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i love the work y'all are doing & keep it up

thank you love!

- Mod Erin 

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I feel like I'm drowning. I need someone to talk to but I think my friend is sick of me, sick of my mess.

Hey love,I'm always here to talk, feel free to PM and I'll listen to you, no matter what. Is your friend giving the impression that she's sick of it? Maybe ask her if you can confide in her, don't push too hard but hopefully she'll be alright with it. Nobody should be left alone when they're struggling, and maybe people don't understand, maybe they don't get it, but they'd do anything for you if they knew what they could do to help. - Mod Erin

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I feel like all my friends hate me. No one has explicitly said that, but it's just kind of the way they act. None of them seem to care that I'm even there anymore or when I join in the conversation I notice they get quiet at glance at each other. This is exactly how it was before I was voted out of my last friend group and I don't want to be alone again. Please help.

Hey love, I'm so sorry this is a late reply, but a lot of the other mods have become inactive. I know how you feel, and honestly, I think it's a good idea to ask somebody about it. Choose the closest person to you in that friendship group, and ask them why they keep acting like that. It's not your fault in any way, I'm sure you're a gorgeous and beautiful person. If you ask them about it, and they dodge around it, try to stand your ground. It may seem hard, but asking them about it is probably the best option, as they probably have no good reason to exclude you. Ask them if they hate you, and if they say no, then ask them why they're being cruel towards you. Don't let them try and skate around it, because you don't deserve this sort of treatment. You deserve good friends and real answers. If they continue to be terrible, then I suggest that you do try to find some people who are genuine and kind. Being alone can be really difficult, and it hurts, but sometimes it's good to reflect on what types of friends they really were, and if they were doing any good to you. It's not a bad thing to block toxic people out of your life, if they're being rude to you for no reason at all. Make friends one by one, say hi to somebody, find common interests with another, even make internet friends. Changing friendship groups is tough, and the time in between is even tougher, but I know you can get through it. Spend that time doing things you love. If you need more advice, then I'm here to help ❤️ - Mod Erin

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I'm DROWNING in red tape! I'm going to study abroad next year; everyday there seems to be a new problem, a new document to procure and translate and no one can help me because I'm the only one in my family who speaks a decent English. I feel like I'm going mad! I've been under stress for almost a year now, without rest, and I can't do it any longer. I can't.

Hey there love, I'm sorry for the late reply. I'm sorry you have to deal with all those situations, stress is awful. I'm not so experienced with these things but hopefully as the year continues, the stress will be lifted. It can't last forever, and it's always a good idea, even if you can't get a proper break, to spend some time for yourself. Put a date in your calendar when you know you're free, and go do what you enjoy. Even one day of no stress can help lift the pressure, believe me. Get some fresh air, laugh, smile, just find a time where nothing's going to interrupt you. Even if it's just to go to the movies. If you can't, then try to finish the work as soon as you can, and then even a walk outside could help. With the translation issue, you can find professional translators online for basically free (please don't use google translate, it's the worst) and I think that they could help? Instead of you have to translate all of it, you can leave it up to technology, which is now getting much more reliable than ever. It may take some searching, but there will be some websites that can help. Take deep breaths when you feel that you can't take it, drink some water, remember to take care of yourself. And you can do it, I believe in you. We're here for you, no matter what happens. Hang in there, think of the things that do make you smile, despite your stress. Even the tiniest things-your pet, the sky, the taste of your favourite food. Let those motivate you to continue. - Mod Erin

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I've started disasociating pretty rapidly since Chester Bennington died and don't know what to do.

Hi there,

It’s hard to be faced with the death of one of your favourite musicians, and you realise that you won’t see or hear them again. But I would say, that if you really love their music, treat it like the death of someone you know. Let yourself cry, let yourself grieve, let yourself look back at every trace of them that you had. It’s normal, especially when you’re dedicated to them and they got you through times.

Give yourself time, and time can heal. It may stick with you for a while, but remember to look back when you can, and see that he did have a fulfilling life. He gave you the opportunity to listen to his music, and you’re lucky to have had that chance. 

You may never get over his death, and that’s okay. But try to move on as best as you can, don’t force yourself to, like I said, give yourself the chance to grieve. Remember to ground yourself, at all times, and don’t lose yourself

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Hey. For some of you, school is starting in a few weeks to a month. We just wanted to take this opportunity to remind you to eat, drink lots of water, and don't overwork yourself.

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reasons to keep going:

the people that i will meet the good food that i will taste the blossoms on spring that i will smell the beautiful songs that i will hear the art that i will make the instruments that i will learn the lessons that i will understand the stories that i will hear the books that i will read the movies that i will watch the pets that i will cuddle with the gifts that i will give and receive the words that i will listen and say the changes that i will have to make and face the happiness that i will hopefully soon experience the better version of me the soulmate who’s been waiting for me the scenes that i will fall in love with the countries that i will visit the adventures that i will experience the love that i will be giving and receiving the amount of people that i could help the sunrises that i will be able to witness the discovery of new plant and animal species the creation of a portal or time machine (maybe!) the warm hugs that i will be giving/given

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reminders

you’re not a burden

you’re not unwanted

you’re not unloved

you’re not a pain

you’re not worthless

you’re not ugly

you’re not unintelligent

you’re not a loser

you’re not forgotten

you’re not friendless

you’re wanted

you’re loved

you’re amazing

you’re cared for

you’re beautiful

you’re intelligent

you’re the coolest cat of them all

you’ll never be forgotten

you have friends and you will make more

you will survive and you will strive

you can keep going, you can do it, you can and you will

you’re strong and independent

you won’t give up, it’s not in you, your spirit is too powerful

keep going

keep pushing

keep living

you can do this

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reminders

you’re not a burden

you’re not unwanted

you’re not unloved

you’re not a pain

you’re not worthless

you’re not ugly

you’re not unintelligent

you’re not a loser

you’re not forgotten

you’re not friendless

you’re wanted

you’re loved

you’re amazing

you’re cared for

you’re beautiful

you’re intelligent

you’re the coolest cat of them all

you’ll never be forgotten

you have friends and you will make more

you will survive and you will strive

you can keep going, you can do it, you can and you will

you’re strong and independent

you won’t give up, it’s not in you, your spirit is too powerful

keep going

keep pushing

keep living

you can do this

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You are loved.

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Autistic trans people are valid

Autistic gay people are valid

Autistic bi people are valid

Autistic ace people are valid

Autistic aro people are valid

Autistic MOGAI people are valid

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Mine

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If you focus on the good in life, the good in life will attract to you.

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