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THIS BLOG IS ABOUT TO BE DELETED!

If there were any posts here that you don't want to lose access to, I suggest you save them now. I'll explain everything on main later, but in short, I'm leaving the MCYT fandom.

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For the duration of June 14th, all of my blogs, with the exception of the Jellie Memorial, will have Barack Obama as the pfp.

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This Pride Month, remember:

Infighting is a tool of the fascist state to divide and conquer us. We are all faggots in the eyes of the state. The first Pride was a riot. Hold on to that energy.

Stay strong. Stay alive.

Gay, lesbian, transgender, nonbinary, asexual, aromantic, bisexual, pansexual, two-spirit, intersex who wish to be included, MOGAI, xenogender, and everything in-between and combined, know this: I LOVE YOU.

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PSA

Just a heads up, there are bots going around on AO3 accusing people of using AI. Considering the timing, this is likely AI bros' retaliation for AO3 users calling them out for scraping their work. Examples of what you might be sent:

Screenshots from here.

If you get a comment like this, just report for spam and delete.

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"A society that separates its lore masters from its horny posters will have its headcanons written by prudes and its erotic fanfic by fools."

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My fish army. I need you.

If you are a fanfiction author who posts to AO3. Your work has probably been scraped into these datasets.

Send them a copyright takedown notice if you think your work is in this. Escalate to a DMCA report if you need to: https://www.copyright.gov/512/sample-notice.pdf (and send it to: dmca@huggingface.co)

Make sure to grab all your work IDs from Ao3.

Restrict your work to the archive.

Glaze your art.

So many of us are affected. You aren't alone. Maybe together we can take down this theft.

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I mean we could discuss the nuanced differences between erotic art and porn, because one is not necessarily the other, blah blah blah

But we won't. Because this post is about porn.

Draw PORN.

White PORN.

more people need to give themselves permission to write and draw pornography

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Round 0

@couldtheybekira

“The best Death Note gimmick blog”

@etho-spotted

(no propaganda submitted)

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Reblogging proof of my claim that I coined the shop name skizzlewood. In light of recent events ☺️

I just checked A03 for Martyn/Skizz and such a ship does not exist as far as I can tell. There was no such thing as skizzlewood before today. I am a pioneer.

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@lavendernlilac

oh no! my porn without plot just grew a plot. # the horror

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reblog this if your blog is a safe space on april fools and won’t have any jumpers, screamers, or anything scary or anxiety inducing

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Alright, I need to have a chat with the teenagers that follow me, specifically regarding lying about your age and nsfw content. This isn’t directed at anyone, but I think it’s a convo that needs to be had in general.

I was a teenager once. I get it. Everyone lies about their age online. Maybe not to other people, but I’m sure every minor has clicked a ‘yeah, sure, I’m 18+” button at some point in their lives. I’m not here to shame you for that.

What I am here to say is it is vital that teenagers understand the difference between engaging in sexual content independently (ie, entering a fake birthday to access 18+ content), and lying about your age to engage in sexual activities with others online (joining discord servers/using nsfw channels intended for adults only/lying about your age to talk to nsfw content creators/commissioning nsfw art/etc).

Lying about your age to a website so you can look at porn is one thing. It’s an entirely independent experience, where the only consent that really matters is yours. Nobody has any power over you in this situation, and there’s about no chance of legal consequences.

However, lying about your age to other human beings is extremely different. If you’re engaging in nsfw roleplay with a friend about the same age as you, talking about sex with other teenagers, sharing nsfw fics among friends, that’s one thing. But do not lie about your age to engage in sexual activities/discussions. Not only is something that could have actual legal ramifications, and very serious ones depending on what’ going on, but it’s a violation of the other people’s consent. The moment other real people are involved, you need to be respectful of their boundaries & what is and isn’t appropriate for you to be engaging with. If they say no minors, I don’t care if you’re 17.5, you stay out until you are 18 years old.

Examples of situations where it is never okay to lie or mislead anyone about your age online include:

Joining/accessing nsfw channels or servers on discord.

Yes, I know it’s very easy to just click that little red button on discord that lets you access the channel you’re so curious about. It looks just like the one you see on adult websites that you click without thinking.

Don’t do it.

If channels are 18+ then you stay out of them. There are other real life human beings involved who did not give consent to have a minor in an adult orientated space.

Engaging with nsfw creators/content directly

ie, commissioning nsfw artwork, following or talking to nsfw creators who’ve asked for no interactions from minors/flagged their accounts as 18+ only, subscribing to nsfw creators on patron, nsfw roleplay, etc.

Joining/engaging with adult only communities, like Fetlife or cam sites.

Engaging in romantic and/or sexual online relationships

Any time you are talking with one or more other real human beings, particularly any adults, in a sexual context.

I know that adult websites have basically trained teenagers to just say they’re 18 and move on, but it is vital that teenagers understand that it is never okay to lie about your age when directly engaging in any kind of sexual activity. Knowing people’s age is a vital part of consent, and if an adult is found to have been engaging in sexual activity with a minor, they could face life long legal consequences. Not only that, but a basic facet of consent is clear, honest communication. If you are lying to a partner, then you do not have consent. Lying about your age is a huge violation of consent.

That’s not to say you can never mention sex around adults online. There are times and places where you may be asking for advice, or even just making jokes about sex or whatever. That’s all well and good, so long as everyone is on the same page. It’s on adults to make sure that we are behaving appropriately around minors online, and make sure that we’re setting boundaries in those relationships. But it’s on minors to communicate that they are minors, and respect those boundaries that are set.

So, tl;dr,

Lying about your age to access a porn site is fine. Lying about your age to engage in sexual situations/adult-only spaces where other real human beings are involved is not.

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My #1 source of dysphoria is my voice. It's SO soft and feminine and I FUCKING hate it! Especially my bitchass customer service voice! I sound like a preppy 13yr old girl. No hate to preppy 13yr old girls, but as a 34yr old transmasc nonbinary person, I don't want to sound like one.

I know I could just Google it or search on YouTube, but I want to hear from others transmascs. What are some of your favorite voice training guides? How long did it take for you to get the hang of speaking differently using them?

I can't go on T bc of health reasons, so please don't suggest that I microdose T like fuckass Reddit.

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There needs to be a word for "I don't like this but I'm not policing you because it doesn't hurt anyone to enjoy this" because "proship" has connotations now that means you yourself enjoy taboo stuff in Fandom and like nah. I don't. I just don't care if other people are writing about it so long as they properly and safely tag stuff, you know? And the OLD version of proshipping meant that. But NOW its become a catch all for a person who is actively causing harm and dismissing people who are uncomfortable and that's not what that used to mean.

I need a word that means I'm a believer in freedom of the press, freedom of creation, and freedom of expression so long as it safely lays within the boundaries of proper tagging and not being forced onto other people.

I don't want to read about incest, I think it's super fucking gross but I'm not going to force someone to stop writing about fictional characters in a fictional space if its tagged where people aren't going to see it.

I need a word for that. I need a word that means I don't go here but I'm all for freedom of expression ESPECIALLY because I know a lot of people do this for 2 reasons- 1: it's a safe place to explore the taboo and its ok to be curious. The majority of people are not writing and reading this stuff because they want to do this in real life it's just a fantasy. And 2: there is a significant amount of people writing these taboo subjects as a form of healing their own traumas and its none of my business to make them share that trauma to prove they deserve to be allowed freedom of creation.

I need a word that means I support that freedom to create without policing.

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Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

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When you can self censor if desired: when you are talking shit on the Thing and don't want your post to show up in the tag or search as a courtesy to people who like the Thing. Example: I can't fucking stand bl0rbo bl!ngus (as opposed to properly spelling blorbo blingus to keep it out of searches for blorbo blingus)

When you should not self censor: when you are discussing or tagging for sensitive topic, because doing so forces the topic in front of people who have it blacklisted to protect themselves. Example: Glup Shitto committed suicide (as opposed to censoring su!c!de, or worse, the TikTok coined "sewer slide")

Tumblr is not TikTok. Please use real words and stop censoring your language, especially your sensitive topics.