#I’ll delete in a bit

[hellsbroadcaster]

Being a good person doesn’t meant taking shit laying down btw.

Like I think just in general, people think staying quiet about how they’ve been treated to avoid ‘drama’ is the best solution and I’m telling you it’s not.

Absolutely be loud about it. Point it out. Confront them. How they react is out of your control but at least you said what you needed to say.

I’ve been shushed before. Someone who I thought was a friend really hurt me, betrayed me. It was like a slap in the face, and all because I was going through my own shit and didn’t have time to be there 100%.

And it sucked, how I kind of had to swallow my hurt. How a lot of my ‘friends’ knew it was shitty of them but because they didn’t wanna cause drama they didn’t say anything. No one did a god damn thing and it’s really something when you see an abuser get love and praise and be treated like they are this wonderful person when they aren’t.

And true, you can’t make everyone see it. I know they will eventually, and it’s not my job to point it out for everyone. And I won’t. But at that time? It absolutely hurt me, and I started to look at things differently. Look at people differently. And it left me shambles for a good while.

I would rant about it and people would ask me to stop. Or to tag it. Because they didn’t wanna see it. And that’s valid? But also? Why is it you can only accept me when I’m showing my good side? The side of me that’s put together and makes you laugh and keeps you entertained but when I’m hurting you want me to take it elsewhere.

Started making me look at ppl on here who only look at you like a number. I know we all are going through our own shit. I don’t expect ppl to drop everything and help me, I don’t expect ppl to care. If I vent it’s usually just for myself to let off steam and it helps . But yet, somehow there’s always someone that makes it about them.

Therapy has helped me a lot with creating boundaries. I realized a lot of the things that happened where my own fault due to, seeing the issues but not saying anything about them. And also how I make myself to readily available for people. I was there for that person for so much, even bought them food when they were hungry and couldn’t for themselves. I don’t regret it, I don’t regret caring or having a good heart. No natter what I never want to lose that side of me that gives a damn about people.

I do the things I do because I’ve been there. I offer a safe space , a fun space for you to be yourself . Because I know what it’s like to have to hide. Show ppl how to love themselves because I had to learn on my own. I am an empath, I feel everything and I sometimes go overboard because I don’t have the proper boundaries set up. But I’m much more aware now. Learning and trying to be more effective in my communication.

But it makes me sad when you do call out bad behavior and instead of people looking at themselves and saying ‘you know I’m sorry I did screw up, I’m going to do better’ they deny. They gaslight you. They bring up everything YOUVE done wrong to them instead of acknowledging what you’re bringing to their attention. Suddenly they are the victim and you’re the bully being aggressive because they can’t tell the difference between an aggressive tone and an assertive one.

And it sucks that you’ll deal with people who can’t see anything past their own pain. Cuz there is no dealing with that, that’s shit they gotta work on and unfortunately they gotta be willing to look at themselves in the mirror and start seeing the truth.

We all got flaws. I had to look myself in the mirror, and see a lot of things I didn’t like either. Things that needed changing. That’s maturing. Recognizing you’re not perfect, that you do fuck up, and being willing to accept and change it.

But a lot of ppl on here not ready for that. And the moment I’ve started my healing journey I’ve lost a lot of people who aren’t built like me. Whether it’s because I make them see things in themselves that they don’t like, or think they can’t ever be or what it’s not really my problem anymore.

I’ve been stagnant for so long, I want things out of my life and for the first time in my life despite setback after setback I feel like I finally start getting them. I can respect people who aren’t ready to heal, but I can’t stay in those situations anymore. I wish you luck on your own path, but I’m done putting myself on hold for others all the time.

You’re not wrong for wanting to hold people accountable. There are always limits of course. Say your piece and be done, don’t keep adding fuel to it. How they react remember is out of your hands but you did what you needed to do. People say closure is pointless and I say you obviously learned to just not act on your discomfort and just bottle it up and to me that’s sad.

Because we shouldn’t have to do that for the sake of someone’s comfort who had no regard for ours.

And I am confrontational. I’m a nice person but I will come to you with an issue if there is one. And there’s nothing wrong with that, one mistake doesn’t make you horrible. Makes you human. Changed behavior means you’re growing and learning. It’s not a bad thing and I wish tumblr would stop viewing this stuff as bad. Because it’s so important to be able to grow and it’s why so many people suck because no one is really trying to do that.

[good-pokemon-center-reviews]

[gayghostrights]

thinking about John Doe and the dark world as a metaphor for addiction/relapse.

How circumstance and trauma pushed him to do something he told himself he’d never do again, and how he has to live with the consequences and the memories, even though he’s working to not be that person anymore.

And how much shame he carries about the things he’s done, because even if he was pushed to do them, he still did them. To him, he still made that choice, and he has to bear the weight of that.

Thinking about 43, in particular, where the witch is trying to tell John that all he was is all he’ll ever be. That, despite the work he’s put into bettering himself, he’ll only be seen as his mistake in the eyes of some.

And it just feels really meaningful that Arthur’s love is what saved him, in this context. That being forgiven and loved unconditionally, even though he’s made mistakes and hurt people, is how he can cope with the memories of what he’s done. It’s how he can stop himself from slipping back into being someone he doesn’t want to be, even when it’s hard.

love isn’t what makes him better, but it’s what makes him want to work to be better. It doesn’t undo what he’s done but it allows him to live with it.

I just think it’s interesting to read this as an addiction narrative, because so often addicts are dismissed because they’re addicts. Regardless of how much we’ve healed or how far we’ve come, there are some people who will never see beyond our addiction and will force their perspective onto us. Some people hold no compassion for us because they think we’ve made the choice, and think that the harm that resulted from that “choice” makes us unredeemable.

and to see John receiving Arthur’s support and love despite what he’s done, or what he was pushed to do, really reflects how important support is to recovery. Arthur doesn’t absolve John of his mistakes, he doesn’t dismiss the harm he caused, but he doesn’t hold it against him. He knows John is more than what he’s been, he knows John is capable of change and a good person in spite of it, he knows John is capable of being better. Only John can do the work of becoming who he wants to be, but Arthur’s love and support makes the work a little more bearable.

[rogerrrroger]

I’ve got a LOT of speeding bullet asks in my inbox so here y’all go

[exactly24bees]

Can I just say, this election cycle is a fucking mess for people with moral OCD

You vote for Harris and you’re voting for genocide

You vote third party and you’re throwing away your vote and letting Trump win, therefore voting for genocide

You don’t vote and you’re letting Trump win, therefore voting for genocide

There’s no fucking winning. No matter what you do there are people, who you fundamentally agree with, calling you a fascist. Folks with moral OCD I am hugging yall so much this is going to absolutely suck and unfortunately we have to engage with it because it’s still fucking important

[sunsetsandsunshine]

Having the guts to show my art agaaaain

April O’Neil ✌🏾☺️💖🩷💕💞💘

Although no reblogs please let’s keep this on my blog 😅🙏🏾

[teshadraws]

✨New Seekers of Soul Chapter out this Sunday, 6/23, at 7:00pm EST!✨

[smokbeast]

I forgot to ever post these but I case I never finish it or forget! My digitale au! The idea is the usual digidestined frisk falls to a locked section of the digital world where these digimon are stuck in and they becomes found by sans the skeleton monster, protecting the kid and lying theyre his tamer to not get any suspicions. But seems sans didn’t think that through when it comes to what tamers mean

[lqfiles]

me trying to explain to you why the new chapter actually has deeper meaning to it and how its meant to showcase the falling out of a friendship because of romance and lack of affirmation in friendships which leads to issues which THEN—

[mindmythorns]

☁️☁️

[crybaby-bkg]

I think giving Bakugou the silent treatment would be sooo funny because he tries to act like he’s so unaffected and doesn’t care, but gets so huffy so fast about it.

Tries to goad conversation out of you, before he snaps that he can be silent too, but the silence is too stuffy and overwhelming and he can’t take it. It never lasts long, because he’d rather soon get on his knees and apologize for being a dumbass than go another second without hearing your laugh or seeing you smile in his direction again. And he does, whenever he’s wrong, basically crushes you under his weight as he leans over you so you can look at him, holding your cheek and jaw in his warm hand.

And you accept it, with a pout and a slight scold, before pulling away from him. But Bakugou can’t have that, can’t believe that you’ve really forgiven him if you haven’t kissed him or bitten his nose yet.

“Where’s my forgiveness kiss?” he grunts to you, holding your chin between thick fingers, despite you trying to wiggle out of his hold.

“No thanks,” you huff to him, trying to bite back a grin when Bakugou gets all huffy again and frowns and puffs his cheeks up. You lean away from his grip, but he only follows you.

“Cmon, don’t be mean to your boyfriend, give me a damn kiss if you forgive me.” He tells you, pushing and pushing despite your giggling cries of telling him to get away from you. You’re laid flat on your side on the bed, trying to crawl away, laughter bubbling from your throat as Bakugou hovers above you, one hand holding himself up and the other squishing your cheeks in his palms.

“No kisses!” You announce with a laugh, even though Bakugou is starting to descend on you quickly with puckered lips.

“We have to kiss in order to seal your forgiveness, damnit.” He says against your giggling mouth, his lips against your teeth, but he doesn’t pull away. Not until your laughter has to be forced down in order to kiss him properly, the joyous sound taking up the air in the room again when he kisses you again and again until he’s satisfied. He even licks your chin and mouth once he pulls away, just to hear your laugh again, a sound he knows he’ll never get sick of.

[starzonez]

judging u

[bookinit02]

thinking about this post i saw the other week where this person was saying how badly they wanted to be able to buy a nice mug without thinking twice about it. and all the comments were saying how they could just buy a cheaper mug. and they were like jesus fucking christ ITS NOT ABOUT THE MUG. because yeah

[lazzarella]

Sharing my Wandee Goodday playlist because why not?

[alangdorf]

Sorryyyy for dropping off the face of the earth; got kinda shy after that last post but mostly I’ve just been writing though I cannot guarantee that any of that will ever be finished (also I’m very insecure about my writing AAAH). Figure I might as well post the valentines I had done (like two months late lol); interestingly this turned into more of a hand lettering exercise than I was expecting lol

[thoughtfulseason]

hey fencers (stabby), i see us scattered around here and i’ve been thinking that it would be nice to have a place to just chat about fencing (and definitely NOT fences) so if you’re interested i made a discord for that

if it doesn’t work out i’ll just delete it but let’s give it a go

i’m epee but i made a channel for each weapon just in case (epee, foil, saber). and my name there is my art blog name: radvelii