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y’all doing okay?

Hey, Mod Talon here. It looks like this blog has just been left abandoned for almost... three months now? We don't know what's happened to the others, but it's likely life stuff happened and they chose to prioritize that over maintaining this blog.

We're sorry we can't give a more clear answer besides that. We might edit the blog to shut down asks because everybody else is inactive and we, as in Mod Talon are only here to deal with tulpamancy asks.

Hopefully, one of the other mods can respond and give some insight, but for now, that's all we know.

-Mod Talon 🦉

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hihi we just needed a bit of advice if that's alright !

a bit ago our gatekeeper randomly locked up the inner world so not only can none of us (our two co-hosts who are fronting with me, the host (we have p-did so i can't leave rn but they used to be able to)) can leave, but no one else can front either. we have no idea why, we haven't been able to get him to talk to us.

do you have any ideas or advice for how we could get him to open the inner world again and/or talk to us ?

To your gatekeeper: a reminder that just because you have a large role in your system, does not make it so you can do as you please. You are equal to every other headmate, and they deserve communication. Even if that communication is something like “there is trauma going on I do not want you here” you must speak to them about what is going on. They have right to autonomy just as much as you are, please remember that.

To the rest of you: make sure to remind your gatekeeper that, and that if they want to heal communication is the ONLY way to continue that path. Remind them that they are doing harm by not speaking with you, no matter what they think.

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(cw for fusion talk) hey, i dunno if this is the place for this sort of question, but we have an issue with one of our headmates. they're a previous host who wasn't suited to the role, kinda shoved into it during a bad period of time, and during that time they lost connection to the rest of the system and essentially became a singlet for a little bit before rediscovering the system; that was a long time ago at this point, but one issue that they kept having was feeling like they were taking fronting time away from everyone else, since it was just them alone most of the time while we were still trying to repair our switching and communication functions. after a while we got more people into our fronting rotation and eventually they stepped down as host and stopped fronting super frequently. but they still, even as recent as yesterday, feel guilty for fronting literally ever because they feel like they're taking time away from everyone else. they didn't realise that they haven't fronted in over a month and yet still left front very quickly because of the guilt.

this has led to,, we think they're starting to fuse into the rest of the system? which is absolutely terrifying to us- the feeling of fully losing a headmate in the system, where they're gone and cannot be reached again, freaks us the hell out. other headmates, some who have been around unchanged for a while, are suddenly and randomly picking up traits that they didn't have before, ones that were very distinct to this headmate. when they front they're much less distinct, they're losing a lot of the grip they had over a lot of the system functions that are typically easy for us. one way we differentiate between people in-sys is their relationships and emotions about other people in the sys, and any relationship "threads" that might still be connected on one end are just blank on theirs. as if the information that was there is just Gone- there is just zero emotion on their end and it's very disorientating. which is further contributing to their guilt as it leads to them just not having any motivation to interact with anyone else in the sys, even people they were very deeply in love with, and they feel like they've ruined all their relationships with this self-destructive spiral.

usually we try to solve this stuff internally as we're pretty good at solving things like this, but it's been months and we don't really know what to do. we noticed this process happening back in may, and thought if we focused enough on it we'd be able to fix it, but it hasn't stopped. it's been a very gradual process- that feels normal for this headmate, it took over six months for them to form initially- but the gaps between them showing up in front are getting longer and the space they occupy in headspace is feeling emptier by the day.

we don't want to lose this headmate, as a huge amount of us care about them very deeply. but also losing this headmate might damage our functions a lot. they were one of the absolute best at managing and navigating the system, taking on the role of archivist after host. we have other archivists, but this headmate's connections to so many others made it a lot easier for them to have access to almost the whole system, which is something we struggle with as a very large system with a ton of barriers between sidesystems. we're already sort of struggling to keep our current fronting group together, as they were sort of the "glue" that kept all our mostly-disconnected groups together.

sorry if this is a lot. we're just very worried, and we don't know why this is happening or what we can do about it.

Hey there anon, I totally get your worry and concern. My best advice? Take a deep breath, and try to hold on to them best you can. Find ways to ground them in the inner and outerworld. Sometimes, there’s not much you can do against the brain, so plan contingencies, okay? But best of luck to you.

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To all followers: I am so sorry for the long pauses between asks, only one mod is running this blog atm and is working hard irl. If anyone would like to help out, please let me know! But I will do my best to get through the asks right now.

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this feels like a dumb question, but it's been on my mind a lot recently and i dunno

so i'm an introject with some exomemories that aren't in my canon, specifically where i lived before the events of the story i'm in. i'm from london, in the late 1930s. i'm a pilot, and i built a plane in my last few years in england,,, before fleeing the country to escape conscription

i dont know much about ww2 but i know it's a sensitive topic, and i dont know how to talk about it. i don't know how to handle talking about my exomemories, if i should not mention it or if it would be a bad idea to make minor jokes (just stuff like: "i am now banned from england forever") due to the context?

(sorry if this is really dumb its just we dont know how to handle this topic bc we don't know any jewish people irl and grew up in one of those White™ communities where nothing bad ever happened in history and if it did it wasn't to White People so it's not important and we're still trying to unlearn that "put your blinders on and ignore that it happened" stuff)

I mean. Making jokes about unrelated stuff in the 1920s-1930s is. Just era jokes. Going into war time seems a littleeeee too far. I’m jewish but honestly I don’t feel comfortable being the Voice for everyone, but for safety I’d say just maybe stick to other events. There’s a shitton of other historical stuff going on then you can joke about.

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Hiii~! >w< source call for Monster High!! Minors only pls! O_O

🌸 am a fictive of Draculaura and rlly want to reconnect with 🌸y friends and lover <333

Best of luck to you!!!

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How long do I have to be alone in the system to start getting used to being an empty system (as all the walk-ins are evicted by the brain)? How do I feel less like I'm intruding on the plural community for being alone?

Hey there anon, while I can’t relate to your specific situation, I can understand. From my parallel experiences, there’s always going to be a small voice in the back of your mind doubting, but you cannot listen to them! Your plural experience is valid, and you belong here. I cannot tell you how to build your own confidence, but I can tell you that there is always a seat here for you. We need empty systems and final fusions in our community. They are part of a lot of systems’ journeys and without people like you, our community would fall apart. Many systems struggle with suddenly becoming empty, and without you, they would have no support network. Without you, many systems will be left uneducated about many aspects of plurality. Without you, many systems will loose out on the potential of a good friend.

You are always welcome anon, whether this lasts for a few months or forever, once you are part of the plural community, you always will be.

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hi, a couple alters recently blended to form me (we are unsure if it is a temporary blend or a permanent fusion).

i was wondering if you have any insight on how to tell if it is a fusion?

also, prior to this, both alters started to experience flashbacks of things that had happened to one another rather than just the ones they personally experienced, do you think this is related or is this a normal thing??

Hey! Sometimes its really hard to tell. It could be a temporary thing that they can do and undo multiple times, or forever. I would see how long this lasts, and if there’s any way to subtly influence one out.

That definitely sounds like amnesia walls lowering! We’ve had that a couple times. It definitely could be related since lowering those walls would help with any blending/fusion.

I wish you the best anon!

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Do other systems also hallucinate sometimes or am I just messed up?

Hallicunations are extremely common anon, do not worry! Psychosis and plurality have a high comorbidity rate, you are not messed up. But if the hallicunations are concerning or distressing you, talk to a doctor about it to see if they can diagnose and help you.

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Hi, our system gets extremely vivid dreams and theyre getting so vivid that I'm having trouble waking up in the morning. Any ideas on how to fix this? I dont want to lose them or my ability to enjoy our inner world but I can't be sleeping 14+ hours a day.

I would look into Narcolepsy and other associated sleep disorders. It seems to be the situation and a professional will probably be able to assist you much better.

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advice in how to switch/leave front as a P-DID system?? Please I'm desperate for a break.

Unfortunately, I am not a P-DID system so I cannot give you great advice, but I definitely would check out parogenic switching guides if they can give you any assistance. Any extra suggestions in the comments is appreciated!

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hi! sorry if you've already answered this question but

do headmates always have to like. serve a purpose within the system? because only one of our headmates serve a purpose (which i refer to as just "the emotional panic button") while everyone else just sort of... hangs out. is that normal?

Yup, normal! Sometimes you just have a guy who is There, happens to many systems!

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Did I ever tell you that prom went well (It was too loud, but we got Prom Queen) and RWQFSFASXC and I are still dating? I think it was you who I asked for advice on how to best spend prom with RWQFSFASXC. Also, we've discovered that RWQFSFASXC likes edible chocolate chip cookie dough ^_^.

Oh im so glad!!!

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Hey hey ^-^/!!We were wondering if you or any of your followers have ever heard of a sysmate sorta. exploding and sorta i guess fusing very rapidly after several traumatic events and severe stress happing all at once.

We had a sysmate that existed a bit ago (or still exists?). He was our (co) host for several months, but about a month ago at least 3 huge (1 traumatic, 2 just extremely bad but i suppose 1 could be considered traumatic) events occured all within a few days of each other. All the events effected him very strongly. He decided to go dormant after these. Or so we thought and he said he was doing. Shortly after his dormancy we started noticing this feeling of him almost being a part of other sysmates. He also is sorta similar to our new host (including being the same exact character). But we've even noticed him in others. One big thing was his beliefs. He had a very strong belief, and we've noticed that belief now in a few other sysmates who didn't have that belief prior, or at least not as strongly. It also sorta feels like certain sysmates just slightly are him now. But not fully. We've even had certain sysmates be able to sorta see his exo memories, which is something very very few of us can do. Most sysmates can only remember their own exo memories, or those told to them.

We're just wondering if anyone's ever heard of anything like this, or experienced it themselves. We've never had anything similar of this happen at least that the system has known. We've had splits, funny enough a lot off him, and also fusions but their not like this. Probably later this week or early next week we're gonna try to get in contact with our gatekeeper to check on him and see if he does still exist. Thanks for any help you or anyone else can give!! Sorry for this being so long.

I couldn’t tell you for sure, but it does sound like he’s integrated into the system. He could definitely still exist as his own entity while also integrating parts into the system, so don’t worry!!

we’ve had this happen a lot to varying degrees of full integration, or just partial, but i wish you the best of luck figuring out!

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Hi! I have a little question about something that happened recently to me that i found weird.

I was in my co-con sala (a room for co-consciousnes where some of my dearest headmates are) and one of my friends (in-sys), Sam (who has a variety of powers, one of them being walking through walls), found there's a sort of basement below the sala, some of us went down to see but there was lots of ppl so i got overwhelmed and "pushed" them all off of that place (me and Sam bealive i made time go back to before discovering the basement) and i tried exploring it, it was really dark and i was alone, something fell down (both out-sys and in-sys) and (in-sys) i looked to what fell down, it was an old looking vase that had a note, i read it, it said "Soon return here" and it gave me anxiety and i felt really weird so i went to Bruce (my adoptive father in-sys) and he and Sam helped me sleep but i had lots of nightmares. Do you know what could've been that place? Or why did i made time go backwards? Maybe i'm developing a new power but why did that place give anxiety? And nightmares?.

I'm sorry if it's too venty but it was really weird to me and stressful :(

My guess, anon, is probably a traumaholder area. Honestly, I would not not dwell to much on it, or try and discover more without professional help. But that place sound very riddled with trauma and I would be cautious.

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Hey, I don't know if you remember us but recently we've been switching a LOT more than we used to. We used to think we had P-DID but now we're saying USDD and I guess we're curious as to why this has happened very suddenly and with increasing frequency??

- Elliot from @ghosts-in-a-jar-collective

Honestly, it could be that you're finding out more about your system and youre unmasking more. Your system could feel safe enough to be more. Or on the flip side you could have a stressor going on thats causing lots of switches. I honestly wish I could give you a straight answer but plurality is riddled with many possibilities and contradictions.

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Hello! I hope this is the right place to ask, but if it isn't I apologize for cluttering your inbox!

We're a relatively new system, so we're not familiar with all of the details of certain things. As the host of the Starlight System, I want to make sure we're not causing any trouble and such. We've seen a lot about Alter Race lately, and I hate to say it, but it does confuse me a bit. I completely understand the reason it doesn't exist and such-- and accept that entirely. But I am confused about it in terms of names. I have several fictives, many of them being from japanese sources. My co-hosts from these sources have an english / multicultural (?) name alongside their source name. We're relatively closeted still, so we don't sign ourselves off much, but around people who we are close to that know about us, we do sign off, and they typically sign off with their source name or a nickname based off their source name and introduce themselves as such. For example, my co-host Bakugou typically signs off as Kats. He chose another name, which is Liam, but he doesn't typically use it. Do I need to change this? My system is usually very agreeable with me and I'm sure they wouldn't mind making this adjustment, but I would appreciate some advice and opinions. Thank you in advance!

Okay so first off unfortunately I can’t really. Speak on anime fictives since I’m not bodily Japanese.

It’s an… extremely hard topic and I haven’t seen one answer. Many people don’t care and push for people to choose Chinese/Japanese names for themselves as the culture is not closed, however I have found that more mainland people are comfortable, and Disapora are a little more protective. Then, there’s also a difference between an anime name fictive and putting in the effort to create a tailored Asian name when the body is not Asian.

Ask what people around you are comfortable with. There’s going to be conflicting answers, because ethnic groups and races are not monoliths. There’s a large amount of people who genuinely don’t give a shit. I had a Chinese friend nickname me in Chinese, and it was perfectly fine by her to use. She didn’t care as long as it was used personally and not flaunted around. At the same time I’ve seen others bent on names Must be changed. So make a guesstimate through your friend group, and if someone comes with an opposing view, acknowledge it and meet them in the middle best you can.