#am i even making any sense at all! im tired

[solei-eclipse]

okay. hello guys. my bad for not responding to stuff or being as active recently, had a lot of work to be done and other stuff to focus on that took a lot of my time. I wanted to make more art, but I unfortunately had to put that energy into other things (which got to the point where I could not put them off any longer and had to stay working on it). I know I missed a lot of stuff and I'm sorry for it

[the-fidgety-fiddler]

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[nolongerexistingsadcatface]

Ok yes America hating the cold is funny (eh) BUT. have you considered that I like the imagery of an America sitting alone in the forest in the bleak mid-winter landscape of an east coast woods, all alone in both body and mind, agonizing over her seeming doom to be stuck in the throes of loneliness for all eternity?

[lleclercism]

every race weekend ferrari is like "yeah we use this race as a learning experience so we don't make the same mistake again" and then next week happens and they have 9 new and different learning experiences

[mithomite]

had the most braindead repetitive conversation/argument with my parents. buzz cuts are too masculine but if you dye a design on it it become effeminate which is bad because then you look weak and if youre weak then society falls apart (all societies ever that have fallen apart for any reason are actually because of feminine men) and we start sacrificing babies. and also all mental illness is invented because only 4 people had anxiety in the 90s and covid was made up so that we would all become gay and trans and then the government can control us better and be joe biden's little sex slaves. and also i need to keep my hair long because my father finds it attractive. what

[dragons-and-yellow-roses]

I gravitate towards jobs and such in which I make decisions, and prefer to live alone which comes with many decisions, and then do creative hobbies that require me to make so many decisions, and I thought "Huh, decisions are hard, what would a nice day without decisions look like?" And then I realized I just meticulously planned out a whole day of no decisions by just making the decisions beforehand.

[vault81]

Just thinking about it, but it's kinda weird how your dead spouse is kinda just glossed over when it comes to the fo4 romances, besides Preston (iirc)

like my partner just died like 4 days ago but let me just romance this guy I just met, as far as I know, Preston is the only companion to actually address this in his romance. Like its just a weird writing choice to me, not to mention that the spouse gets like 2.5 seconds of screentime and gets only a few mentions during the main quest.

[piplupod]

every day i see people talking about things that I simply do not understand no matter how much I look into it and think about it and try to figure it out. i cannot tell if it's brainfog and fatigue or if I'm just ,,,, incapable of being intelligent enough for it all :[

[skenpiel]

homestuck fans when theres no rhyme or reason to the trickster designs and its literally just a jumbled mess of hideous colors and vague candy themes which means theres no consistency to analyze to help with making fan designs

[pepprs]

not doing good. at all

[electricpurrs]

i dont think theres a single thing in my life im not tired of anymore. i dont feel like doing anything and im sick to my stomach of everything ever

[silverislander]

if someone else shows more than two indications that they like a thing that's a good, normal way to tell they like that thing, which is normal, because people like things. but if I have more than two indications of liking a thing that means i am irrevocably obsessed with the thing in a way that deserves mockery actually. this is a worldview that makes sense

[seithr]

rl chatterin in tags, dont worry about it just feel like talking about recent stuff. for those who dont care look at this birdthang i won on xiv then. my silly big bird..

[blueprint-han]

did i make a mistake?

[alphalesbian]

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[bookshelfdreams]

Hi, saw your tags on a stede post: do you have advice on how to take good care of the need to be helpful-people around you? there's someone i like and enjoy spending time with but they seem uncomfortable when there's nothing useful for them to do and they're surprised and a bit insecure when i show gratitude and try to reciprocate their kindness. i'm more of a low maintenance wallflowery person myself so asking for or getting help isn't always easy to handle gracefully.

Thank you!

i have no idea but if you figure it out let me know thanks

Hi! This is something you should talk about with this person (yes, I know. It's hard). I don't know what need they fulfill by being helpful or how exactly you feel your attempts at reciprocating aren't appreciated. I don't know enough about the situation or either of you to give any advice that might be helpful.

But! I can give you a bit of my perspective on these feelings and how I deal with them. Because my self-worth is basically wielded to being useful to other people and that's not a good way to live, for many reasons.

First of all, when I get really down into a self-loathing spiral (because that's really all it is, feeling like I have to make up for my existence), I imagine someone other than myself saying those things to me. Ideally someone I dislike. Then I get offended. And then I look at my own brain like

What helps me with accepting help and nice things, is thinking about how giving those things to people makes me feel. Which is very good. And thinking about how it would make me feel if someone I cared about would always refuse favours, get uncomfortable at being given gifts, brush off my compliments. That would feel bad, wouldn't it? Like maybe they don't like me back at all.

I try to look at myself from outside; like, what if I were someone I know? I am not special; I'm just like everyone else. If helping others, giving gifts, etc makes me feel good, the same is true for others. If I'm honest when I compliment someone, others are honest when they compliment me. If it makes me feel all giddy inside when I make someone smile, the same is true for people who make me smile. And so on.

We're all just guys (gn), you know? No one has something uniquely horrible at their core. Everyone is just a person who deserves help and kindness and nice things. I know it can be hard to accept that. And I can't really give you any tips for helping that person you care about accept that. But eventually, we all have to ask for help and then we'll get help and we'll see that people are there for us, and we deserved it all along.