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Hello! I'm in a bit of a toxic relationship, and I was wondering if you all knew what to do? My boyfriend says I can't transition from female to male because he's straight and can't see me as female. He says if I do, he might hurt himself. He's even almost told my dad one time. At the same time, my family is really religious, and I can't possibly tell them. Should I tell my school, or just go with it? There doesn't seem to be a way out, and I'm getting really depressed.

I hate to tell you this because I don’t like telling people what to do with their lives, but if I were you, I’d dump that guy on the spot. It seems he’s using manipulative techniques to get you to do what he wants, which is not acceptable in any circumstance, period. Doesn’t matter how nice he might be at other times. You’re not in “a bit of a” toxic relationship. You’re in a toxic relationship. From what you tell us in this ask it sounds like you’re being emotionally abused. Not okay in any circumstance. Get out of that relationship right now, ASAP, preferably today, is my advice. It’ll probably only continue to get worse unless you do something about it. And if you think you can change him for any reason, be very careful about thinking like that. People don’t usually change a lot unless something big happens to make them change, like professional help or a significant incident in their lives. You are not responsible for him, for changing him or for what he does, no matter what he says - even if he says he loves you (remember people can love you, and then can love an image they have of you in their minds, and there’s a difference). You are responsible for you, and from what you say, it seems like you’d be better off without him. No matter what anyone says, you deserve to have people who care about you in your life. I care about you, everyone here on Transtastic cares about you, and we all know you deserve better. 

If your school has a counselor that seems alright you could go talk to them. Try to see if there are LGBT+ organizations or groups in your area. (If you don’t want to come out as trans to, say, a school counselor, but are fine with coming out as LGBT+ or pretend you’re asking for an LGBT+ friend, you could do that, in case they know of any organizations close by where you can find community and support.) You can come out to your school if you want to, but you don’t have to. Always consider your physical safety as well as your mental well-being. And you’re going through some difficult things, so it’s okay to be scared and feel tired and sad. But your whole life isn’t going to be like that if you decide to take whatever small step you can towards a good situation. Number one could be getting out of a bad relationship. Number two could be finding friends that love and support you. For example. 

Even if you can’t come out, you can try to find trans friends online to talk to that will make you feel less alone. I promise it’s not impossible. Just keep at it! Trans selfie blogs / positivity blogs are good for this. Or just follow trans people and attempt to strike up civil conversations with them. 

I wish you all the best of luck, and please take care of yourself. <3

 - Emil

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I don’t get it

So I’m really wondering why some trans guys when they get on T and have been on it for long enough to always pass, just suddenly start acting like they’re better then you because you haven’t transitioned as far medically as they have? Why put me down because my face is round and I got small shoulders? Yeah I’m 5"2’ doesn’t make me any less of a man… Like we all grew up the wrong gender, we’re going through the same. I don’t get it?

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8 Cats That Embody The Struggles of Binding

1. Trying to get a new binder over your head

2. Almost all the way on

3. Realizing you may have bought your binder one size too small

4. Feeling hot and confident with your binder wearing buddies.

5. How you feel when you’re wearing your binder

6. How you actually look in your binder

7. The moment you realize your binder is about to roll up

8. The worse moment when you realize there is not a private spot in sight where you can fix your binder

By Hudson George Krakowski

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I get beard envy we all wish for something

Extreme penis envy

Is it normal for me to have extreme penis-envy? Not even the physical aspect of having one but when my girlfriend hangs out with her guy friends I always get extreme anxiety that she will prefer them to me simply because they have what I don’t. She’s extremely loyal and loving towards me and I know she won’t do anything, is it still normal to be envious of her guy friends?

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The world's only trans bodybuilding competition

Four years ago, Neo Sandja decided to get drunk and throw himself in front of a speeding car. “I went out to a bar with my friends,” he says.“When I left, I told them, ‘Goodbye, you’ll never see me again.’ But they were just as drunk as I was and didn’t take me seriously.” He found himself stumbling along the side of the road in his Georgia college town in the middle of the night. Headlights were speeding by. “I kept thinking, 'This is it. I’m going to do this. I just can’t be here anymore. Why did I suffer so long?” Read more.

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TransTrouble No. 6

Fuck I went to go talk to my PE teacher about how I use different pronouns that he calls me by. And he was like “it is half way through the year why didn’t you tell me sooner?!” I just stood there making lame excuses to cover up that the last few months I had (and still am having) a dysphoric rain cloud of existentialism and identity crises. Why do people get so defensive

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Omg

The lazy way to play with your cat

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#TransTroubles No.5

When you are hanging out with your friends and one your out to an the other your not...😁😅 #me

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Lol

someone stop her.

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The day when you don’t have any clean chest binders…..ffffffffff

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Trans Trouble No.4: b*rthn@mes

When you come out to someone and there first question is “What is your birth name?” GAAAAAAAH! That is one of the two things (the other is just so bad it needs its own post) that you #neverevernever ( sorry Bieber I said never) say to ANY trans person!!!! I literally got asked that by 3 people and had to fight the urge to just clapse into a heap of raging sadness with a dash of #thestruggleisreal.

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I need to see this now

boost boost boost boost boost

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When you overhear a guy flirting with a girl and she says “no thanks I’m gay”

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Do you legally change your name? Do you have to go to court?

It depends case by case but I had a lawyer who went to court for me but my friend didn’t have to actually show up for court either (she also had a lawyer too though). Usually they just want you to show up to prove that you aren’t doing your name change to get out of illegal things and really shouldn’t take long at all. When you go to the courthouse to get your name change papers they will explain it all there!

-Aiden

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Trans people are people too and they deserve equal rights

EVERY SANE/DECENT HUMAN BEING (via supatrans)

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It has happened to all of us at one point.

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Be prepared for questions

URGENT: I'm coming out to my color guard coach tomorrow after church and I'm really nervous. I don't want to be misgendered my senior year but I don't know how she'll take it due to faith and guard so far being only girls (except for closeted me)

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I don’t know anything about this kind of thing, heh. ;; Followers, any advice?