#But in my many Gay Community Incursions (tm) I've looked to the sector of straight men who have sex with guys in fascination | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

wachi-delectrico · 1 year

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How can we reconcile the idea that sexuality and sexual orientation do not correspond to a specific set of behaviours and actions and that sexuality and sexual orientation aren't just about sex with the fact people will insist a straight man having sex with another man makes him gay

#rambling #By ''straight man'' i mean a man who calls himself straight of course. Who fully believes himself to be straight #in the same way i believe myself to be gay and you (reader) believe yourself to be whatever gender or sexuality #I feel it's not the best way to formulate this question lol #But in my many Gay Community Incursions (tm) I've looked to the sector of straight men who have sex with guys in fascination #Some take on very Platonic ideas (as in the philosopher not like friendship love lol) of sexuality #Where them getting a bj from a guy is a testament to their masculinity or something #There's also the married men who love their wives but cheat on them with men with the explanation that #Sex with men is free and carnal and raunchy but has no other motivations behind it #while sex with their wives is intimate and personal; soft and loving - sex with men to them (in my interpretation) is #more about getting off and doing whatever while sex with women needs a degree of delicacy and dedication to it #Of course we could say that no matter what they say they are at the very least bisexual - but i do not like this approach #I think it implies exactly what i say in the post: that specific actions and behaviour are linked to specific sexualities as if there's a #an axiomatic or bioessentialist component to human sexuality #My only conclusion to this is we should work on unlinking behaviours and sexuality as it's something we're carrying from heteronormativity #And we have to accept that ''labels are just names not boxes'' also has to accommodate for this or else we're just strengthening the boxes #Maybe a weird post to make but i haven't stopped trying to figure this out since i found those specific sectors in #the gay community & read their convos and stories and such

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