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learning that ofc means ‘of fucking course’ is such bullshit. she’s ‘ofcourse’ to me

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COPPER CHAINS COPPER BARS COPPER LANTERNS LETSGOOOO

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do me a favor please. imagine for a second that you are a fictional character and someone out there is obsessed with you. what song(s) are on their character playlist about you

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Chapters: 2/20 Fandom: 3rd Life | Last Life SMP Series Rating: Mature Warnings: Graphic Depictions Of Violence, Major Character Death Relationships: Martyn Littlewood | InTheLittleWood/Rendog, Charles | Grian/Ryan | GoodTimesWithScar, Jimmy | Solidarity/Scott Major | Smajor1995, Rendog/Ryan | GoodTimesWithScar Characters: Martyn Littlewood | InTheLittleWood, Rendog (Video Blogging RPF), Ryan | GoodTimesWithScar, Jimmy | Solidarity, Charles | Grian, 3rd Life SMP Ensemble Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - Steampunk, Alternate Universe - Fantasy, Alternate Universe - Royalty, Origin Story, Master/Servant, Forbidden Love, Blood and Violence, Canonical Character Death, Assassination Attempt(s), Doomed Relationship, Action/Adventure, Implied Sexual Content, 3rd Life | Last Life SMP Series-Typical Character Death, Martyn Littlewood | InTheLittleWood-centric, King Rendog (Video Blogging RPF) Series: Part 3 of the equinox Summary:

Martyn is no stranger to change, struggle, and loss. It’s a dance he knows as intimately as he knew the people of his ruined village, as he’ll one day know his comrades in the Red Army. He’s more than familiar with the wills of fate too.

However, even he couldn’t have anticipated how much coming into the service of the Red King, Ren, would change his life— and one day ruin it.

(Or: the Coliseum retelling of Martyn’s last-ditch attempt to thwart destiny and save his king.)

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I kill you

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Preparing for Bad Times or Emotional Crises

People often ask me how I prepare for the bad days, whether that’s triggers, anxiety spikes, emotional breakdowns, or those heavy, dark periods. Here’s what works for me. We’re all different, but maybe these ideas can inspire your own plan!

1. Practice skills when you’re not in crisis I practice my DBT and grounding skills regularly, even when I’m doing okay. Trying them when I’m calm makes it easier to recall them when I’m not.

DBT’s Distress Tolerance skills are especially helpful for immediate emotional crises.

Breathing exercises? Grounding techniques? Try them when you don’t “need” them so they’re ready when you do.

2. Make a crisis note on your phone I keep written instructions for myself, including:

Step-by-step grounding techniques

How to handle harmful urges

How to challenge spiraling thoughts

When I’m overwhelmed, I can forget everything I “know.” Writing it down when I’m calm means I only have to remember to open the note and not the individual steps when I’m overwhelmed and my brain is spiraling.

3. Keep a self-care box and comfort items Having everything ready makes it way less overwhelming. My box has:

Small things that usually calm or cheer me up

Links to favorite feel-good videos

Sensory or grounding objects

4. Save proof that people love you I keep screenshots and letters from loved ones. In crisis, I might forget they care or I can’t bring myself to reach out. Looking at those reminders helps. I also keep lists of things people have done to show they love me.

5. Make a crisis plan Know your patterns. What happens to you in crisis? What’s hardest? Write down how you want to respond and what tools you’ll use. Here's my activity for making a crisis plan.

Some other tips:

Be prepared to manage urges safely

Create a safe physical space or even a “safe place” in your mind

Think ahead about the support or tools you’ll want nearby

The key is to prepare when you’re not in crisis. Bad times are easier to face when you already have the steps, tools, and comfort ready to go. Your future self will thank you.

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it's crazy to me that teenagerhood is literally the time I your life where your body usually at its most socially curious and also generally curious, it is literally the stage of life where your entire job as a social animal is to go out and do something dangerous and stupid and meet new people and form social connections and learn more about what life is like. and be horny about it also (if applicable). and also literally every single adult in the world was once a teenager. yet it is also widely believed that it is absolutely vital that we exert as much control over teenagers as humanely possible despite the fact that a teenager is a creature made for fucking around in the woods and messy social drama and writing really weird porn.

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I love being an adult because you know what actually happens when you run your car into a curb and scratch up the bumper?

Nothing. You get it fixed, or you don’t. Whatevs.

You know what actually happens when you are depressed or sick or on your period and don’t cook dinner?

Nothing. You still get to eat something, nobody scolds you, it doesn’t have any real bearing on your future success, and you don’t get soft shunned for a week by your family.

You know what actually happens when you break stuff, forget stuff, get sick, fall asleep, are rude, miss a flight, don’t know how to do XYZ thing on fixing cars or canning food or whatever, lose things, get lost because you can’t read a map and forgot to charge your phone, buy the wrong groceries, plant the wrong plants, not make your bed, make your bed wrong, jump on your bed, sleep on your bed, eat crackers in your bed, have emotions literally anywhere?

Nothing.

Nothing happens.

No one is mad.

No one can hurt you, and if they do there are laws saying they can’t and that it’s an actual crime with legal consequences.

All there are are outcomes and different paths and different problems and different situations and you just bumble your way forward into dealing with those and that’s it. That’s the whole thing. It’s not the wrong choice, having problems isn’t indicative of your inherent badness or inadequacy or lack of applying yourself. It’s just life, and it’s happening to literally everyone.

I’m not even kidding.

You just do stuff and nothing bad happens. Walk around existing? Nothing bad will happen. Wild.

You can cry. In public. And the most likely outcome is not that you will get taken away to receive the beating of your lifetime, it is that people will mostly ignore you and some will be kinder to you. 🤯

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My goal and dream and deepest desire is for every black child and every black adult to know the safety and security and hope and love we all should have been offered from birth. And even if it came late to you, I hope you know that you are still worthy of it.

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*through gritted teeth* the world is GOOD. people are kind. Humans are NOT inheritly selfish. you will make it through this year. recovery is possible. people you don't know yet will love you. You are going to do things you can't even imagine right now. You are going to read a rlly good book. You are going to eat some rlly good food. You are going to experience joy again. Things can get better. Situations can change. You can choose to be kinder. The world can change for the better.

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babygirl

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babygirl

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babygirl

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babygirl

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babygirl

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The fact that Grian calls himself a boy makes him even more annoying

????

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