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Update about my father-in-law and what we know so far about his passing -

1. Suicide has been ruled out. The reason why they thought it might have been suicide was because my partner's father tried for the first time 20 years ago and for the second time 5 years ago, and the second time the police was involved, so they still had that on record. It's apparently how it is done in (this region of) Switzerland.

2. It wasn't a crime. There was a suspicious wound on his head that had them think it might have been a crime, but nothing in the house showed signs of a break-in, and the coroner says the head wound might have simply been a result from banging his head on the coffee table while falling down.

3. The exact cause of death has yet to be determined, but we now know an approximate time of death.

My partner will be driving down to Switzerland tomorrow, where she will be housed and supported by her step sisters. The Swiss police is surprisingly helpful, but damn, if it isn't a lot of stress. She says she dreads the paperwork the most.

She has also decided to drive dowm to Switzerland on her own. Both her mother and I offered, and she declined. She has made this trip on her own before, so I know she can do it with ease, but I still cannot help but be worried.

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Talk of a person psssing / ending their own life under the Read More (not me) -

My father-in-law is dead. My partnr's mother got the call about an hour ago, at 11 pm. He lived in Switzerland, his ex-girlfriend called. At first it was assumed he took his own life because he's tried two times alteady and went to therapy, but they actually aren't sure. For all they know he could have just - passed. There's a coroner investigating, so until he's done we know nothing concrete, except for that my partner's dad isn't in this world anymore.

It's hitting me harder than I had anticipated. I really liked him. We were close, actually. I saw him the last time last November, I believe, when we visited. We laughed a lot, then.

My partner is...calm. not cold, but calm and rational. Knowing her, she will be for the following weeks and then crash, and I'm worried it might trigger a seizure, if not multiple. I'm worried for her 90-year old, fragile grandma. If anything happens to her because of it...well, now I worry for my partner even more.

I might go to Switzerland with her to do the paperwork. I might not. I offered, but in the end it's up to her and her mum to decide.

I am findi g it hard to process all of this. I know I've been quiet on here as is, but if I go even quieter for the foreseeable future, here's why. I'm sorry.

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Yes there's a typo in the first option but I am not redoing the whole thing

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So my mum wears a tele alarm wristband with an emergency button. She also gets rashes very easily when it's hot bc the salt in her sweat irritates her skin, so I made her these to help with it.

It's a crochet band. Lightweight enough to not be too warm. It's acrylic so it dries in minutes should it get wet. No clasps, no closures, with enough stretch to comfortably slide it onto her wrist, and firm enough so she won't lose it.

You just thread the elastic band of her button in between the stitches, and then no plastic touches her skin. It's machine washeable too. She has it in five colours now so she can switch them up to match her outfit.

She slept with it on last night and said she barely feels it.

Maybe someone else could benefit from this idea too.

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The Untamed | BTS | Lan Wangji (Wang Yibo) + Bunny

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y'all it's about to get really fucking humid and hot

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Finished a crochet jumper for my mother, modelled by her. She was bummed by the fact that due to her MS, many of her crocheted garments turn out wonky and she thus doesn't like wearing them. I think she enjoys making (still slightly wonky-looking) plushies more these days.

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reblog if you have skilled writer friends and you're damn proud of them

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Part of the birthday gift to myself (it was this shirt, a book, and an audiobook.) Loving the colours!

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THE UNTAMED (2019)

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v.2

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@stiltonbasket is that you?

you're the only one who understands me mr strobbery

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are you tired. do you desperately need a nap? but time is limited?

thru the means of my neurodivergent life experiences and much tweaking and process refinement ... i present to you--

precisely timed powernaps!

set timed alarm for 23 mins exactly (with a pleasant alarm tone that does not causes you a STRESS RESPONSE when you hear it)--approx 3 mins for brain to spin down and 20 mins precisely to doze& reset

-> very important to keep eyes closed THE ENTIRE TIME. okay to move position if needed for comfort tho

and then when alarm goes off. open eyes. sit up & GET UP. power nap is finished. no alarm snoozes allowed

set phone to do-not-disturb if possible. if not possible...DO NOT RESPOND TO ANYTHING! this is like very important to the process !!! (if someone speaks to you. tell them you're fine and to pls go away. still with eyes closed!) opening your eyes at all messes up the reset effect !!!

i have done this in public lol. in driver's seat of my (safely parked!) car when overcome with fatigue. in a restaurant (as a paying customer. in a back booth. with waitstaff permission). on my college campus. between classes. while waiting for an evening lecture / event. as a break during a major study session. it is great for a focus refresh during study breaks--put on music in headphones as an aural block too !!!

nap can be had in any semi-comfy (&safe !!!) spot. on couch or bench or chair or floor. use bag as head or knee rest. with your leg or arm thru the strap. if wearing cap or have jacket. cover / shade the eyes for maximum benefit

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Someone said it

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Finally got my blue crochet jumper washed and blocked! It's suuuper comfy, only a teensy bit wider than my striped one, but it feels lovely like that. Very happy with it.

I feel like it goes well with my daisy earrings too!