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i love masculine people. trans men. trans masc non-binary people. masc non-binary people. masc cishet men. masc cis queer men. masc transfemmes. masc intersex people. transmasc intersex people. masc cishet women. masc cis queer women. masc men. masc women.

masculinity isn’t something to fear or hate or forget about. masulinity isn’t ugly or something to be made fun of. the fearmongering of transfemmes is matched with the erasure of transmascs. you can absolutely be transandrophobic and if you don’t agree you’ve probably been transandrophobic before.

let people be masc in peace. masc people don’t owe you femininity to be seen as “valid” and “safe.” masc people are allowed to ditch what they hate about their bodies. if femmes were met with the same judgement as mascs someone would be jumped. where is the support for transmasc people?

guys please remember about ALL trans people. transfemmes are not the only ones out there. transfemmes are not the only valid ones. we love femmes here but we also love androgynous and masc people.

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I went to the forest that makes you have multiple pronouns and accidentally touched some poison ivy there

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message to all physically disabled trans people

survive

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“it/its is dehumainzing” ok maybe i want to be dehumanized. maybe i dont want to be seen as a person. maybe ive never felt like one anyway.

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to everyone who has been talked out of testosterone HRT because it will make you "scary": no it will not. testosterone isn't "scary". masculinization isn't "scary". being masculine or a man isn't "scary". it's just another way to be a person. testosterone HRT is a good thing. it helps many people. if you want to take it, take it. don't let anyone else tell you not to because it "scares" them. it's not happening to them. their fears don't matter to you. it's happening to you. it's your choice.

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Hey. So like. Being a trans man can suck a lot. Like, people can be genuinely the absolute shittiest towards you for it.

But if the thought of being a man and living life as a man makes you feel free, like you’re becoming yourself, like you could actually see a future for yourself as a man, do it.

You’re going to have people all around you who have strong opinions about what you should do with your body. They’ll beg you not to get rid of your boobs because they’re soooo hot or because why would you want to remove your healthy breasts. They’ll also tell you this is proof you’re not a man, that having them makes you a woman, that if you were really trans you’d do everything to hide them, then turn around and complain that your shirts are too baggy and that binder is warping your ribs (even if it’s properly fitted and you only wear it 8 hours a day).

The hair stylist will complain about cutting your hair too short. She’ll assume you’re in crisis; was it a bad breakup, or did someone die? She’ll go out of her way to not give you an actual men’s haircut. How about a bob? Or maybe a pixie cut? You could spend a full hour, maybe two, trying to convince this person whose job is to cut your hair to give you the haircut you actually asked for. Or you could go home with a short but feminine style you didn’t want. Either way your friends and family might tell you this was a mistake or they liked how you looked better with longer hair. How boys won’t like you like this, as if you did it for them or as if you were supposed to have complete strangers in mind when you decide on your own goddamn hair.

You could get sexually harassed or assaulted. By people who decided they need to show you you’re not a real man. Ignorant fucks who think their dicks, hands, and fingers are magic forcefem tools that erase any manhood from your mind the moment they touch you in intimate ways you never agreed to. Or they’ll pretend they view you as a man in order to worm their way into your life to manipulate you out of being trans. And people, including other trans people and including people you thought would support you, will mock you for being foolish enough to think they accepted you.

You’ll be treated like a monster. You’ll have people tell you men are evil. You’ll have women tell you the only reason you’d want to be a man is so you can escape misogyny and gain male privilege (as if a cissexist patriarchy would ever make it that easy for you, as if you can do that without leaving everything you once knew and hiding your entire past from your new life). Worse, they’ll tell you you just want to be a rapist and an abuser because that’s all men are in their eyes. If you’ve been assaulted, they’ll use that to say you’re doing this out of trauma, in the hopes it won’t happen to you again, even if you knew you were trans long before it even happened.

And the craziest part of all this? Being able to live as a man instead of pretending you’re not is still worth it.

You’ll get the gender euphoria from watching your beard grow out. It’ll look terrible. You’ll still love it because goddamnit it’s yours and it’s on your face and it’s real. You’ll catch yourself singing and find you no longer have to watch your voice to make sure you don’t sing any notes too high so that stabbing pain of dysphoria doesn’t grab you by the throat and decimate the mood you were having because your voice just naturally won’t go that high anymore. Hell, it’ll go even lower and you’ll fall in love with your own voice as you awkwardly relearn how to sing at all and hear yourself again and again. You’ll put on clothing from the men’s section and find what you actually like, not just what suits the womanly costume you’ve been forced into since birth. You’ll get to take off your shirt and see a scarred flat chest and feel the breeze against your bare skin as you stare down, either checking for chest hair or feeling the joy from within bubbling to the surface as you see all the hair you’ve grown. You’ll hear strangers casually call you “sir” or “him” and at first it’ll be exciting and threaten to force a grin on your face in a situation where you’re trying not to show it, but over time it’ll just be so normal that you stop responding to “ma’am” and “she”; after all, since when does anyone call you that anymore? The pharmacist filling out your testosterone prescription will assume you’re picking this up for a relative because you look too manly to be the person whose name is attached here. You’ll get the legal name change, and the government will be a bag of dicks about it, but after a certain point they run out of hoops to make you jump through and reasons to say no before they just give in and let you name yourself legally, officially.

And through all of that, the good and the bad, you’ll find a community of men and boys like you. Who are dubbed broken women. Treated like monsters. Celebrating their transition milestones while you either wish it could be you right now or remember when it was you and how amazing you felt in that moment.

And one day, you could be sitting in bed, still in the clothes you slept in last night, your laptop open and playing a video essay from YouTube, drinking whatever sweet drink you prefer, thinking about all the bullshit you’ve been put through just for being a trans man, and you’ll think “yeah, this is worth it.”

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let's hear it for the nonbinary folks who:

don't present androgynously

use "binary" pronouns in any capacity

identify partially with a binary gender

have a "gendered" name

don't experience body dysmorphia

don't experience gender dysphoria

DO experience gender dysphoria/body dysmorphia but aren't sure what gender or body would suit them

just experience body/gender apathy instead

can't be open about their gender identity yet

you're all absolutely valid.

don't ever feel like you're "not nonbinary enough" because you absolutely are! 💖

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The State department has changed LGBTQ to LGB.

If you claim to care about trans people now is a good time to show genuine ally ship.

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LGBT activists have been vocal about intersex issues for several decades, because establishing the legal right to bodily autonomy for intersex persons is basically inseparable from establishing the right of trans persons to that same legal autonomy over their own bodies. many intersex persons prefer not to be grouped together with LGBT causes; however, the vast majority of LGBT activists would agree that performing "corrective" surgery on intersex infants - to force them to adhere to a largely fictional gender binary - is pretty fucking evil.

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Allos will never understand the heartbreak and the pain of loving "too much" for friendship but "not enough" for romancw

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to everyone who has been talked out of testosterone HRT because it will make you "scary": no it will not. testosterone isn't "scary". masculinization isn't "scary". being masculine or a man isn't "scary". it's just another way to be a person. testosterone HRT is a good thing. it helps many people. if you want to take it, take it. don't let anyone else tell you not to because it "scares" them. it's not happening to them. their fears don't matter to you. it's happening to you. it's your choice.

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Hey. People in my inbox saying you relate with intersex experiences because you were put on hormones as a kid for a hormonal condition.

Perisex people aren't put on hormones as children for a hormonal condition. You are intersex. You've been told your intersex traits are a disorder and you have been deprived of your community. I encourage you to learn more about the intersex community and participate if you'd like to. This community saved me.

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just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

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It really says something that a lot of monogamous people consider polyamorous and aromantic to be "opposites" but every polyam person I know took one look at aromantics and said "they're just like me for real"

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