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Gender? You know that’s not real right? They just made it up to sell more pink and blue explosives to Americans

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no, i don’t have a “dream job.” i want to spend my days reading and writing and lazing in the afternoon sun. i want to bake bread and brownies and apple crumble. i want to grow my own vegetables and plant a rainbow of flowers. i want to be with nature. i want to be at peace.

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Someone on TikTok said that bitches with anxiety love the enemies to lovers trope because the idea of having someone see all of our negative traits first and then still fall in love with us is really comforting since we worry that if someone sees our negative traits after they fall in love, they’ll leave us.

It’s me, I’m bitches.

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fictional character: *goes completely apeshit and loses control of their powers after the person they love is threatened*

me:

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Me when i see a wild animal in a metropolitan area: reclaim your space, we are the invaders, retake what is yours

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My fucking Nabrina heart, gods 😭

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We are Sabrina Spellman and Rosalind Walker. We are teenage witches, and we will be your next student council co-presidents. 

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𝐸𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑒. 𝐼𝑠 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝑠𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑛?

𝐍𝐢𝐜𝐤? 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞?

𝐼 𝑤𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑠𝑤𝑖𝑚𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑛 𝑡𝘩𝑒 𝑆𝑒𝑎 𝑜𝑓 𝑆𝑜𝑟𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑠. 𝑊𝑖𝑐𝑘𝑒𝑑 𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑡𝑜𝑤.

𝐎𝐡 𝐍𝐢𝐜𝐤! 𝐍𝐨, 𝐧𝐨.

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There’s a few things I need to say before it’s too late.

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© 狐狸大王a

※re-posted with permission ※please don’t remove the source

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Like, people who identify as Queer know the word is used like a slur. Trust me, we know.

So when we say “queer is a slur” was started by terfs, maybe use some critical thinking and try to understand what we mean. That is, if you actually care about queer people and the damage terfs do, rather that just screaming “queer is a slur!” and ignoring the actual point.

Terfs did not like that queer was reclaimed. End of. This is a fact. Queer was too broad, too accepting, and embraced all the people they wanted gone. And I know y'all exclusionists feel the same but get pissed when we point it out so you deny it, but sit down and listen for a minute.

Queer was the preferred term for poc. For bisexuals. For trans people. For people with multiple identities. It neatly encapsulated everything, and was a friendly community to those who felt thrown under the bus by mainstream LGBT activism. It was a political and social statement, “you treated my like I was different and weird, and guess what? I am and that’s something to be proud of.”

So the response? “You can’t use that word. Its bad. Its a slur.”

And at the time, a lot of people rolled their eyes. Everyone knew why they didn’t like the word and brushed that off. It was fine.

So they started more subtly. “Just so you know this word is very harmful and is a slur so be careful how you use it :))) in case you didn’t know :)))) its a slur :))) friendly reminder :))) for the sake of other people of course :))))” type shit on every post involving the word, including and especially posts simply mentioning self identification.

Always worded in friendly, concerned ways, like the derailment was meant to be nice and considerate, and not about normalizing their rhetoric.

And what happened because of that was a younger generation of community kids growing up with these statements being thrown at them and absorbed on every. Single. Post. That. Mentionioned. Queer.

The result? That same generation of kids cutting it all short, removing the meant-to-be-palatable niceness, to just say “queer is a slur.”

Exactly how it was originally intended. “Queer is a slur.” People drop on posts where young queer people talk about it being a self identifier that actually fits them. “Its a slur,” they comment, with nothing else, on posts they clearly didn’t read past that word, written by people twice their age who had reclaimed it before they were even born.

Its nasty. Its disgusting. It’s plain old bigotry, whether the people saying know it or not. It is a terf tactic, plain and simple.

And no one wants to deny that it is indeed used as a slur (right along with all the rest of our identities.) No one wants to be insensitive and force it on people who haven’t reclaimed it.

But invading queer people’s posts to spit “queer is a slur” is flat out queerphobic. You do the dirty work of terfs, of cis straight oppressors, by saying in one simple sentence: “its a dirty word, there is no pride in it, you haven’t/can’t reclaim(ed) it.”

And regardless of your actual intentions, when you do this, that is EXACTLY what you are communicating and doing.

“Queer is a slur” is a terf movement. Stop fucking supporting terfs just because you want to pretend like it isn’t.

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Aurora borealis captured by Matt Robinson, on Senja island, Norway (22/11/2020)

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Reblog to make a white gay big mad