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why I left @bisappho

short version: I realized I’m a lesbian and in addition to that, the blog wasn’t a good fit for me. 

long version: buckle up, because I have a lot of things to say and I’ve stayed quiet about this for almost two years now. 

when I first joined the blog, it had a little less than 9,000 followers. I became a mod through @butchthalia, a friend I met and got to know fairly well online. she told me it would be the three of us–her, me, and one other mod. she also said I would have to go through a trial period to see if the chemistry between us worked well. (hint: it didn’t.) 

since I don’t know if the other mod is comfortable with me sharing their main blog, I’m going to refer to the other mods as mod Luna (@butchthalia) and mod Celestia (the other mod). 

things were okay for the first couple days. I reblogged a post here, queued a post there, reblogged already answered asks with extra advice. but then I got promoted to an admin, and the situation rapidly got worse. I started to notice several things that were off:

when I reblogged a post, it would show up on the blog for five minutes to half an hour. but the next time I refreshed the notes page, it was gone.  

all the posts I queued would mysteriously disappear from the ‘queue’ tab before they could be posted. 

any original post I made either a) got no notes (I later realized this was because they had been made private) or b) were deleted by the next day. 

and finally:

whenever I answered an ask, it would almost immediately be deleted from the blog. also, the askbox was never open, and when I tried to open it, I would refresh the page eagerly looking for new asks, only to find it closed again. 

now, at first I thought these were just glitches. I checked my computer for viruses, new browser updates, and re-downloaded the app on my phone just for good measure. but about a week into modding the blog, I realized the technology wasn’t at fault–someone was actively sabotaging my attempts to act as a mod for the blog. 

for a while, I didn’t trust Luna or Celestia, and acted normally, though I did check their main blogs every so often to see if either one of them was gullible enough to post something dissing me or gloating about their sabotage of my efforts. that didn’t happen, of course. in fact, it never really clicked until the day I was asked to leave the blog. 

Luna told me that Celestia had filed a complaint with her, saying I didn’t know or understand anything about how to run such an important active blog, as evidenced by my inability to successfully reblog and queue posts, as well as answer asks quickly and efficiently (much less at all). Luna had agreed with her, so what else could I do? I left the blog, tail between my legs, and tried not to be bitter about it. I tried so hard not to be bitter, because I thought everything was over. 

I couldn’t have been more wrong. 

five days after leaving bisappho, I got a little nostalgic and decided to reminisce on the good times I’d had with my fellow mods. but after scrolling for a solid ten minutes, I couldn’t find a single post I had reblogged, and my mod introduction as well as notice of departure were both gone. it was like I had never existed. 

I never found out why Celestia hated me so much. to this day, I still don’t know why she went to so much effort to get rid of me. maybe she wanted the blog for herself. maybe she really just didn’t feel safe around me. I don’t know, because she had me blocked by the time I was kicked out. 

I can’t show you any proof that this happened. hell, sometimes I wonder if that’s really what happened myself. but after talking to @disasterbisexual, who was a mod on there for about two weeks or so, I realized the exact same thing had been happening to every single mod that wasn’t Luna or Celestia. the only difference between the original mods is that Celestia was the one who complained, and refused to interact with us directly. 

you don’t have to stop following bisappho. you don’t have to send anons demanding her to tell the truth, or drawing attention to this matter. but I think people need to know that Celestia is not a good person, and if you make yourself vulnerable to her by asking for advice, you need to know what you’re getting yourself into. 

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i havent seen a pride flag for kinksters, so i went ahead and made one!! 

grey is for the dark color paint water turns

black is for fishnet tights that are 2x too small and give you rugburn

red is for hemophiles and ppl who arent afraid to fuck on their periods

pink is for the of the furry handcuffs i bought at the dollar store

yellow is for piss kink

pls @ me if you use it in your edits!! im so excited to see them owo

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@prettyanti

sorry but “no cops at pride” is just another tactic to target and exclude ace/aro people. what about ace cops? do they not belong at pride? cops who are ace are 100% valid and welco nah just kidding but it sounds like something someone on here would say

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my Hot Takes:

aces n aros arent inherently lgbt

demisexuality is a modifier describing (normal) sexual attraction and therefore not a valid sexual orientation

the split attraction model harms questioning LGBT kids and teens 

MOGAI is the #1 reason internalized homophobia is so widespread on tumblr 

q*eer is a slur, not an identity 

only lesbians can reclaim dyke 

wlw can call themselves butch/femme but ONLY if they’re currently in sapphic relationships (its primarily a lesbian term, im still kinda flexible on this stance tbh)  

you dont need dysphoria to be trans/nb

nb belongs under the t (im a nb lesbian so dont try to start shit by calling me a nbphobe) 

you cant be gay and aroace at the same time bc platonic attraction = wanting to be friends with someone which doesnt make you inherently lgbt 

pwease give me a promo uwu!! @lesbophobish @yiffscourse @mean-allodyke

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so heres the long and short of it: 

back in 2016, 16 yr old me was a nightmare. I was a pretty popular tumblr blog. had a lot of friends, mutuals, and followers, roughly like 5,000. but I was a dumbass racist bitch who hid behind my self-dxd autism (which I found out I dont even have) whenever someone called me out on my bullshit. I called a wlwoc who told me to shut the fuck up about racial issues that didn’t affect me a TERF for not knowing my pronouns. then I told everyone to report her for harrassment. that was probably the ugliest thing ive ever done, and tbh? im probably gonna regret it till the day I die. 

the only reason im not gonna personally try to make amends with that person is she made triggered jokes @ me & other ppl when we talked abt our trauma and accused me of sexually assaulting my ex gf when the opposite is what actually happened. my ex raped me, but nobody took my pain seriously bc a lot of ugly radfems lie abt trans women raping them. I literally got told that bc shes a wlwoc and a trans woman, shes physically incapable of sexually assaulting a white AFAB person like me. this pushed me deeper into my racism and transmisogyny until I got a wake up call when one of my trans friends of color told me they would ditch me if I didnt stop having a victim complex. 

I narrowly avoided becoming a radfem, and had to cut ties with a lot of ex friends who ended up being super popular TERF blogs. 3 years later, im back on tumblr to spread positivity instead of being a bitch and call out ppl who act like I did when I was a stuck up snobby racist brat. I fully acknowledge my white privilege, understand that being jewish has no impact on my race whatsoever bc judaism is a religion and not a race, and understand now that aces are not and never will be inherently lgbt. 

tl;dr: im sorry to everyone whos been hurt by my shitty behavior and im gonna try hard to do better this time.

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*･ﾟﾟ･*:.｡..｡.:*ﾟ:*:✼✿ radfems, neo nazis, transmeds, MAPs/noMAPs, trump supporters, and inclusionists don’t interact ✿✼:*ﾟ:.｡..｡.:*･ﾟﾟ･*

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the sun and moon lesbian flags are cancelled

the creator isn’t a lesbian and unironically uses the d slur to refer to themselves

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repeat after me

if you are not a lesbian, don’t make edits of the lesbian flag 

don’t design your own versions of the lipstick lesbian flag and slap an aesthetic word onto the end 

unlike for nonlesbians, the lesbian flag actually means something to us

if you’re not a lesbian, you don’t understand lesbian culture

if you’re not a lesbian, you have no right to make ‘strawberry lesbian’ or ‘moon lesbian’ flags

die mad about it

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can we talk about how this @disasterbisexual bitch is claiming that @questioninglesbians, an advice blog run BY AND FOR questioning lesbians, who first posted the sun and moon lesbian flags FOUR YEARS AGO, stole their fucking flags?? no?? ok.

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ill buy one uwu

in june 2019 someone is gonna make “anti-queer [lesbian/gay/bi/insert LGBT identity here/etc.] and proud” buttons and sell them on ebay

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this but unironically 

Queer is a slur and no cishet should ever say it for any reason but also it has nothing to do with the lgbt+ community and if you dare mention them both in the same breathe you’re a homophobe

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C*ll me by your name should have been shut down and given backlash from the minute it went into production and instead it was given accolade after accolade and a sequel AND now arm and hammer and Timothee drake think they’re a new like….ally or whatever to the lgbt community for playing this pedophilic relationship out on screen and now their brainless fans are enroaching onto MY Batman and MY robin?? Saying that these two would be PERFECT for the role and going as far to suggest romantic undertones because these brainless heterosexuals are so obsessed with watching two white men have sex on screen to understand the severity of their actions I’m. Truly disgusted. Shut up about cmb//yn and shut up about these two actors I’m SICK OF IT

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Can y'all do me a favor and stop saying pansexuality is “hearts not parts” thanks

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guess its a good thing im a nonbinary person here to tell u that literally every bisexual i know says pansexuality is transphobic

🎅 dear santa, i would really love it if cis people would stop claiming pansexuality is transphobic 🎅

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‘demi’ was short for ‘demigender’ until yall decided it should mean “““demisexual”““ and as a demigender person im never going to forgive you for taking it away from us 

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aphobic wlw follow train!!

like or reblog this post if you’re a fellow aphobic sapphic!! I need more blogs to follow!!

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this is why I am personally going to oppress every single ace I come across 

What the hell is with aces and sheep???

i thought it was after they cloned dolly the sheep it was like a cheeky “asexual reproduction” thing but im pretty sure its because there was a “study” that said sheep can be ace because some sheep dont exhibit mating behavior

this is apparently convincing evidence to call sheep “asexual” even though the definition of asexual has to do with feelings about sexual attraction and not behavior and we all know non-ace celibate people exist and “aces can have sex and enjoy sex and want sex and be sexual!1!1!!”

but maybe my stupid allo dumb sexy sex brain just isnt intellectual enough to see why asexuality and celibacy are different in people but the same in sheep