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Please don't get me started on the whole "we're better at picking up on abusive and manipulative people", either.

Because that actually requires some level of skill that many autistics actually lack or are impaired with, and is part of the reason we end up diagnosed in the first place.

"I can pick up on a manipulator a mile away and have to try and convince people that they're a bad person"

Good for you.

The amount of stories I have heard about autistic people ending up in outright dangerous situations becuase they can't pick up on that, because they can't see the "bad person", because their danger awareness is impaired.... is an ungodly amount that I wish none of us ever had to go through.

This is genuinely something that affects many autistics and we should not be ignoring that or minimising it because some of you somehow think that autistics are just "naturally good at finding bad people" and want to spread that kind of misinformation around.

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Please don't get me started on the whole "we're better at picking up on abusive and manipulative people", either.

Because that actually requires some level of skill that many autistics actually lack or are impaired with, and is part of the reason we end up diagnosed in the first place.

"I can pick up on a manipulator a mile away and have to try and convince people that they're a bad person"

Good for you.

The amount of stories I have heard about autistic people ending up in outright dangerous situations becuase they can't pick up on that, because they can't see the "bad person", because their danger awareness is impaired.... is an ungodly amount that I wish none of us ever had to go through.

This is genuinely something that affects many autistics and we should not be ignoring that or minimising it because some of you somehow think that autistics are just "naturally good at finding bad people" and want to spread that kind of misinformation around.

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I LOVE being autistic and trying to communicate because every time it’s

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The Onion continues to never miss

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I am angry right now.

“Autism isn’t a disability!” Fuck you. Actually genuinely fuck you. Yes it fucking is.

Even for lsn people, the autism criteria included it being significantly disabling.

Even if it’s easier for some than others, it’s a fucking disability.

Don’t anyone fucking tell me to my face that autism isn’t a disability when I can’t even function alone. Fuck all the way off.

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so many people on here, including other autistic people (particularly those with the absolute bare minimum of support needs and/or cog. deficits), seriously think the Autism Spectrum consists of "can do practically everything an allistic person can do, just with extra steps" or "unable to use a blogging website" with nothing in between. please it is 2025, you should know better, we should all know better!!!

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This idea that all autistic people are good at self reflection in a way that we can pick up on the fact that we are autistic... needs to stop. Or even just being good at self reflection and self awareness in general.

I am so sick and tired of hearing about how we're all so good at that. How all adults self diagnosed before diagnosis. That we somehow have this inner knowledge of ourselves or understanding towards the fact that we do have autism and how it affects us.

That is NOT the case for all of us.

There are many autistic people who don't even realise that they are autistic. Who won't question it themselves. Who hear about it and don't think "hey I align with some of these things".

There are many autistic people who think that they're just like everyone else around them, even if other people see it differently.

There are early diagnosed autistics who were never told about their diagnosis, that haven't questioned whether they are or aren't. And then are surprised when they are told about it or find out.

HECK. There are diagnosed autistics who don't even realise how severely autism affects them at all, even if others do.

There are many of us who had to be told and often by professionals. There are many of us who haven't done indepth research on autism before being diagnosed. There are many of us who sometimes have a diagnosis forced on us without us having ever questioned autism in the first place. Many of us don't even understand how to do that kind of research or reflection.

If you actually know how autism affects many autistics, then you would understand that self awareness and self relfection are things that many autistics can be bad at. These are things we can struggle with.

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Last summer, I began to realize the LSN life I'd assumed I'd lead isn't coming. Nor is the ability to healthily work full-time kicking in.

I live with my parents and they help me every day. My future will be in assisted/supported living, not independent living.

It's a weird realization because I always assumed I'd end up like the LSNs who can work full-time, have social lives, date and marry, and even manage advanced tasks like raising children. (Though at least I never wanted kids.)

Anyway, there's a post on my blog about it.

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Study session essentials

I’ve probably made a post like this before but I’m getting better at studying and so here are my tips on how to have a more effective study sessions. Keep in mind that I am neurodivergent and I can usually do 2 hours of work in 3,5 hours on a good day. I still procrastinate and struggle a lot, but these things help significantly:

Ambience of my current obsession - I love game background noise and ambient music. They keep me focused and entertained without distracting me in anyway. Recently I’ve been having a witcher 3 ambience or “walking in red dead redemption 2″ videos in my headphones

Open-back headphones - I have tinnitus and so noise canceling headphones are not an option. And for a while I didn’t want to wear any headphones until someone got me big open-back ones that don’t seal me away from surrounding noise and absolutely perfect

Putting my phone in a different room - Just put it away. The forest app or putting it out of reach/sight can be good options if you need your phone around but otherwise putting it far is the best option.

Specific study space - For me personally I have to sit at my desk. Studying on my bed or sofa is never as effective as I need

Clean space - Cluttered space means cluttered mind and worse I feel more easily depressed

A toy for my hands - I need to hold something, feel something, look at something. It helps avoid scrolling and it keeps me entertained while my brain does the hard work. It also helps with stimming if I get overwhelmed. I keep around rocks, palm sized plushies, small wooden hearts and animal figurines.

Paper for thoughts - I always have a piece of paper nearby that I scribble thougths, notes and tasks on. This way when I get an idea I just write it down and deal with it during my break. When I remember something I have to do or want to do, think an anxious thought or just need to scribble it goes on the paper.

Candle - I’m a bit afraid of fire and having a candle burning helps me stay in the room because I don’t like leaving it there burning. I like to pick weaker, clean smells like cotton or vanilla. Watching it burn can be very calming too.

Water/juice/iced tea - I always start with a full glass so I don’t have to get up and get water too often

Cup of tea - Besides having a glass of water I always have a warm cup of green or black tea

Snacks - I usually keep an apple or a banana around so I have to leave the room as little as possible. Hunger is usually a good excuse to leave and this is a great way to eliminate it.

Gum - Chewing is very calming for me which usually means I overeat just so I can chew. Sugar-free gum solves this well. I usually need only one since I don’t quite care about the taste as much as the act of chewing. Be careful not to have too many!

Hot water bottle - When I’m stressed and tired my face tenses up a lot and having something warm to put on my face helps a lot. It makes my muscles relax and I often avoid a headache this way.

Medication - I keep my asthma and anxiety meds around. Sometimes studying can really stress me out and it’s good to have those on hand

I hope you find these helpful and have a great day!

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*Coughs* Masterlist of classic books (like shit you read in high school only they are free audiobooks

We love internet archive here

The Great Gatsby

Pride and Prejudice

Romeo and Juliet

A Tale of Two Cities

Animal Farm

Crime and Punishment

The Count of Monte Cristo

The Prince and the Pauper

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

The Adventures of Tom Sawyer

War and Peace

Uncle Tom’s Cabin

Oliver Twist

The Odyssey

Treasure Island

Bleak House

The Divine Comedy (Dante’s Inferno)

A Midsummer Night's Dream

Frankenstein

Moby Dick

David Cooperfield

The Tragedy of Macbeth

Jane Eyre

The Republic (Plato)

The Picture of Dorian Gray

Madame Bovary

Ulysses

The Canterbury Tales

Great Expectations

A Streetcar Named Desire

Othello

The Metamorphosis

The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn

The Tragedy of Julius Caesar

The Iliad

A Christmas Carol

12 Creepy Tales by Edgar Allan Poe

The Importance of Being Earnest

The Alchemist

The Three Musketeers

The Hound of the Baskervilles

And Then There Were None

The Scarlet Letter

The Hunchback of Notre Dame

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this is a gentle reminder that when learning languages, you need to keep in mind the "mother tongue rule". if you're dyslexic, dysgraphic, have speech impediment, social anxiety or something else, if you have problems with reading, writing or talking to people even using your mother tongue, then you can't blame yourself for not being fluent enough or compare yourself to others when having these problems with your target language. everyone is different. this difference is not only about methodology, speed, or ressources. it is also about disability and mental illness. please don't be too hard on yourself.

and if you know someone who has these problems, be patient and understanding. don't insult them or laugh at them.

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Hello! I made these this morning and thought I'd share. You can print these or use them as inspiration for your bullet journal-- whatever works for you. I made one daily cleaning checklist with suggestions and one without. Enjoy :0

I originally made these for myself (since it's easier to remember if I have something I have to physically "check" off) but realized it wouldn't hurt to share.

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For when you're too anxious to study

it's kind of common sense but I had to hear it from my therapist to genuinely get that if you look at something that you do not understand (or don't want to understand) for 10 minutes a day, every day, you will get used to it and it will eventually enter your brain.

it's like how kids learn new words or how to do stuff; just repeating stuff without the pressure of HAVING to learn it asap. just spending time with the material. kids don't take notes or write flashcards.

AND; if you learn a definition or a way to solve a math problem by heart, you will have "crutches" during the exam.

things that are gonna feel as obvious as someone going "what are you sitting on" and you going "chair" and that will make you feel good during your exam! :)

if you've been procrastinating a lot and think you'll fail the exam anyways, then you have nothing to lose; try to see how well you can do as a silly little experiment, no high expectations. take care of yourself <3 you deserve good things and you deserve a nice exam experience because you CARE! else you wouldn't have read this entire post. things are meant to work out in your favor

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Yes I go to university (actually i graduated two days ago, but I'm going back for another degree). No I can't live on my own. We exist.

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focus on the likes and not the wants

you may not want to clean your room, but you like the peace and call it brings you after

you may not want to study, but you like the confidence and satisfaction you get from being prepared

you may not not want to apologise, but you like the relief and connection that reconciliation brings

you may not want to cook, but you like the satisfaction of eating a healthy come cooked meal prepared with love

you may not want to exercise, but you like how you feel afterwards and how it makes you confident

you may not want to journal or write, but you like the reflection and calm it brings you

you may not want to step out of your comfort zone, but you like the new experiences and growth you gain from it

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