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hhhghttfgAAAAAAAAAAAAA CAN EVERYONE STFU <- very frustrated headmate

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simple black & white "this X is okay with being treated like a character" userboxes i made ! made these because im a funlink who doesnt mind being treated liek a fictional character :^) was just gonna make one for fictionlink but figured id make more for anyone else whos liek me

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☆ alter userboxes - star ver ☆

flag ver - heart ver

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YES

feels so weird seeing all these fictives talking about "we arent our source!!" "we arent characters!!!" but like. im source connected. i was basically a character even in source. i honestly love being treated like a character sometimes because its how i felt in source. anyone else relate???

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Shout out to the systems that went through a “I’m fiction kin, oh also im gender fluid, and.. sexuality fluid? My face looks weird but I’m just gonna ignore it. I just have a bad memory, it’s nothing. Why does my name not feel right anymore? I wish I could just wear wigs everyday.” Kind of phase

And all the systems that had a “I refuse to call myself anything other than fiction kin until further notice,OR EVER” phase

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Taken from reddit

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can the lesbian couple insys stop flirting with each other pls <3 -a very silly aroace

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remembers we haev a systm blog

explodes

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While I love to point out that endogenic systems are supported by the medical community, I don't think it matters. Plenty of medical professionals won't allow nonbinary people access to hormones because their view of transness is very binarist. But nonbinary people are still valid just the same.

What matters most are people's real lives experiences. That's proof enough.

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being a closeted plural is like

catching myself typing with plural pronouns with people im not out to yet

i accidentally used a headmate's pk proxy in a server, mistaking it for a different server — and i had to thank the gods that the server did not have pk

oh no there's a DID system in a mutual server i hope they're chill with non-disordered systems (not like we can do much if they're not chill)

"is it possible to be casually plural?"

cant tell anyone cant tell anyone aaaa

get the Itch to tell this person. hesitates for 5 business days. ends up not telling them

the imposter syndrome

when old friends contact us and goes "how've you been?" and i only say that it's been "kind of wild" and i do not elaborate

will never ever tell anyone irl

the imposter syndrome 2: electric boogaloo

the fear of my friends somehow stumbling across our sysblog (why would they even tread plural spaces?? in tumblr, no less??) (idk but im scared)

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"Worst thing about plurality is the amnesia" "worst thing about plurality is in-sys fighting" LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER worst thing about plurality is the strain on our bank account trying to accommodate eight different fashion styles

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Some types of switching for us

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System reminder list, except for once it's not written by someone who's anti-endogenic.

You likely don't know everything about your system, and this means that sometimes you'll be wrong about something related to your system. This doesn't mean you're faking or making things up. It just means that you made a small mistake or lapse in judgement, which isn't a moral failing. Just because you realized something about your system may be different than you previously thought, it doesn't mean you deceived people (or yourself) about your plurality.

Not all switches are the same. Switches can take hours, seconds, or minutes to go through; they can come with no dissociation or dissociation so bad that from an outsider's perspective it looks like you shut down; switching can be done with only one headmate knowing what's happening; it can be done without anyone knowing what's happening; it can be difficult or easy to switch – point is, there's a large variety in switches as a whole, and it's likely that you'll experience a variety of switches too.

Any neurodivergencies you have are likely to affect your plurality. If you have disorders such as MaDD or schizophrenia, one or more alters may hold more symptoms than others so other sysmates don't have to deal with them. Memory-affecting disorders may worsen amnesia, or even be a cause of amnesiac barriers. Sysmates may specifically form because of certain disorders. There are many ways that other neurodivergencies can affect your plurality, so don't think of it as a sign of faking – it's really not.

After you first discover your system, you may experience a new burst in system members. This isn't an uncommon experience; there are many factors at play in this situation that could explain the sharp increase in sysmate count. Changes in mental/dissociative/spiritual barriers, stress and worry over being plural, just plain brain weirdness, and a lot of other reasons can result in more sysmates forming when you first learn about your system, which may cause worry as to whether your experiences are real. I promise, new sysmates do not indicate fakeness.

Introjects do not work on a "first come, first serve" basis. You may have multiple introjects of the same character/person, especially if you're a larger system or have a lot of attachment towards certain characters/people.

It's okay to not know who you are or who's fronting. These experiences aren't always fun, but they happen, and they'll pass in time. You may need to ground yourself or focus on your own identity during these times, and that's okay. Unsurety isn't a moral failure.

Relationships between system members can be complicated. Headmates can date, consider each other family, work for/serve someone, and have pretty much any other kind of relationship there is. Sometimes, relationships are complicated and weird, and it's best to just go with the flow.

Everyone's plural experiences are going to be at least a little different from each other. Don't define yourself by what is common or constantly compare yourself to other systems! No two systems are identical, and that means no two experiences are going to be identical. It can help to look to similar experiences for occasional guidance, but using what's common as a "guideline" for yourself may harm your system in the long run. (Or others! You shouldn't judge others for being "too stereotypical" or "too different." Plurality is a widely varied phenomenon and what that variety ends up looking like in certain cases may surprise you.)

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Masqutien : a system that’s collective identity (like gender or sexuality) effects everyone who fronts, regardless of if they identify with said thing or not.

EXAMPLES: A person being allosexual in the headspace, but feeling little to no sexual attraction while fronting because the collective identity is asexual. A systems collective identity being masculine, causing everyone who who fronts to feel masculine, whether they identify that way or not. A system whose alterhumanity effects all system members.

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mmm the self-doubt is doubting.......

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okay, wow, being a fictive in a system when the fictive you remember liking in source doesn't want to talk to you is painful :,D

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depressed in a joyous and whimsical way