sparxemberflame
sparxemberflame
"What was unsaid will remain so...
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How can I live with that? How can anyone?" Hia! 27 bi, Any pronouns (preferably fun ones) who loves Critical Role, Cartoons, Dungeons and Dragons and all my friends. Avatar by @Yondoloki
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“The bird in Charlie’s Angels is, I believe, the wrongest bird in the history of cinema — and one of the weirdest and most inexplicable flubs in any movie I can remember. It is elaborately, even ornately wrong.” (I was slack-jawed by the end of this.)
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sparxemberflame ¡ 33 minutes ago
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when ovulation hits
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sparxemberflame ¡ 35 minutes ago
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this is peak Craigslist
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sparxemberflame ¡ 5 hours ago
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this scene was funny as fuck in my head
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sparxemberflame ¡ 9 hours ago
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absolutely love abusing the power that comes with 3rd person limited pov and just ignoring things and being vague sometimes. does the character know all the details? no? then I don't have to either.
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sparxemberflame ¡ 9 hours ago
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someone in the UK threw eggs at Charles and was arrested and has been banned from openly carrying eggs in public and has since been sent death threats but their statement on the matter was so fucking good
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sparxemberflame ¡ 11 hours ago
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sparxemberflame ¡ 12 hours ago
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The problem with having a child with an attorney that has spoken to the child like an adult since birth is that she's 4 years old and she's negotiating the order in which we're going to complete tasks as a family to best suit her idea of an ideal day.
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sparxemberflame ¡ 12 hours ago
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Re: my “don’t ‘test’ people, communicate your needs, because they aren’t instinctive to others” post:
I feel like a lot of people are reading that post and saying “if your friend/partner/colleague can’t be arsed to take the initiative, be courteous, or anticipate reasonable needs, they’re a selfish baby”
Which, on one hand, yes! Distributing labour in a shared space is a form of invisible labour that typically women are saddled with in disproportionately high percentages, but that wasn’t actually what I was saying
If the first time you notice something you desire isn’t being fulfilled you decide to test the other person and judge whether or not they care about you, that’s shitty. You have the responsibility to say “hey, I noticed this and it bothers me for this reason, when you do this I feel like this, can you do something else?”.
If you have done that REPEATEDLY and see no change, then it may be reasonable to conclude that the other person is disregarding your words.
If this is something that you have never pointed out before, or that you spontaneously decided to look for, or something that’s only come up once, don’t fucking “test” people. Don’t lie. Don’t try and “trap” them. That’s shitty. Come on
I’m a messy person with ADHD. I live alone. I clean up after myself and feed myself and everything an independent adult does on a schedule that WORKS for me. If you suddenly appear in my space and hate how I live but say nothing, I’m going to take you at face value and believe that you’re okay until you say otherwise.
Because why wouldn’t I? Why would I believe you’re lying to my face about your preferences and needs? Why would you want me to never believe what you say???
SAY WHAT YOU NEED. TELL ME HOW TO SHOW I CARE ABOUT YOUR COMFORT AND I WILL USE THAT INFORMATION.
Don’t just change a detail in your behaviour and judge mu character based on whether or not I can Sherlock Holmes your intent and desires off that alone
Attitude is communicated in REPEATED AND CLEARLY COMMUNICATED PATTERNS, not in one-offs, assumptions, and symbolism open to interpretation.
People are people, not books or TV shows. You can talk to them- you don’t have to do a literary analysis on whether or not a carton of milk means I’m a selfish bastard who doesn’t love you
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sparxemberflame ¡ 1 day ago
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Frame 8 of now 10! for the Critical frames project!
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i have a croissant related grievance
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Don't
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