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Whe the FUCK is tiktok allowing a bunch of shitty "debate meee" livestreams that say "being a lesbian is immoral" as a background?? I've had it with this homophobic misogynistic piece of shit app. I don't care if the person demanding debate is "just" using that to get people in to the stream it's disgusting.

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Why on earth is anyone taking this shoddy cass review seriously?

I'm sorry but it's baffling how an actual government is uncritically taking this review at face value. It literally only comes to the conclusion it does because it ignore literally all other evidence. They excluded a shit ton of studies because they didn't have enough controls, which sounds reasonable but in order to have those controls they'd have to unknowingly give patients placebos instead of the hormonal therapy and puberty blockers they asked for.

That would be an extremely unethical thing to do, and would achieve nothing because the effects of hormonal therapy and puberty blockers are extremely obvious.

Just let that sit with you for a moment. All that clinical evidence completely thrown out the window because they didn't do a horrific and unethical test on their patients. All that clinical evidence ignored because the study was ethical. This is an extreme oversight at BEST and deliberate misinformation at worst. Either way, it makes the review extremely unreliable.

That's just one issue. But the fact that the vast, VAST majority of research was completely ignored due to a ridiculous and unethical requirement should be enough for you to oppose anyone using this as evidence for anything other than why queer people need to be included in scientific discussions about our communities. Because this review is being used to roll back LGBT rights.

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'Revenge is bad' to YOU. i love when a character destroys everyone who wronged them. i love when they get to bite and maim and tear and rip and scratch and kill. Sorry ur catholic about it but i'm different

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I don't support any social theory that says women aren't allowed to say no to men

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actually, I DID have gender dysphoria as a teenage girl without being exposed to anything about it on the internet, on top of "racial dysphoria" and body dysmorphia

there were points I DID want to kill myself because i wasn't, or bleach my skin or change my body, i would have done anything to be a white boy at one point

which is both sad and funny to me because i remember two of my then good friends explain being enby and transgender to me and me being like "that doesn't make any sense" and it's because of trans-discourse we eventually broke up. the closest i ever got to accepting trans-ideology was transmedicalism with weak support for "queer" culture. i did not understand pronouns, but i understood dysphoria. but i did not understand how one could be a man or woman without the sex characteristics.

how did i heal?

one, i left church. that was one of the places i was most scrutinized for my physical body. two, i distanced from my parents, especially my mom. who often made my ocd and body-image worse (not because she was mean, but because she was always fretting about "decency"). three, i focused on bettering my personal space. writing, reading, watching my comfort shows, getting the focus off me. four, i started eating better, and my body became less burdensome. i stopped getting horrible period pain. five, i surrounded myself with self-confident women and stopped trying to resurrect toxic friendships with girls and boys (especially boys). started eliminating each toxic friend and focusing my efforts on healthier relationships. six, i'd started educating myself on my own history, watching and listening to more black and African people. even when i didn't enjoy what they made or resonate with it, i found i appreciated the experience and could allow myself to hate or love whatever i found.

by the time i discovered radical feminism, this was like, the final step for me: consuming women-centric literature and media. this was HUGE. i'd see paintings and photography of women in all shapes, colors and sizes. i'd listen to master musicians, read women philosophers, anthropologists, etc. this started mending a lot of what caused initial disquiet when it came to my dysphoria or dysmorphia.

basically, i took myself out of bad environments (especially those which force you to scrutinize every detail about yourself, like social media, i took long breaks from that), drew boundaries with people i couldn't get rid of, learned about myself (ocd, dyscalculia, anxiety, female biology) so that i developed understanding and could empathize, stopped centering men and white people.

now, while there's still a hint or trace of dysmorphia and dysphoria, it doesn't plague my life. it's like the occasional itch. more of a mild temptation to go down a dark hole than an actual threat. and i've learned how to handle those.

i learned the root of things. not just my history, but the root of how society worked and how it affected me. and i'm still learning, and my life is still improving.

so yeah, girls and women going through this is normal and common. anyone who is used to who they are being shameful is more at risk (like gnc lgb kids), but you can recover. usually better if you get out of the places that are making you sick.

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Can't imagine living in a country so obsessed with patriarchal standard marriage that the WIFE of the president is expected to do shit. Like... Leave her out of it she didn't get elected.

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Men: Women just care about looks and money!

Women: so he's a ghoul that has been alive for 200 or so years, his skin and nose have half melted off by the radiation, his only belonging worth anything is a hat and I love him!

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Even from the same sources (NHS and CDC) men’s cancers are referred to as such while women’s cancers are not. But tell me again about how it’s about inclusivity…

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I really love this instagram post specifically because the person asking the question is simultaneously making the answer impossible. If they had worded it normally ("Almost all women menstruate - so, why is there still so much stigma?"), the answer would have been obvious - only women menstruate, and because of misogyny, normal female bodily processes are stigmatised. But by not acknowledging this reality in the "info" graphic, we will never reach a conclusion - the question will forever remain unanswered.

So why does menstruation still remain stigmatised? It's disgust towards the female anatomy and the imperative towards women to hide their female physiology. It's the shame and humiliation that is hammered into every little girl's brain when she discovers that she is female, and her realisation that she will have to make her female body appear presentable if she does not want to risk social ostracisation. That's the reason. And unless we understand the direct link between female anatomy, reproductive capability and misogyny, we are never going to solve that problem.

So yeah, that's what we mean when we say that gender-inclusive language is robbing us of our words. That's it.

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it is soooo crazy how male friendships are always better because in female friendships girls just fight all the time but also there is a male loneliness epidemic because men dont talk about their feelings with their friends and they need to rely on women

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before you come onto my posts and tell me that you are a male and respect women or you know a male who respects women please be aware that from the bottom of my heart i do not give a fuck. i believe that is possible. good for you. but this is not a pemdas class and your one friend doesn't cancel out all the governments and religions who define women as objects & the local men who agree with and cultivate this idea participating in traditions such as honor killings, the masses of incels online, the insane amounts of sex trafficking cases & the even more insane amounts of men watching porn with abused women in it, the way men talk about prostitutes and porn actressess, the way men treat women in business, STEM and academia, the way tons of them treat their wives, girlfriends and especially women that reject them romantically. in other words if it doesn't disprove the fact that misogyny is either a systemic issue or that it's at least deeply rooted in people's worldviews to the point that it can, and does, gain general mass approval or at least tolerance (even from some women!) that allows it to be perpetuated to the point that you can form a general conclusion/rule (and almost every rule has an exception, yeah) that is "men do this to women because of their sex", your contrargument means nothing. please don't waste your time!

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Males love to talk about men and women being "biologically hard-wired" for certain behaviors until you bring up the fact that they seem to be biologically predisposed towards violence and sexual depravity.

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You will know how much this world hates women and don't gaf about them when you realise that a huge majority of videos or lectures that discuss "anti pornography" will provide you reasons that mostly centers "males health" and how their useless ding-dongs stopped working and about to fall off because of being active on porno websites 24/7. While not breathing a word about how porn and sex industry had many women exploited and brutally abused and raped or how it affects women's choices.

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Studying teaching and reading debates about school praxis makes it so clear how boys are prioritised over girls. Some studies showed how girls perform better than boys in almost every single subject (except P.E) and pointed out that boys usually perform worse in the first year but then catch up. And now they are reforming the entire grading system because of that, so earlier grades will be irrelevant. Never have I ever seen such rapid action to change as when boys fall behind. The entire debate on how to get kids to read more is also catering to the boys. The girls will read anything so pick something the boys want to read! The boys empathize to and relate more to a male protagonist! Girls have had to learn, since early childhood, to empathize with and relate to men because most media is centered around men. Empathizing with different people is a crucial skill to have and if we dont force the boys to learn that too they'll grow up with zero empathy for women. They need to learn. I don't give a shit if they're bored.

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Thinking about Maria MacLachlan's (PeakTrans) latest video and how she excellently described the process of a feminist left-wing women (like JK Rowling) becoming critical of the trans movement.

At first, you are basically in what she called a 'blissful ignorance'. Your opinion of the trans movement is "live and let others live". Then you start to notice little things that are just plain wrong, like men stealing trophies from women and lesbians being told they are not allowed to tell on a dating app that they are into females only.

So you decide to voice your opinion. You say something like, "I have nothing against trans people who just want to live their lives, but i find this [particular thing] harmful and unfair". You are assuming and fully expecting in your blissful ignorance, nothing more from it. Maybe a bit of debate, but mostly understanding since all these points you made are good points after all, and this is the self-proclaimed feminist LGB+ "be kind" brigade so the rights of women and gay people should matter, right?

Instead, you receive abuse. Not just any abuse, but misogynistic abuse, threats, doxxing, lies, twisting your words, and attempts to make you lose your lifelihood.

First, you are shocked, but then you start to feel angry. Angry and betrayed. You start to wonder how many others like you have been shut out and silenced by trans activists. You may start by looking up "that one woman" who you think was not entirely treated fairly, but you had earlier decided to accept the trans activists' version that she is just "a bigot".

You find out that despite trans activists vehemently claiming some things never happen, they do happen. They just willfully ignore them. You find out people criticising trans movement are feminists, LGB people, concerned parents, medical experts, and even trans people themselves. Trans activists just lie when they claim they are far-righters and conservatives. You find out they do not want trans people dead. It is the trans activists who send them death threats and show up to their events to "punch terfs".

And you become angrier, so you decide you will not be silenced. You decide to talk more and raise more awareness. The more you criticise and the more you share, the more abuse trans activists send to you. And the angrier you become.

Then the useful idiots see your anger and are convinced you are just a hater that should not be listened to. Why else would you be so angry?

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Fuckin love a transcribed video. Like I don't wanna hear you talk. Video essay who? I don't know them.