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PSA about helping someone u think is being abused:

It's pretty easy to pick up on once you know the signs, but noticing someone needs help and actually helping are two very different things. And when it comes to things like this it's scary, how do u help? How do u keep them and urself safe from this person? What can u possibly do?

The answer is, not very much. U can help collect evidence for them, but that's really the most u can do to help get them out of that situation. The rest is mostly just being there to emotionally support them through this. If possible, provide a safe, neutral space for them to spend time in when they can. If they're comfortable with it, shittalk their abuser with them! They will feel more comfortable with u if u recognize what the abuser does and acknowledge how bad it is. This being said, don't be antagonistic towards their abuser bc it could spark issues that the victim will suffer for. You also should give them space to completely forget their abuser exists. That's where the true joy is. They need a chance to feel free and comfortable sometimes, to have fun and peace where they aren't scared or worried about things taking a turn.

Be sure to validate their feelings and thoughts, don't be alarmed if they get comfortable enough to talk about how they wish their abuser would die, or they wish they could kill/harm them. It's a feeling that comes with the situation, and it isn't genuine intent to cause harm. However, if they talk about wanting to remove themselves from the situation, or they start showing signs of suicidal ideation, take this very seriously. Try to convince them to seek help if it's safe for them, support them, if you have the ability to do so, let them know they are loved and wanted. But again, if you aren't capable of these things, don't force it. Pretending to care will only make them feel worse.

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I just got a new tattoo where they had to shave my back and every time I go out in the heat I get a really bizarre and almost painful frission where the hair is growing back 😫

Sensory issues are so dumb. Like why did I wake up feeling all panicky after merely changing my blanket? I thought I was having a trauma response or some shit.

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Me currently going through my divorce

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When the heat index is over 100 by 10 o'clock outfit changes are sometimes necessary.

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The urge to bother my mutuals

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had to show you guys. he looks so unbelievably bad. for context he always gets shit crusted in his fur because he doesn’t maintain it so my mom decided to give him a haircut and wanted to even it out

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I finished my GAT-X131 paint project!! As a beginner I'm really happy with how it turned out. If I had to do it again I would remember to write down my paint mix recipes at the beginning, because I ended up going a couple shades darker than I wanted on the brown and the green but it happened over time so I barely noticed

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Me at work today

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Built a GAT-X131 Calamity Gundam but didn't quite like the colors or the texture of the plastic. So I'm repainting it with a (very loosely based) paint scheme from BT-7274 from Titanfall 2! Here is the WIP

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obsessed with this stupid shirt i found at goodwill the other day

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girls who look like boys my beloved

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Me when my urologist thinks my low testosterone is just depression despite the low testosterone results

Me reaching what looks suspiciously to be the end of my rope: oobh i got plany off rope

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“Men who are inferior to their fellow men, are always most anxious to establish their superiority over women.”

- Mary Wollstonecraft, ‘Maria: or, The Wrongs of Woman’ (1798)

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