#Veritasexual

[jaydenchip404]

Better…

I think I like the umbrella terms better than specific labels. With umbrella terms, I can be whatever I want, but with specific terms, I have to stay that label definition forever. I know I could change my labels, and my feelings do change almost daily, but I feel pressured to stay the same.

I like aromantic, bisexual, genderfluid the best.

Then some labels are more specific, but I like aro, bi, and genderfluid more. It's easy. (Almost) Everyone knows what it means so it's a simple “I'm a romantic, bisexual, and genderfluid.” I wouldn't have to explain every single label this way.

[jaydenchip404]

Attraction mix up

I need help figuring out whether I'm bisexual, polysexual, pansexual, omnisexual, or another m-spec label I’m not aware of. For the past week, I've been experimenting with these labels, but I can't figure out which one best fits me. I don't necessarily like any of them.    I am 100% pluralian (m-spec). I am attracted to two or more genders or sexes, but I don't know if I'm attracted to them all. Maybe I'm just panaesthetic (I'm just now realizing this). I think everyone is attractive regardless of gender, and that's the key point and kickoff for all of my attractions. If someone is attractive, then I'll either get only romantic feelings for them or sexual feelings, with romantic feelings coming way down the line as I get to know them better.    I can get ‘romantic feelings’ for someone I don't know, but that might be just me wanting to be friends with them or me finding them pleasing to the eye. I don't know. Just a little one-off thought. Could be demiromantic or amicusromantic, or panaesthetic.    I'm mainly attracted to boys and girls, but I also find non-binary and other gendered people attractive too. Am I mixing up sexual and aesthetic attraction? I guess my ‘attraction’ sees gender and will pick one gender over the other in a line-up, but ‘I’ don’t really. I don’t care who I date/marry/whatever. As long as we love each other and respect each other, I don’t care about their gender.    I've never met an LGBTQIA+ individual in person. So I don’t know. The closest I’ve gotten are my siblings, and I joke that my youngest brother is a trans woman because he has our mom’s body, but that’s only a joke.    Most of my attractions (adornic, aesthetic, alterous, amical, cute, domestic, emotional, flutter, platonic, quaestus, queerplatonic, romantic, sexual, social, etc.) have been getting mixed up lately; the more I think about them, the more I get them mixed up.    I’m just so confused about my queer identity right now and desperately need help. It’s stressing me out that I can’t find the right label. And it’s doing some serious stuff to my mental health. Everyone else can find their labels so easily, but I can’t for some reason.    I guess the ones I like the most are bisexual and omnisexual, but they just don’t feel right.