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The inherent homoeroticism of killing your enemy and immediately regretting it

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Shane: And now, the weather with Ryan.

Ryan: Th-

Shane: My best friend.

Ryan: :)

Shane: :)

Ryan: There’s a hurricane.

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the secret handshake

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hey fun fact: shipping real people is invasive, creepy, and unethical. Not to mention, extremely disrespectful to the people you’re shipping, and the people they’re actually in relationships with 

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i keep making posts like this and then i keep deleting it instantly bc of my internal biases/favour towards ryan but eh if it were any other LA influencer doing it i WOULD be upset so like- ryan! stop hanging out w people you don’t live with and travelling/going on yachts/going to the beach etc. what in FRESH hell dude

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okay I watched the latest watcher podcast and as an lgbt poc (bi and se asian) I want to talk about Steven’s comment. This might be controversial which sucks bc this blog is honestly one of the few places I feel comfortable posting as I please but I feel the need to explain my pov on this, not because I think Steven is perfect and above criticism, but because I feel like what he’s said has been taken wildly out of context.

First off, I’d like to say that this isn’t me policing anyones feelings to Steven’s response, if you’re LGBT or poc and you were hurt by what he said by all means you’re allowed to feel that way. However, the amount of hate Steven’s receiving right now is mind-blowing. Steven said, more or less, that he has friends who are “a little racist and homophobic” but he hasn’t cut them off because he values them as people. Obviously that is incredibly hurtful and harmful to hear. Once again, if you were hurt by this as a poc/lgbt person, that’s understandable however I just want to be real with you for a sec: realistically speaking most people hold some semblance of homophobic or racist views because we live in a heteronormative white dominated society. Even as a poc or LGBT person you are still capable of upholding those systems of oppression because they are just that, systems. It’s like when we say all white people are racist because they grew up under a racist society. Are we saying that every single white person in the world is racist? No. Does every single white person benefit from white privilege yes. Therefore, because we all grow up under a heteronormative, white patriarchy we are all indoctrinated with those beliefs and the ability to perpetuate those beliefs and it is up to us to unlearn and combat those systems of oppression. If we want to be good allies we have to continuously unlearn those things  everyday even up to Steven’s big age or Steven’s friends ages. Steven wasn’t saying I have racist and/or homophobic friends as some sort of flex or some sort of “yeah I condone their behavior” type of friendship, he said that because that’s reality. Everyone, even your friends, even you, can be susceptible to saying racist or homophobic things because that is what society has indoctrinated us with. The important part is making sure to unlearn that. And that’s my second main point, Steven doesn’t say ‘yeah I have racist/homophobic friends and that’s cool’, he says to challenge people when they say something racist/homophobic, he says not to let what they say slide but to make them explain themselves. Obviously I’m all for punching racists and cutting off toxic friends but part of an allies job is to educate people (Steven as a presumably straight man) so that people actually affected don’t have to take on the emotional load of debating every homophobe/racist in the world ie Steven himself saying to make that person realize what they’re saying is wrong. Never once does he say that it is okay to be racist/homophobic, he says he values his friends and still confronts them to make them realize what they’re doing/saying is wrong, he never espouses their bigoted views he confronts them and making people change, even a friend, is a continuous battle.

I will say, I do not agree with him saying it would be wrong to not invite the friend because it would be singling her out, you are always entitled to your own safety, physically and mentally, and to cut out people that are harmful to you however I do believe what Steven was saying was that you have to challenge people in your life, even people that you “value” if what they are saying is wrong or harmful, you have to make them own up to it.

Anyways, that’s what I believe Steven was trying to say, albeit very poorly worded. Does that absolve him of saying something hurtful? Absolutely not. I do think he should apologize or clarify and that poc/lgbt hurt by what he said have the right to be. But do I think he needs to be cancelled or pulled out of the company/showrunning or publicly denounced by either Shane or Ryan or even that Steven condones racist/homophobic views? Once again absolutely not.

TLDR:I just personally feel like Steven was wildly misunderstood as saying ‘be friends w racists/homophobes’ when in reality he was saying ‘call out racists/homophobes EVEN IF they happen to be in your friend group’ but I acknowledge that how he said it was hurtful to many in the lgbt/poc communities.

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for $5 a month you can get access to steven’s apology. rich from a company who’s thumbnail for the thing that they needed to apologize for was this

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here’s the apology you have to pay to see, by the way:

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hey since louis tomlinson admitted that larries made him and harry’s friendship fall apart and dan howell said phannies digging into his relationship w phil made him experience ptsd symptoms and brought him to a terrible place, can u all stop w the shipping bullshit now

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Hey! Sorry to be a bother. I'm really excited for Worth It (cause, you know, food and friendship), but I'm a little worried that it's gonna trigger my COVID anxiety. Were they able to follow safety guidelines? Thanks, love! Hope you are having a great day!!

hey there! the season was actually filmed before the pandemic! they address this in the very beginning of the episode and ensure us that they are currently adhering to all social distancing protocols! hope this helps, and i hope you’re able to enjoy the episode! <33

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The MailMan Bit remains my favourite bit that Ryan and Shane have ever done. Comedic genius.

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She's coming for you!

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SEASON TWO, BABEY!

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just heard from hwyd ep 10 that some people make/made bingo cards for the podcast!! is that still a thing??

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i hate myself every time i make a post like this but uh yeah we’re flat broke, as in $0.00 in our bank and in cash, and we just need enough to eat tonight. we get paid tomorrow and lmao tbh i’m not even bringing home $200 (love having my hours/work cut!) but we’ll at least be able to get groceries so if anyone could idk spare even just $10-$15 so we can get something cheap… idk. i hate making these posts i really do

venmo: yoonjackhorseman paypal: roddiams@gmail.com

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listening to hwyd & steven said that Simba isn’t his? how did he end up with the cat??

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BuzzFeed Unsolved Archive:

True Crime Season 1: aired from February 4, 2016 to March 10, 2017