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is there a reason you stopped posting lewds? I like your art and stuff too, just wondering :)

I've been mostly working but starting to look for another job or at least second job. Still selling lewds just not super publicly

Existence is stressy.

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First animation attempt

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Self portrait while also using a reference pose

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Some art that I created recently (I’ve been trying to get better with facial features

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drink your coffee & read your books. It's chaos out there

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Boy King

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i love you like all-fire

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How can you help your friends and family members navigating loss from suicide?

As someone who lost my best friends after losing my spouse to suicide, I can tell you what not to do. But I'll try to write them in terms of what to do instead:

- reach out and check in regularly, this can be a text, a phone call, sending them a meme, showing up with dinner, taking them out to do something, even a walk

- don't take offense if they don't ask how you're doing or aren't able to be the normal person you know them as. What they're dealing with is changing them and incredibly hard to get through. They don't mean to be aloof, miserable, full of despair, they just really can't be anyone other than that right now.

- don't be petty. Don't start making this into a transactional relationship (I was there for you during x, where were you during y?).

- offer to help with errands, chores, meals, childcare. Literally everything is 20x harder through grief like this. The first few months, I could barely function. I even missed renewing registration for my car, paying important bills, my sister's birthday. Everything is just way harder and they're going to face blocks with doing certain things, and some of those things may be even taking care of themselves.

- acknowledge their feelings, don't dismiss them. Listen actively. Allow them to express their feelings

-Allow them to talk about the person they lost. They're now processing their life without this person and rewriting their entire memories knowing they are gone.

- they are going to be exhausted for a long time because grief is exhausting. Understand that and understand if and when they cancel on you last minute, they need to cut things short and however that may manifest.

- remember important dates - every birthday, every death anniversary, every holiday is going to be incredibly difficult for them. If you can check in with them on those days, it can mean a lot and help a lot to get through them.

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Self portrait

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Some lil creations

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“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”

― Jamie Anderson

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Grieving, grieving, constantly grieving. I mourn what could have been, what should have been, what will not be, what I cannot save.

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I grieve the little things I did not get to say to you and the things I never will.

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being alive is like,, being so full of love and so full of loss at the same time. a lot to carry around either way.