuff on twitter and stays somewhat in the loop. So I feel the same about him... he’s never struck me as someone who’s indifferent or unaware. I think he’s extremely conscious of everything going on around him, too.

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do you ever get the feeling that harry is kind of over the whole fame thing and celebrity culture? Not like he’s tired of his career—I’m sure he still loves making music, touring, fashion, the community that’s formed around him, and everything he does. But it feels like, in recent years, he sees fame more as a side effect of his job. If he could avoid it, he probably would, but that’s just not an option for him. I guess it makes sense, considering his privacy has been taken from him since he was 16.

Sometimes I think one of his goals is to eventually live a quiet, simple life doing mundane things, far away from it all, and just release music whenever he feels like it. Maybe I’m projecting a little, but that’s definitely the vibe I get from him.

I totally get what you’re saying. Sometimes it really does feel like he sees fame as something he’s learned to live around, not something he’s actively chasing. The constant visibility, the loss of privacy, the noise… that all seems exhausting. I mean, I’d be tired too if my life had been picked apart since I was 16.

The one thing I personally struggle to relate to is the idea of not needing to work for money. Must be nice to just go off-grid and release music whenever you feel like it. So while I do think he probably dreams of a quieter, simpler life, I also know I can’t fully put myself in his shoes. Our realities are just so different, and I think that makes it hard to really grasp how he experiences the pressure of being in this industry, or why he might still feel the need to stay in it.

At the end of the day, I think he’s just trying to find balance.. some way to reclaim peace after so many years of being constantly exposed. I can see him living more quietly as he gets older, but at the same time, I don’t see him ever fully giving up creating or performing. It’s hard to know where he’s heading, but I think he’s figuring it out in his own time.