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I think the funniest thing I learnt today was that antis DID try to make their own ao3, but the restrictions made it impossible to do anything.

Nobody on the site could agree on one solid concept of "moral" and "immoral", so it spawned a plethora of huge arguments and the site had to be shut down.

And the tagline was "good fiction for good people."

Make of all that as you will.

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Here’s a little info post on the term Oriented AroAce!

If you have any additions, feel free to comment!

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"the public education system is intently evil and all teachers are abusive because it was the worst experience ever for me personally"

guys, look, I'm legitimately sorry that happened to you. that's fucked up. it shouldn't have happened, and it shouldn't be allowed to happen again to you or anyone else. I'm sorry.

public school was hard for me too, at times, and I'm still suffering the consequences for the harsh grading, the arbitrary deadlines, the hours of completely useless-to-me homework. I could name a few teachers who have been pretty fucking terrible. the fact that nobody considered getting me evaluated for ADHD has had an impact on my self image and academic success that I can't erase.

and also.

I grew up in an area where education, in particular, is incredibly progressive-leaning. educators are working really hard to create and try out education philosophies and practices that prioritize kids and their learning, rather than teachers and what they think kids should learn.

My sex ed was comprehensive, and came entirely from school. My gay sixth grade teacher taught me about HIV/AIDs in a useful, accurate way. In high school, I learned about the way orgasms work & I was prepared not to feel shame for normal stuff.

I learned that Communism was not what the USSR actually practiced, and what it really means. I learned about atrocities and, specifically, the genocide of indigenous people committed in/by the US. I learned about the military industrial complex, the school-to-prison pipeline, and I learned about manifestations of racism specific to my local area. I learned about Stonewall, and the intersection of the civil rights movement with gay rights and disability justice.

My creative writing teacher taught us about LSD, and the real reasons we shouldn't do it, after a hilariously ineffective assembly run by some local cops. He spoke gently, carefully, and emphatically about his friends and his own experiences. Later in the semester, he read us a story he wrote about two gay men finding each other in a deeply homophobic environment.

My sci-fi teacher made me feel safe & seen as a kid with "weird" interests. My US History teacher helped me research and put together a 10-page paper on the modern relevance and mission of Feminism. My government teacher made me feel appreciated for the work I put into the class, and the thought I put into what I said in it, even though he disagreed with a lot of it. My sixth grade teacher bought me books to read with his personal money, whichever ones I asked for. My third grade teacher made me feel safe. My science teacher in middle school made me excited for and passionate about science, and saw and nurtured the effort I put into her class.

A lot of stuff sucks, absolutely. But I am seeing new teaching methods being tried out all the time, and I am watching teachers get really excited when I teach their students about the roots of modern graffiti in US black history & to question property laws, and just...

There's hope. there are so many people doing so much work to make things better. so many people agree with you on what education should be, and are trying so fucking hard to put that into action, and so many public schools- not just teachers, but whole schools and even districts- are really doing that work. so much is getting better.

I had more to say, about necessary childcare and trusted adults and outside contacts and time away from abusive family. But like. Please just sit down and listen to more people on this, and please talk to educators and education professionals about what's really going on in this big huge world of philosophy, science, and practice.

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I just saw a Tik Tok that said writers on AO3 are not looking for constructive criticism in their reviews. I have no audience on this platform so I have to know if this is true? I've always left my pros and cons when reading a fic and now I'm concerned that the authors didn't like that.

Yeah writers are Not looking for criticism, constructive or otherwise. Unless they specifically ask for it, it’s considered rude and honestly a bit hurtful. In the least bitchy way possible, don’t do that. It’s unwanted.

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the thing you need to realize about localization is that japanese and english are such vastly different languages that a straight translation is always going to be worse than the original script. nuance is going to be lost and, if you give a shit about your job, you should fill the gaps left with equivalent nuance in english. take ff6, my personal favorite localization of all time: in the original japanese cefca was memorable primarily for his manic, childish speaking style - but since english speaking styles arent nearly as expressive, woolsey adapted that by making the localized english kefka much more prone to making outright jokes. cefca/kefka is beloved in both regions as a result - hell, hes even more popular here

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I wish all of you would understand that “non-binary” and “androgynous” are not synonyms. And yes, that means you, even though you already consider yourself a trans ally, or maybe are even trans yourself.

Non-binary and androgynous are not synonyms. There are non-binary people who, say, love sports and have rugged beards. There are non-binary people who maybe love fashion and have long hair. There are non-binary people who are none of these things. They’re all equally non-binary.

And yes, this DEFINITELY includes non-binary people who were amab and are masculine, and non-binary people who were afab and are feminine.

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The more I engage with the aro community online, the more I feel that we just need.

More.

There's so many different flavors of aromantic and what that means for each person and it's sad to see infighting over what is and isn't valid representation and my advice to upcoming creators is to just.

More. Have more.

Aros who partner Aros who don't, Aros who like sex, aroaces, loveless Aros, loving Aros, Aros who focus on non romantic relationships instead Aros who focus on no relationships and find their own thing. All kinds. The microlabels too - did you even know of some of them? I bet you didn't. There's aromantic people who feel rom attraction only if it's reciprocated and vice versa! There's Aros who can't tell the difference between different types of attraction and so don't label anything. There's aros who only feel attracted after forming a deep bond. Who only rarely feel attraction. Or only under specific circumstances. There's so much variety in aromantic world. Have more representation. Just more.

I'd honestly say this for almost any type of minority rep (though there are nuances to approaching it). Bc when you have more, it's not so much pressure on getting it quote on quote "Right" at once and all your rep isn't riding on one character. Variety is always good. It avoids tokenization and coming across stereotypical

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We don't talk enough about how fluctuating needs don't only mean day-by-day. They can change pretty rapidly throughout the each day. Hour-by-hour, or even within minutes!

Anyways this lack of acknowledgement caused me to feel a little strange in the beginning because there was just no representation for my experience! Even though it should go without saying, the way a lot of people present having fluctuating needs is as if they know exactly what their limits for the day will be first thing in the morning when they wake up and that's just Not Me.

So, I'm here to let you know that you're valid for needing to make adjustments to your accommodations throughout your day, and it's okay that you can't predict the future daily. Just be prepared and make sure nobody gives you shit for it, not even yourself!!

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i feel like no one really talks about the loneliness of writing original fiction. sharing your work is hard. believing that people like it is so hard. explaining yourself to people who don’t write feels messy and the mild exasperation when you say you’re working on something new (again? another one) like you’re inconveniencing them by sharing, even if they don’t feel that way, like you have to beg people to love this world that you create and the fear that they don’t or the fear that they are pretending, that they are putting up with your writing talk.

to be creative is to be chaotic and confusing and obsessed, and sometimes it feels like too much, too often, too all-encompassing. i don’t know how to be less.

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Harry: And why shouldn’t I blame Spiderman for your injuries?? He calls himself a hero, protecting civilians like you should be his priority! Give me one good reason why I shouldn’t kick his ass for letting you get hurt!!

Peter: Because-

Newscaster on the tv next to Harry: In this footage you can see Peter Parker, known freelance photographer for the Daily Bugle, actually shove Dr. Doom out of his way while yelling “move it or lose it,” as he runs with his camera, presumably to capture more pictures of the vigilante known as “Spiderman”

Harry:

Peter: -I’m a dumbass.

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you heard him

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PLUSHIE JOHN IS REAL !!! (+pattern !!)

he is SO goofy looking . so small and angry i love him sm <3

Want to make your very own Little Guy ? Well i was smart enough to write down the pattern, so you can make your very own eldritch horror blorbo plushie !!

(I used a 4.0 mm hook)

Head (black yarn)

1: sc 6 in mc (6)

2: inc in each st around (12)

3: (sc, inc) x6 (18)

4: (2 sc, inc) x6 (24)

5: (3 sc, inc) x 6 (30)

6: (4 sc, inc) x6 (36)

7: (5 sc, inc) x6 (42)

8-14: sc each st around

15: (5 sc, dc) x6 (36)

16: (4 sc, dc) x6 (30)

17: (3 sc, dc) x6 (24)

18: (2 sc, dc) x6 (18)

19: (sc, dc) x6 (12)

20: dc all around

fasten off and leave a long tail for stitching together later !!

hood (yellow yarn)

1: sc 6 st in mc (6)

2: inc in each st (12)

3: (sc,inc) x6 (18)

4: (2 sc, inc) x6 (24)

5: (3 sc, inc) x6 (30)

6: (4 sc, inc) x6 (36)

7: (5 sc, inc) x6 (42)

8: (6 sc, inc) x6 (48)

9-16: sc in each st

you can add more rounds to make the hood longer if you like ! make sure to test and stuff Johns head into it to find your preferred hood length.

Body (black yarn)

1: 6 sc in mc (6)

2: inc each st (12)

3: (sc, inc) x6 (18)

4: (2 sc, inc) x6 (24)

5: (3 sc, inc) x6 (30)

6: (4 sc, inc) x6 (36)

7: (5 sc, inc) x6 (42)

8: (6 sc, inc) x6 (48)

9-11: sc each st

12: (6 sc, dc) x6 (42)

13: (5 sc, dc) x6 (36)

14: sc each st around (36)

15: sc each st around (36)

16: (4 sc, dc) x6 (30)

17: sc each st around (30)

18: sc each st around (30)

19: (3 sc, dc) x 6 (24)

20: sc each st around (24)

21: (2 sc, dc) x6 (18)

Fasten off and leave a long tail for stitching later !!

Horns (I used a 3.0 mm hook) (Black yarn)

Make two !!

1: 3 sc in mc (3)

2: inc in each st around (6)

3: (sc, inc) x3 (9)

Cape (I use a 3.0 mm hook) (Yellow yarn)

Chain 14. I used half double crochet but you can use whatever you like, it just has to wrap around mini John nicely. in the case of my plush i did 32 rows of half double crochet.

Sewing together:

Sew on the horns first, and then do the eyes. I embroidered mine in, but you can use whatever you like !!

for the cape, sew a button into one top corner. in the other corner, chain enough to loop over the button and then slip stitch into the same side as the chain to make a loop.

I recommend using the string from the body rather than the head to stitch, but use whichever is more comfortable with you. go layer by layer and slow. you are stitching together the head, hood and body all at one time.

Then, you have made a mini John. Take care of him !! Or not, he deserves to go in a salad spinner, too.

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Aesthetic

The computer said my next patient’s name was Lucifer, and that he was a domestic. Not that an unusual name for a pet, I have to admit.

“Come on in. Do you have Lucifer hiding in that box for me?” I say. A gentleman dressed all in black with a rather spiky aesthetic and a selection of piercings comes into my consult room and opens the box.

He places a perfectly black rabbit on the table.

Honestly, I had been expecting a cat.

Turns out Lucifer is his new rabbit. He’d insisted on taking it from a friend who wasn’t taking care of it a few months ago.

Lucifer, for his part, had decided the table was too scary and that his dad’s leather clad armpit was the best place to be.

To my surprise and delight, our new goth rabbit owner is doing everything right. Perfect diet, read up on rabbit health, vaccinating, enrichment, the works.

He even started a vegetable garden to grow treats for the rabbit, or as he put it, “tributes for lucifer.”

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We don’t talk enough about how fanfiction writers love to give character large amounts of non-specific paperwork they hate doing

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A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you don’t want to “be old,” you aren’t talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a race—one couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80s—and I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.

If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. That’s it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Don’t poison yourself, move around so your body doesn’t forget how, and eat plants.

If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because it’s immoral not to, but because that’s still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, I’m looking at you.

If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because they’re bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurants—they can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just can’t. However, canned beans always seem “safe,” and they taste a bit like candy, so they’re a good fallback.

If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and you’re just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know it’s insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.

You cannot rules lawyer your way past your body’s basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so don’t punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experiment—you don’t have to know instantly what’s going to work for you and what won’t, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things aren’t working for you.

You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you can’t see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. You’ll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. You’ll get tired more easily.

But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And don’t do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesn’t quit whatever stimulant he’s on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.

Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.