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Being chronically ill in your 20s is stupid you have to see your peers like “started a family🥰” “got married😍” “bought a house😇” “scored a promotion😋” meanwhile you’re fighting for your life to take a shower

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ngl i think basic psychoeducation about DID would probably solve about 90% of syscourse but i don't think tumblr is ready for that conversation yet

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Self care is leaving out a little gift for the alter who's having a bad day and waiting for them to front to find it~

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Just your daily reminder that per the Theory of Structural Dissociation people with PTSD, C-PTSD and BPD are experiencing Structural Dissociation even if it surface level presents differently than that in CDDs. Also reminder that BPD and C-PTSD are the same type of Structural Dissociation(secondary) as OSDD so if you minimize the Structural Dissociation of those with C-PTSD or BPD you also minimize it for those with OSDD. That is all.

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Common things in DID that no one likes to talk about

- switches that feel like you’re turning into someone else rather than them taking control (non-possessive switching)

- being unable to recognize amnesia until something requires you to remember something you forgot

- staying in the front for weeks at a time

- being unable to communicate with alters internally (this is so common why does everyone act like this is weird?)

- feeling like you don’t have any problems because you feel disconnected from them

- constant denial

- rapid identity, label, and appearance changes

- comorbidities, particularly personality disorders, anxiety disorders, and the schizophrenia spectrum

- autism (there is science pointing towards autistic people being more susceptible to trauma)

- disliking your system

- wanting final fusion

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shout out to plurals who’s frequent fronters change all the time.

shout out to alters who are afraid of not fronting all the time, either because theyre so use to it or they’re afraid they wont get to front again.

shout out to systems who wish they had a more consistent rotation of fronters and wish it wasn’t so come and go with system members.

shout out to alters who like fronting.

shout out to members who get frontstuck regularly.

and shout out to systems trying to find a middle ground between being front stuck and having completely inconsistent fronters.

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my singlet partner made a very interesting point yesterday and we didn't know how to answer her question i'm autistic (host) and the other day bunny (co-host) was switched in, my partner was asking things about her and came to the question of

"is it possible for bunny to be neurotypical?" so more educated systems, can alters have different mental uh. things?? than their host body? I don't really know how to phrase that question

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hello beloveds ☺️

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Anyways

I hope all child parts and littles can heal in a way that's best for them, and they can live a life without fear where they can express themselves

Protecting child parts doesn't mean locking them in a bubble. Encourage healthy growth where possible

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"Every system is different" and "everyone experiences DID differently" yes true, but that's also false. Every system is not all entirely different and we will all share experiences with DID. There is a diagnostic criteria for DID that has to be met for you to actually claim to have DID.

- R

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The Trans Agenda is to Keep My F*cking Friends Alive — sol rios

published as part of the Citizen Trans* {Project} by New Words Press

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Think systems with a high number of fictional introjects are a new phenomena? Kluft's paper on polyfragmented/extremely complex DID from 1988 includes a patient with LOTR introjects, and another based off of Shakespear's Tempest. Fictional introjects have been a thing for a very long time!

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sometimes i wish i could tell other women that you can just stop removing your body hair and in many cases the consequences will be way less severe than u expect. you can go to the beach with all your leg hair intact and nobody will stop you or say a thing. you can stop waxing your upper lip and people won’t stare at it the way u might be bracing yourself for. you can quit plucking your brows and eventually they will grow back into themselves and no one will even notice. like for sure women are punished for not participating in beauty rituals but i also feel like so much of it is like The Panopticon sometimes where you just convince yourself that if u stop that kind of gendered upkeep everyone will be mad and stop talking to u forever when in reality you just keep existing and nothing remarkable happens. it’s not always easy but you can kind of just stop for real

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persecutors can be real fucking assholes and it can be really really hard to live with one. as someone whos tried to die cause of this shit, lets talk about it a little. its getting late at night so this wont be massive.

dont abuse ur persecutors more - do you think that the "i was abused and now am acting in a harmful way" person will appreciate more continuing abuse. try not to isolate them, lock them away, etc. theres a lot of advice like "dont ever" but i understand that you dont want your life to be in danger and you probably have fucking work to do

make it inconvineitn - if persecutors are feelong a bit stabby, keep your knifes blunt. make money slightly more annoying to access. hang around people who know. make it harder for them just a bit.

learn to tune it out/make peace with it - this is really really hard depending on what theyre doing or saying but if you can and there isnt much reconciling with them then this is a good idea. try to learn to not internalise it

talk to them - if possible talk about what they want or why theyre doing this. whats pissing them off. how u can help. make jokes. introduce them to life experiences. some persecutors probably are just malicious dickhats but most are not.

maintain a relationship - keep talkingf to them. keep doing this.

dont use a conditioning style of punishment, like if you are mean to em i dont let you do a thing you like or see the sun. this can be really triggering and framer you as an enemy, a threat, or just an asshole. they are not dogs.

persecutors reading: i dont know you. your systme needs to treat you like a person. and you need to try in order for it to work. i believe in you. the future can get better but u need to be [art of that change. maybe try merge dragons that helped one of our guys

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i hate shoutout posts, so this is like... a whisper to every single fucking system who can't be in therapy. who arent safe. live with abusers. who dont have the money, dont have the location, cant find a therapist. who cant do this shit.

i think that most advice from the internet is like... if you have did go to therapy and i bet thats useful if u can have it but if you cant, its so isolationg. especially with an individualistic (every man for himself) culture, people often tell u to just... go to therapy bro. dont bother me about it.

here are fr some tips as someone who has a lot of problems and is not in therapy:

prioritise staying alive. it can never get better once you are dead.

take your time with it. you dont need to post alter intros or have a plural kit. you dont need to have a journal. take time to be comfortable as you can even if the circumstances are very bad

depending on your amount of control and interaction with your system, introduce people who don't have a lot of life experience to new things like food, new colours and textures and places. this especially applies if you have a bunch of alters who only really know the environment of their abuse

build community. its really really really hard but do try. having friends kept me alive. it still keeps me alive.

learn about healthy relationships - we all have internet access. learn about boundaries and triggers and talking to others healthily. a lot of people with did will struggle with healthy relationships even if they make them. learn and do your best to act with it

treat your body like a rental or a pot plant or an animal if needed - even if it doesnt seem like yours, you gotta feed and water and walk it bro. u need the sun. you need enrichment and interaction.

ignore the discourse if youre struggling - it actually doesnt matter and will make you more sick. thinkning about endo vs trauma or like.... idk... labels discourse can be a major stressor that can lead to warping your sustem presentation or repressing and harming bits that arent conforming well

engage in things that are irl like building mini legos or clay - it can help make outside a better environment and shit, aklso can help ground.

find your own triggers and talk about it with ur system. write notes or yap.

find joy in being alive and being a system. despite what reddit or youtube or whatever will tell you, as things improve they will get better. and u should look for joy and funnies when you can

dont give up

LISTEN TO YOUR SYSTEM. THEY'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE RIGHT. THEY LIKELY ARE ASSHOLES OR INSANE JUST LIKE YOU. BUT YOU LIVE TOGETHER.

healing is easier as a team.

i believe in you