#Stephan Labossiere

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I understand your pain. I understand every tough mountain you’ve had to climb for love. I’ve climbed the same mountains and had to fight the same tough battles. I know how hard it is to take a punch emotionally and try to get back up again. I know how hard it is to find the strength and energy to move forward, when you feel like you’ve been beaten down repeatedly. I know how difficult it is to trust love and life. I know what it’s like to give so much of yourself and to not get what you hoped for, wished for, or felt you deserved in return. I know what it’s like to experience being taken advantage of and for your efforts not to be appreciated.

- Stephan Labossiere

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Last song: Luther by Kendrick Lamar & SZA

Favourite colour: Black

Last book: The Man God Has for You by Stephan Labossiere

Last movie: Intouchables

Last show: Sex and the City

Sweet/spicy/savoury: Sweet + savory

Relationship status: Single

Last thing I googled: Manolo Blahnik heels

Current obsession: Sex and the City, Theo James and Italy

Looking forward to: NYC trip, graduating, spending time with my friends + family

NPT: @haybellewrites @thesassypadawan @filamentlights

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Last song: Monitoring by Deco*27 feat. Hatsune Miku

Favorite color: turquoise

Last book: last book I finished was 'Salem's Lot by Stephen King; last one I read (and am currently reading) is The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson

Last movie: A Muppet's Christmas Carol

Last show: Dexter

Sweet/spicy/savoury: I like all of them, but sweet reigns supreme

Relationship status: Married in the same way a nun is (aka I'm too emotionally devoted to a character - or, in my case, several - to have an IRL partner lol)

Last thing I googled: if color blind was one word or two. Fan fact: "colorblind" is an American-ism that started gaining popularity in the 1990s

Current obsession: Besides the omnipresence of Supernatural, Legend of Zelda: Echoes of Wisdom.

Looking forward to: finishing and posting a couple of fics :3

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Be Irresistible, Click Here Get "Love After Heartbreak" here - Letting Go – How to know it's time to let go of a ... We've got to be able to sit down and talk, we've got to be able to get everything out on a table. You notice I stress the word everything because many times, we address a little thing here, a little thing there, but we're not getting it all out. (Music) Hey everybody, this is Stephan Labossiere aka Stephan Speaks and welcome back to another dating and relationship advice video. As always, be sure to like this video, share this video, subscribe to this channel, and comment below when do you think it's time to let go? So, that's what we're talking about today how to know it's time to let go. The reality is that this is a struggle for a lot of people. There are a lot of people in relationships right now who don't belong there, who never belonged there, all right. That might be you. And the reality is that we become very attached to individuals and when we've invested all this time and energy it becomes a struggle to walk away and the time to have let go may have been a long time ago, all right. But I understand it's not always that simple. It's easier said than done, but I want you to have more clarity on when you know it is time for you, when you can walk away guilt-free without second-guessing if you did it too soon, if you should have tried harder. I want to help you understand when you're moving in the right direction in regards to walking away and letting go. So, number one, number one reason as or number one sign that it's time to let go is when the relationship consistently drains you instead of energizes you. Here's the reality relationships are not supposed to be stressful, energy draining, life-depleting situations, all right. We're supposed to be or they are supposed to be a dynamic that brings two people together. That creates a stronger unit that pours love and positivity into each other. That supports each other. That allows us to battle and deal with life better because we have that person that we can lean on by our side. And so, when you are in a relationship that is constantly draining and taking from you and depleting you, then it's time to let go. Now, granted again, I don't want you to just say well, the minute I feel this way let me walk away. No, we'll get into how you should approach it, but the reality is that first, recognize is that the case with you? Is that what's going on? Because if it is, why have you still been there? If it is, why is it even happening? Are the issues correctable or is it just a symptom of you being with the wrong individual. You've got to see when this is a real problem in your relationship and if it is, then this is a huge sign that it's time to let go. But again, what we do always is address it. We see if we can make adjustments and changes, we see if this draining, this stress, this unhealthiness is due to miscommunication, is due to simply not being on the same page. Sometimes, simply talking about things could have easily fixed the problem and a lot of people don't properly communicate with their partners and attempt to get to the root of the matter, all right. A lot of people are expecting their partner to figure it out, to know this is what you should be doing. Why should I even have to tell you, but you do have to tell them, you do have to express yourself fully so that they're clear on what it is that you need, so that they're clear on what the issue is because some people don't even realize that you are feeling depleted while they're feeling fine. They can be like, man, I thought everything was good. I'm fine, I'm okay, you seemed okay, you said you're all right. But the whole time you're feeling destroyed by this relationship. You've got to communicate those things. But again, if it cannot be corrected after you see that it is taking and depleting you then yes, that is a sign it is time to let go. Number two, number two sign it's time to let go. When the issues that have been addressed are not being corrected.

So, again, here's the key, you have to address the issue first. I will never condone or encourage anyone to simply walk away from a relationship when they've done no addressing of the issues. We got to be able to sit down and talk, we got to be able to get everything out on a table. You notice I stress the word everything because many times, we address a little thing here, a little thing there, but we're not getting it all out. Maybe it's the fear of they won't be receptive to it, maybe it's well, in the past this conversation hasn't gone well and I completely understand that. But you cannot allow that to be a scapegoat as to why you're not going to now talk about these things because if you're not going to talk about it how can you continue to have a relationship with them? If we can't talk to each other we shouldn't be together, plain and simple. So, you've got to be able to get it out. Now, if verbal communication has not worked and that's very common that's very typical, then I suggest doing it via a letter. It can be very hard to have healthy productive conversations verbally because people can get defensive, people deflect, sometimes, you don't realize your tone and the energy that you're bringing to that conversation so, they're feeling attacked and they will get into defense mode. Therefore, the conversation goes nowhere you guys see no progress. By putting it in a letter where you now can make sure your tone is appropriate, where you can make sure you get everything off your chest and now they will have an opportunity to truly process what's being said not listen or read to rebuttal, but read to understand first and then they can respond. This increases the chances of productive communication. This increases the chances of you two being able to get on the same page and fully addressing things. And it also, increases the chances of you clearly seeing if this person is willing to work with you on the issues. So, consider doing it via a letter, but the bottom line is once it has been addressed if the behaviors are not being corrected it's time to go or even worse, they're not even trying to make it work. Like, it's one thing if you have a conversation and someone says okay, I hear you out I'm going to try and over time you're noticing nothing is getting better, nothing is improving. And we have to come to the unfortunate conclusion that we got to let this go, but for some of you, you're bringing it to their attention, you're clearly communicating, and all they're doing is dismissing you. All they're doing is making excuses. They're not even willing to work on the issue. If they're not willing then what kind of relationship can we have? It's dead at that point, it's going nowhere. So, at that point if we attempt to continue to stay in this relationship we are enabling their bad behavior. We are saying to them that your unwillingness is acceptable, but it's not. You're not happy, it's only going to make things worse and you're never going to see anything change because they see no consequence to their actions or their lack of actions. So, once you recognize that they're not even willing to work with you, that is indeed a sign it is time to let go. Number three, when you come to the realization that you're not in love with them. Now, listen, that might be a tough one for some of you all to hear, but here's the reality and notice I said when you come to this realization, not when you think you've fallen out of love because a lot of times people say, well, I fell out of love, things change. No, the love was never really there and again, I know that might be hard for you to accept because we confuse love with so many different things. We think that we were truly in love but we were attached. We had an unhealthy attachment to this individual and sometimes, we're so caught up in the hype, in the fantasy of who we think they are or who we want to believe they are that we ignore the reality of who they truly are. And when the smoke

finally clears and we finally accept that reality, we realize we're not feeling it like that no more, we realize we're not in love with them. And the reality is you were never truly in love with them. You were holding on to the image you had in your head not the reality they presented to you. But once you come to that realization for whatever reason then it's time to go. And the reason why is because once you have come to realize that you are not in love with this person your ability to pour into them the way that they need is pretty much gone and then their ability to do the same for you is pretty much out the window. And so, now, what kind of relationship are we going to have if we don't feel like there is love between us? We're not going to be able to truly make this work. We can attempt to be robotic and say, okay, we're just going to stick together and just go through the emotions. But what kind of relationship is that? Is very unhealthy, unfulfilling, and it has huge ramifications. Now, granted I know for some of you might be thinking well, we got kids and I get it. Kids makes things much more difficult, but I tell you right now the idea that we stay together for the kids is misguided because what hurts the kids more than anything is an unhealthy household. So many people who are adults right now were once children growing up in toxic households. Yes, we would love to see more two-parent households, but the goal is two-parent healthy households. If it's going to be toxic, if it's going to be unhappy, if it's going to give it a negative example of relationships and love then it's going to do more damage to the children. Now, again, this is a very sensitive topic and I know it won't be easy for everyone to understand and grasp this, but I'm telling you right now as someone who has sat down with tons of people because remember, I am an actual coach. I sit down, I've counseled tons of people, I've counseled tons of children or younger kids and I'm telling you what I have seen firsthand and I'm willing to bet any money if you sat down and spoke to other therapists counselors. The more damaging impact is the unhealthy negative household less than the actual separation. And more so than anything what's really causing damage outside of the unhealthy household dynamic from the separation itself is the confusion of it. The kids are like yo, one minute you all told us you loved each other and now you're saying you're getting a divorce. Now, I try to leave divorce out of this but it came out, so let's talk about it real quick. I understand that when I say it's time to let go for the... And we're talking about divorce. These things can get a little more difficult and I have a very more a much more specific answer for those who are going through marriage. But whether it's divorce, whether it's you're in a long-term committed relationship and you're living together with the kids, whatever it is, it's the confusion of your separation that does the most damage because you've been unfortunately lying to them all these years. You've been making them think everything was okay and now they think one day I just woke up and it went downhill. When the kids are allowed to hear or understand the truth of the matter that this was a deteriorating situation that maybe you guys got together too soon. That maybe you guys weren't truly best for each other. Whatever it is, it may be a hard pill to swallow for them. But now they can process things in a way that allows them to still have healthy relationships going forward and for them to not internalize the issue because if I'm confused as a child why you two are separating then I may start to think is it me? Because you're not giving me the reality of this. So, now I start looking for answers I start internalizing the situation and now the damage starts to compound and get worse for this individual, for this child. But ultimately listen, the goal is healthy household. And so, if it's not going to be a healthy

household we can't talk to each other, we're not correcting the issues, then there's no point in continuing. So, when we come to the realization that we are not in love with each other or one has come to the realization that they are not in love and they were never really in love. There's really nothing we can do here. It's unfortunate. It's a sad situation but it's what happens in so many cases and you've got to accept unless you really can tell me you think you can be all they need you to be despite realizing you're not in love with them, then there's no reason to continue. But again, even if you lie to yourself and I don't say that disrespectfully. Honestly, because if you try to convince yourself that you can do it you are lying to yourself. You might keep it up for a little while but at some point, it's going to fall off because when you're not in love, when there's no connection there, your ability to pour into them is just not going to be sustainable. Number four and this is the big one to me, all right. And this is even more specific with those who are married. It's time to go when God tells you it is. Now, listen, if you're not a believer then of course, this isn't going to apply to you, but for those of you who are we have to understand that God knows better than us. We have to lean on His understanding and it's... A lot of times it's hard for us to evaluate letting go of a situation because our emotions are involved, our time and energy has been given, we may have pressure from family and friends, we may have pressure from feeling like we're not getting any younger. There are so many things that can cause us to be in denial of the fact that we need to let go and walk away from this relationship. But the one thing, the one person, the one entity, however you want to describe it that will see past all that and can guide you correctly is God. Your friends and family cannot give you proper guidance all the time, your pastor, me, even though I'm giving you this information I'm not God I don't trump his guidance. I'm just giving you something to consider, but I still want you to go to God in prayer and ask him is it time to leave? The reality is that many of you have already been told it is but you struggle and now you need to talk to God more about how to get to a place that you can embrace the strength you do have within you to do what's best. For many of you, that's going to start with healing, not just healing from that specific relationship but from past relationships, not just romantic ones, your father, your mother's, your cousins', your siblings, whoever. Anyone who's hurt you because all of that trauma, all of that hurt and disappointment contributes to your struggle to walk away from something that isn't best for you. To be able to now do what needs to be done but again you've got to talk to God, you got to get in tune with your spirit, and when he says it's time to go, it's time to go. Now, when we're talking about divorce I know people say, God hates divorce, He does but do you think he approves of miserable relationships? Do you think he approves of toxic marriages? He does not. So, if we're going to not correct the issue then do you think He simply wants you to stay there? Now, listen, again, don't just take that as oh, that must mean God wants me to leave and get a divorce. No, you have to talk to God. You have to allow Him to guide you, but don't assume you know what God wants you to do. There are some situations where yes, He may not tell you to simply get a divorce but the actions or the steps that He will give you may lead to you being released from that marriage. It may be your partner who pulls the trigger and you go with that because that will be your freedom that will be your pass to get out. Whatever it is you got to let God tell you how to handle it. Too many times we go to other individuals who yes, may have good intention but they have... They lack wisdom. They lack an understanding of what's going

on and the unfortunate reality is that some of you have simply gotten with the wrong person and yes, married the wrong person for the wrong reasons and there's nothing you can do to make it work in your specific situation. But that's why you've got to accept what God wants you to do, but let me tell you this even if you are married and contemplate in divorce, all right. And even if you feel God wants you to walk away from this, He don't want you walking away acting a fool. What I mean by that is I see so many people think well, I'm on my way out anyway so, F it, I'm going to do whatever I want. Some people start dating and you're still technically married. Some people still ain't upholding their duties as a partner. No, no, no, no, no, that isn't how this works. You still need to put your best foot forward. There is still a proper way to go about this you still need to... You still need to make sure you, you are going about things in the best way, in the way that God would have want you to. You can't just say God wants me to do this but then do actions or take actions that are contradicting or contradictory to what God would tell someone to do in regards to how we're behaving specifically. But again, talk to God put your best foot forward, all right. Some of your situations can be fixed and for some of you, it can't. But either way, you lean on Him, you consider the things that I've mentioned, all right. And that's how you know it's time to go. Now, again, I know this is going to be a tough video for some of you guys who watch this and some of you may disagree with what's been said. Leave your feedback below let me know what you're thinking, all right. But either way, I truly believe this is... These are the things you need to be mindful of when you're asking yourself how to know if it's time to let go. And I pray that you are able to do what's best for you and for those of you who it can be fixed I pray that you guys are able to figure it out and get things together and get that communication going and get on the same page. But for those of you who simply are not where you belong, I hope and pray that you're able to walk away so that you can receive what is for you and start to live the life that you were created to live. I hope this video was helpful to you. Again, leave your comments below like this video, share it, subscribe to this channel, and I hope to see you in the next video. ...

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Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Stephan Labossiere to talk about breakups and relationship building. We exchange thoughts on the importance of emotional maturity and how it greatly helps couples resolve misunderstandings, the reasons most relationships are dubbed challenging and difficult, understanding what a love cycle is and how emotionally damaging it is, and healing your trauma and working…

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Intimacy isn't just physical, it's mental, emotional, and spiritual. Connect on a deeper level if you desire a long lasting relationship.

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Currently marathoning Stephan Speaks videos on YouTube... very eye opening! Lots of good advice and difficult truths.

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Be Irresistible, Click Here Visit Communication in relationships is very important. In this dating and relationships ... You can say to someone okay, I understand that, that's how you feel and that's how you saw things, but the way that I saw it was so on and so forth. So, you are acknowledging their perception, you're acknowledging that, that's how they feel while still giving your side of things. (Music) Hey what's up everybody, this is Stephan Labossiere aka Stephan Speaks back with another dating and life and relationship advice video. Today we're going to be talking about communication skills, all right. And more specifically, communication in a relationship. I'm going to give you 7 keys to make it better, to improve it. Now, before we get started as always be sure to like this video, share this video, subscribe to my channel, all right. And below leave me in the comments something that you feel would help people improve their communication. What is one of the complains that you have about bad communication or something that you see. Just give me your feedback and let's talk about it. So, the reality is this, communication is key. I'm sure you've heard that tons of times and you've heard it because it's true. And without proper and effective communication, it is extremely difficult to have not only a healthy relationship, but to experience a successful one. We've got to learn how to talk to each other and how to actively or properly listen and without that again, we will not see positive results. And I've seen tons of relationships through my coaching sessions and just speaking to individuals, I've seen tons of relationships that have failed because of communication issues not because two people could not have worked it out had they simply talked about it and express themselves properly, but since they skipped that step they weren't able to find their resolution. So, I want to help you to improve your communication in a relationship. So, let's get to it, 7 keys. So, key number one, listen to understand not to give a rebuttal. One of the biggest problems when people try to talk to each other is that the person listening is simply waiting for their chance to counter your argument. Is waiting for their chance to hit you back is waiting for their chance to defend themselves or dismiss what you're saying and that is not going to produce healthy communication. When someone is speaking, the goal should be to try to understand them. And if you do not understand you don't go to attacking them you don't go to dismissing them. You go to asking for more clarity, you go to asking more questions to try to dig deeper so that you can have a clearer understanding of how they're feeling and what they are trying to communicate. So, when you are active in trying to understand and decipher what they're expressing, then you can now continue that conversation in a way that brings resolution, all right. There will always be time for a counter argument if it needs to be made, but that cannot be your focus, that cannot be how you're going into that conversation. So, listen to understand not to give a rebuttal. The second key to improving communication in a relationship, you can disagree but do not dismiss. So, one of the things I've seen with a lot of couples or even it can be family members, friends, whatever, is that the minute you hear something that you don't like or the minute that person hears something that they don't like they go to dismissing that individual. Now, understand that no one likes to be dismissed. No one likes to have their feelings and, and, and, and uhh, what they're trying to say in that moment to simply be dismissed and thrown to the side, all right. That feels very disrespectful. And when someone feels disrespected, they're going to get defensive they're going to attack. Now, they're going into battle mode with you rather than now trying to hear you out, but that's because the stage was set through the dismissing of how they felt and what they were saying.

So, again, you may not agree with everything the individual is saying to you but you don't have to dismiss it. You can say to someone okay, I understand that, that's how you feel and that's how you saw things, but the way that I saw it was so on and so forth. So, you are acknowledging their perception, you're acknowledging that, that's how they feel while still giving your side of things. This at least shows you're not dismissing them, all right. But again, as I said in number one even when you disagree try to keep an open mind that allows you to gain a better understanding of why they feel that way. When you do and when someone feels like you're at least making an effort to get them, that's going to open up the lines of communication and allow things to be... Create a better more positive environment and it also allows them to stay in line as far as listening and trying to understand you as well. We've got to give what we want to receive back, all right. So, do not dismiss but you are allowed to disagree. And always disagree respectfully and always try to acknowledge their feelings. Acknowledging does not mean agreeing with it, acknowledging does not mean that you're saying they're right. Acknowledging simply says, okay, I get that's how you feel, I get that's what you're saying, I hear you, but now let me present what I'm seeing or how I'm understanding things, all right. And that will lead to a better conversation. Number three key to improving communication in your relationship is to be open and honest. Listen man, all it takes is one lie. And I said man but I mean people, all right. Man or woman all it takes is one lie to ruin a relationship. All it takes is a lack of transparency to create confusion and chaos in any relationship. You want to try to be as open and honest as possible. And here's the thing, nobody is a great liar to where people don't start to pick up on the BS, all right. They don't start to pick up on the fact that you're holding something back typically people do start to sense something's missing here. And that makes them question you more, that creates anxiety, that creates insecurity, that creates a toxic environment in the relationship. So, if you want to have a healthier conversation, a healthier relationship, improve your relationship, then you have to be willing to be honest and transparent. And yes, sometimes that honesty may hurt their feelings, but here's a thing that I've learned, even in hurting their feelings it's much better for them to have to deal with the hurt of the truth than to dwell in the anger of the lie, all right. Because when it comes to lying to them now you create other problems later but in being honest with them even though it hurt them they know they can always come to you for an honest opinion or honest perspective or be you being real with them about what's going on with you. That creates a lot more peace in the relationship. They're going to have to get through that hurt, all right. But again, the chance for you to have a healthy relationship going forward is much higher because you kept it real. So, don't be afraid and again, there's always a way to deliver the honesty that helps soften the blow. But you much better or it's much better for you to be honest and transparent than is for you to hold back, be vague, or to flat out lie. That just creates problems in any situation and any relationship. Number four key that will improve your communication skills and communication in a relationship is don't make the conversation all about you. Listen, if you want people to be engaged to listen, to really try to understand you, then you have to include them in the relationship. It can't just be all about you venting and getting things off your chest just giving your perspective. Now, don't get me wrong there's going to be times where we need to vent, all right. But think about it like this, when you've have people vent to you and all they're doing is just running their mouth and going on and on and on.

It's very possible that at some point you tune out, you check out because they're not engaging you in the relationship. They're not also considering how you feel. If it's a conversation about maybe what they want to see improve in the relationship or a problem they had with you previously. But when someone takes the moment to bring you in by whether it's asking your opinion or asking okay, well, how do you feel about things or let me hear your side, your perception of things. That is enough to now reel you in and keep you engaged. So, it's very important that you make the conversation not just about you, all right. And when you do that especially in a romantic relationship, you're going to see better conversation. So, one other quick example I want to give. If you say, we need to have a talk and then you have a talk about things you don't like that they're doing in the relationship. Which listen, you should express yourself and I would never want you to be afraid about letting it be known how you feel but what you should add or what would be effective for you to add is after you've expressed to them what you don't like saying hey, is there anything you don't like that I'm doing? Is there any concerns you want to express to me that I'm going to be open to hearing you out the same way I want you to be open to hearing me out. When you do that and you show it's not all about you, you, you, you. You will now have someone who's not only willing to listen and even be more expressive, but someone who's going to be more mindful of making the adjustments you mentioned, all right. And correcting the behavior because they see that you're truly about improving the relationship and not simply about getting what you feel is important to you and dismissing how they may feel about the situation of the relationship. So, don't make it all about you. Number five is be willing to compromise. There's nothing worse than feeling like you have to talk to someone who's so hard-headed, so stubborn, and only wants things their way. Plain and simple it will cause you to shut down or not even want to speak to that individual. Or again, you may be physically present, but mentally and emotionally you will check out because it's going to always be about them and only doing what they want you to do. So, if you know that it has that kind of effect on you, then you have to be mindful that it will have that kind of effect on them if you're the culprit. And so, you've got to show a willingness to compromise, all right, a willingness to try to find a middle ground. Now granted, some things aren't, there's no compromise for it and that's understandable, but wherever there can be a compromise that can create harmony then be willing to do that. Be willing to be flexible in that way, show that you're willing to find something that works for the both of you rather than just something that works for only you. When you do that again, you are going to now open up the lines of communication, you're going to engage that person more, and you're going to find more positive results after your conversations with that individual. The number six key to improving communication in relationship, pay attention to both their words and their body. So, what we're talking about here is of course body language, all right. And the reality is that we don't only express ourselves verbally, all right. Our mannerisms, our body language can give off messages very clearly. Sometimes, even better than our words are giving depending on how expressive that person is. And so, you want to not just be actively listening, but you want to be aware of their energy, their spirit so to speak. Their mannerism their body language because that's going to help you see deeper into what they're expressing to you at that moment. Now, again, if you're dealing with someone who is very clear and knows how to fully express themselves, then you may have some leeway in this department. But it's always going to be to your

benefit especially in a romantic relationship to get in tune with your partner in a way that reads their body language very effectively, all right. Because a lot of times... And for example, you may have a guy and he's with his girl and he can see something is wrong and he'll say well, baby what's wrong with you? And she says nothing, but her body language is showing you something is wrong. Now, that doesn't mean force her to get you, to tell you what's wrong she may not be ready to talk about it. So, in that moment you can say to her because you now picked up on the body language that tells you something is wrong. You can say you know what, it does seem like something's wrong, but I understand if you don't want to talk about it right now. When you're ready let me know, I'm here for you. So, one, you're acknowledging what you're seeing. You're letting her know you're there. Now, she may insist nothing is wrong. But you at least put it out that if there's any time that comes that she is now ready or willing to talk about it, if that happens to be the case, you're there. But not, not just that, it also allows you to now be mindful of what you pour into her going forward. And again, this can go both ways. What I'm saying is, if you feel like her body language is telling you she's upset or she's uncomfortable and her words are telling you no, it's nothing I'm okay. Even if she's not going to talk about it and she's going to dismiss it. If you can tell something's wrong, then don't go acting a fool and pouring negativity into the situation. Like you know now maybe the best thing to do now is to create a more happy environment, maybe the best thing to do now is just to show her love and to counteract that negativity that you see she's holding on to, all right. And that is where you're going to win because you are in tune with her body, her body language, and again, this goes both ways. So, don't just look for the words, pay attention to your partner. And again, this works in any relationship kids, friends, whatever, but I have to say this is extremely important in a romantic relationship, in a marriage. You want to get in tune with your partner and pay attention to their words and their body. And then last on this list of improving communication in a relationship the seventh key is take a loving and positive approach when expressing yourself, all right. So, there's a couple angles to cover here. One, it's not what you say it's how you say it. Many times conversations go left because we have no filter or we're not being mindful of the delivery of our message, all right. And we have to understand that it wasn't what you said that caused the problem, it was how you said it. It was your attitude, it was that negative energy flowing out of your spirit attacking them and slapping them in the face. Even though you may have been speaking calmly, even though you may have been talking properly so to speak, but your energy, your spirit was in a negative place and people can feel that. So, you want to try to come in, into that conversation calm with a more loving approach, all right. And being mindful of how you speak to that person. Do not attack them with your words. Do not attack them with your spirit. You have to speak to them in a way that allows them to be receptive to what you have to say. But what also contributes to that is going into that conversation with a negative or toxic mindset and what I mean by that is sometimes, you come off the wrong way because you went into that conversation saying, they're not going to listen, saying to yourself, this is pointless. Saying to yourself, well, you're still holding on to what they did to you previously. So, you're carrying or projecting this negative outcome And so naturally, you're going to come off negative and now the conversation goes left immediately. You got to go into it believing you can have a positive conversation believing they're going to be willing to listen. Even if it turns out that, they don't, all right.

You got to at least come into it with the right mindset. Now, if you're going to say to me, well, the reason why I think that is because every time I try to talk to them it's something negative or they never listen, then I have two things to ask you. One, why the hell are you with them? Number two, have you been coming with a loving and positive approach previously? Because if every other time they would come, they were not receptive to you it's because you came with a bad attitude. Well, then guess what, you need to try the positive attitude first before you write them off, but secondly, if you know you've been putting your best foot forward and you have been expressing yourself effectively, but they're just a person who's not willing to listen then again, why are you with them? If you cannot talk to your partner, how are you going to have a successful relationship? So, you got to evaluate those things, but regardless don't make excuses for coming into the conversation with a negative mindset or again, attacking them with the way that you speak to them. You got to speak in a very loving and calm manner and when you do, you're going to see better and more positive results. So, those are seven keys. Again, I want you in the comment section to list anything that you feel maybe was missing from this list, all right and give your opinion on this content. But again, always be sure to work on your communication skills. It's important that you cultivate an environment in your relationship where you guys can have healthy discussion, healthy disagreement, all right. And find ways to get on the same page and work together. When we learn how to effectively communicate, we will see healthier and more successful relationships. So, do not overlook this, do not dismiss this. You need to work on it and work on it together. So, I hope and pray this video was helpful to you. Again, be sure to subscribe to this channel, like this video, share this video, and I look forward to seeing you in the next one. ...

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