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[this tweet] from tariye peterside reflects a lot of what I’ve been thinking about re: the whole cynthia kao situation (esp. those two points at the end)

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Please don’t say these 11 terrible things to someone with a mental illness.

I know I’ve said things to my daughter about her anxiety that were immensely unhelpful.

And though I’ve apologized, I cringe thinking about how many more times she’s going to have to hear unintentionally hurtful things about her mental health struggles.

Those of us who don’t deal with mental health issues can sometimes stick our collective foot in our mouth. Big time.

It’s only through years of talking about my daughter’s experiences and observing it firsthand that I’ve learned how little I understood about mental illness. I’ve seen how well-meaning comments can totally miss the mark and how alienating such comments can be for those on the receiving end.

Lifestyle reporter Hattie Gladwell created a hashtag — #ThingsPeopleHaveSaidAboutMyMentalIllness — to highlight some of the ridiculous things people say to those struggling with mental health issues.

Gladwell posted a tweet asking people to share the most unhelpful or insensitive thing people have said about their mental illness, starting with her own example:

1. “One person told me I didn’t need medication, I just needed to be more motivated.”

Quote this tweet with the most unhelpful/insensitive thing someone has said to you about your mental illness.

I’ll start: One person told me I didn’t need medication, I just needed to be more motivated to cope with my mental health. #ThingsPeopleHaveSaidAboutMyMentalIllness

— hattie gladwell (@hatttiegladwell) May 6, 2018

The responses are incredibly telling of just how many misconceptions there are about mental illness.

2. “You don’t look like you’re mentally ill.”

Image via That Girl With BPD/Twitter.

Because you can see inside someone’s mind with your eyeballs? What?

3. “When you have a job and a family, all these thoughts will disappear.”

Image via Elle/Twitter.

I am 100% certain that adding a job and a family on top of mental health issues is not a cure. For real.

4. “You have too much money to have anything wrong with you.”

Image via Alice/Twitter.

Mental illness crosses all economic lines. You can’t necessarily buy your way out of it.

5. “There is nothing wrong with you.”

Image via Chazie/Twitter.

First, do you tell people with a missing limb that they’re faking it and trying to get attention?

And second, depression isn’t a contagious disease. For the love of…

6. “Weren’t you taking meds?”

Image via Anne Greif/Twitter.

When it comes to medication and mental illness, you can’t win for losing. People will tell you that you don’t need meds. Then they’ll tell you that you do need them. Then they’ll question why you haven’t miraculously been cured by them already.

People need to understand that medication is a management tool, not a cure-all, and that finding the right medication is like solving a complex puzzle with lots of moving parts. (Not to mention the struggle of finding the right therapist.)

7. “Have you tried praying away your depression?”

Image via Alisa/Twitter​.

We don’t tell people to pray away diabetes or heart disease or a broken bone. It makes just as little sense to tell someone to pray away their mental illness.

8. “So you’re just superstitious?”

Image via Lydia/Twitter​​.

It’s natural for people to try to relate with things they can understand, but making reaches such as these is just silly.

All of us have felt nervous, but that doesn’t mean we truly understand clinical anxiety. All of us have felt down, but that doesn’t mean we understand clinical depression.

9. “Have you ever thought about how there are people who have it much worse than you do?”

Image via Mika/Twitter​.

Mental illness is not a product of selfishness. We can acknowledge and empathize with others while also going through our own stuff at the same time.

10. “It’s attention seeking.”

Image via Juliette Burton/Twitter​.

A cornucopia of insensitivity!

But seriously, “I wish I was anorexic”? No, you really, really, really don’t.

11. “Positive thinking is the key to battling depression.”

#ThingsPeopleHaveSaidAboutMyMentalIllness People who tell you that positive thinking is the key to battling depression. Oh thank you! Thank you! Before you came along, it literally never occurred to me to try and think positively. I’m cured! pic.twitter.com/dGLHs84lZn

— Tariye Peterside (@TariyePeterside) May 7, 2018

(sigh) … Sometimes truly all you can do is respond with sarcasm: #LiterallyNeverOccurredToMe.

The responses to this hashtag hold an important message: We all need to better our understanding of what people with mental health issues have to deal with all the time.

I’m not an innocent party here. I know I’ve said things that were unhelpful, and though it was always from a place of caring and concern, that intent didn’t trump the impact of my words.

It’s hard to understand something you’ve never experienced. And we need to acknowledge the fact that people with mental illnesses are experiencing something those of us without mental illnesses can’t completely relate to.

But that doesn’t mean we can’t do our best to find out what actually is helpful to say.

Often times, a simple, empathetic, “I’m sorry you’re going through this” or “Is there anything I can do to help?” — or simply listening without saying anything — is the best thing we can do.

Stigma hurts.

But if we all take time to learn about mental illnesses we don’t understand and strive to help those who are struggling to feel supported and loved without judgment or shame, the world will be a kinder place.

Read more: http://www.upworthy.com/please-don-t-say-these-11-terrible-things-to-someone-with-a-mental-illness

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James Cameron is facing some hilarious criticism for saying he hopes people get tired of 'Avengers' movies

James Cameron told Indiewire that he was hoping for "Avenger fatigue" because "there are more stories to tell."

People on the internet criticized the filmmaker, most notably for wanting to make several "Avatar" sequels.

Marvel Studios president Kevin Feige seemed optimistic about Cameron, however.

  "Titanic" and "Avatar" filmmaker James Cameron has made some of the biggest blockbusters of all time, but when it comes to the Marvel Cinematic Universe, he's hoping people will get tired of them.

In an interview with Indiewire, Cameron said, "I’m hoping we’ll start getting ‘Avenger’ fatigue here pretty soon."

"Not that I don’t love the movies," he continued. "It’s just, come on guys, there are other stories to tell besides hyper-gonadal males without families doing death-defying things for two hours and wrecking cities in the process. It’s like, oy!"

Not surprisingly, Cameron received some hilarious criticism online for his comments.

Among the backlash, people noted the fact that Cameron plans to make four "Avatar" sequels and brought up his questionable history with superhero movies — including a failed Spider-Man movie and controversial comments he made last year about "Wonder Woman," which he called a "step backwards" because the character is an "objectified icon."

James Cameron’s like “we need more ORIGINAL movies like Terminator 2 or Alien 2”

— Jesse McLaren (@McJesse) April 23, 2018

James Cameron: I hope we all get Avengers fatigue. There are so many more stories to tell in sci-fi Also James Cameron: https://t.co/hKC7SWhEal

— Tariye Peterside (@TariyePeterside) April 22, 2018

James Cameron's SPIDER-MAN script featured a bondage sex scene where Peter webbed Mary-Jane to a bridge and then banged her. So, you know. There's that. https://t.co/KnqzvsvpvM

— DrewMcWeeny (@DrewMcWeeny) April 22, 2018

"there are other stories to tell. for example, for some reason I'm going to make 5000 more bloated movies about my sexy blue CGI aliens," added James Cameron https://t.co/NO9tspMZzw

— priscilla page (@BBW_BFF) April 22, 2018

James Cameron’s just salty because #Avatar fatigue kicked in round about 2010.

— What The Craggus Saw (@TheCraggus) April 22, 2018

James Cameron wildly underestimates the MCU's fanbase and grossly overestimates literally anybody's ability to name a single character from Avatar.

— scott aa wilson (@scottaawilson) April 22, 2018

James Cameron says he hopes for "Avengers fatigue" and then likened his four Avatar sequels to The Godfather, I think that says it all really

— Shroobjack Horseman (@shoib_awan) April 22, 2018

I'm gonna need James Cameron to stay in his lane. First he criticizes Wonder Woman as a feminist icon and now he's dissing Marvel's films? But sure. You go and make 20 more Avatar films, James.

— Connor Behrens (@ConnorFilm) April 22, 2018

James Cameron is bitter about superhero films because his SPIDER-MAN and X-MEN movies never came to together. It's really not that hard to understand, he could have been part of the era that ushered in the genre to the big leagues and is upset about it.

— Christopher Marc (@_ChristopherM) April 22, 2018

James Cameron is just giving shit to superhero films because he wants everyone to forget his hilariously awful Spider-Man script

— Nathan Snyder (@nateallensnyde) April 22, 2018

Thing is, James Cameron can be one of our best genre filmmakers "have a point" and still be wrong - in this case, he's just kinda being OLD (like Spielberg is about Netflix etc.)

— Bob Chipman (@the_moviebob) April 22, 2018

is james cameron aware of how terrible avatar is

— myrna (@joquinphoenix) April 22, 2018

But while the internet roasted Cameron, Marvel Studios president Kevin Feige looked on the bright side. 

"Uh, he loves the movies!” Feige said told Vulture. "That’s awesome! Wow, James Cameron loves our movies! That’s exciting!"

The next movie in the Marvel Cinematic Universe, "Avengers: Infinity War," comes to theaters Friday.

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