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(That thing I reblogged made me think a lot and basically write an essay in the tags, so I thought I'd just edit them and put them in a post too. This is in no way a call-out post or something, just a more solid place to articulate my thoughts.) Of what the op said, I understood it as: 'youtubers/streamers don't know you -> therefore they don't care about you -> therefore you should not go to their defence when they do shitty things.' Which I don't... completely agree with. First of all, I would not say that youtubers/streamers/etc. necessarily don't care about their viewers, nor would I say that "the most meaningful interaction they're gonna have with you is making bank off your sweet clicks & views", that's a very pessimistic view of that whole situation... They can definitely have more meaningful interactions with their viewers than that, and they can definitely care about the people that view their videos. What I think the op means though, is that it's not Personal. The op&replier were both right in saying that the youtuber(s)/streamer(s)/celeb(s) don't know You Personally. (Unless- I mean- you do know each other...but that's not the dynamic were talking about here). You know Of them, because youve seen their personallity through their content most likely. You don't Know them, because you havent met or had any sort of personal relationship with them. They don't know who you are, but what I'm saying is that that doesn't mean they give 0 shits about your well-being as a fellow human-person, they care about your well-being in that way. (Assumedly... Hopefully.) They just have no super personal feelings about you like you might have about them; (you know of them, they don't know you). Also, about what the replier said about being big on Tumblr and talking to someone and accidentally intimidating them/making them feel bad... I think that people who like a person's content, (to keep it sussinct lets just call them 'viewers'), will idolize that person and put them on a pedestal and therefore will put a Lot of weight on any interaction they have with that person- more than they would with a casual interaction with a casual aquaintance. But then the idolized person may treat the conversation like any other casual interaction with a stranger, (which is, in actuality, pretty much what this is), and (of course) put far less personal weight on it than the other person. So the viewer is looking at this like it's a big big moment (which isn't super bad; its very human), and the idolized person (understandably) isnt. So when the idolized person doesn't go out of their way to be friendly, and make every moment a good one for the viewer person, the weight the viewer put on this interaction can make little things into big things, it makes the situation feel far more extreme than it actually is/is meant to be. The viewer should... keep in mind that they don't know them personally, If You were meeting a person you had previously never known or even heard of, you wouldn't be super personally extatic to meet them, y'know? It's not that you are acting distant/less personal out of wanting them to feel bad, or feel like you don't give a shit, it's just cause you literally don't know them. That can be how the idolized person feels. Also just because you dont have a personal relationship doesnt mean you don't owe them shit and shouldn't defend them. All it means is you aren't a credible source for defense of character. I mean yeah, don't just defend someone because you like their content; Have more of a moral compass than that; One that's not just guided by latching onto someone and lashing out at any opposition/dislikers they get. It just all brings us back to: they are just another person, a human being, like you- the viewer or anyone- and you should judge them as such. Your idols are just people too, and CAN BE WRONG. It's also not bad to acknowledge that. It is not black and white, like... "you either like them and defend their every action Because you like them- or you don't like them." Thats not what it is. You can still like someone and acknowledge their flaws. (OR even realize that theyre shitty! Which can hurt/disappoint, but it hurts less when you view them realistically as another human being, and accept that they can do wrong things). None of the people I admire a lot are perfect beings. None of them. Do I hate them for it? Nope. Will I acknowledge the bad things they've done as bad? Yep. I like them because, in my eyes, their good outweighs their bad and/or their mistakes. It's not so black and white... I guess, tl;dr, youtubers/streamers/tumblr-ers/etc. do give a shit about your well-being as a fellow human person (hopefully) even though they may not know you personally, (just like you don't know them personally), and it is possible to have meaningful interactions with them. Viewers/followers/fans can put a lot of weight on even small interactions, while the idolized person does not/might not realize it. They might treat it casually and the fan's blown-up perception can make little things huge to them and they can end up hurt if the idol doesn't try to make every second great, but even then... Also, have your own moral compass thats not guided simply by "I like this person so they can't do anything wrong and if anyone says they do, attack at them." Your idols are human and imperfect. tl;dr tl;dr: We may idolize each other but we're all human can make mistakes. Your idols aren't above it, so build your own personal moral compass, and judge people as people by that. (It's okay to disagree with your idols). People are people, treat every interaction as such. Just because they're famous in some way doesn't mean they don't give a shit about their fans, even if they don't know them personally and its not a Personal kind of care, they still care about their fellow human people.

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