#and tbh the making-things-about-you thing i wanna relate to that reviewer for the lesbian book too.

[guideaus]

i got an anon abt that poll, so i went into the notes of that post to look again, and there wasn't anything they claimed, but i did see this comment and i think it's a really good summary of the situation. i had no clue what even lead people to react to make aroace positivity trend in response to a man unwilling to put effort into a relationship with a woman, but still reserve her "obviously" exclusively only for him for sex, but angelbong's comment about how people make things about themselves, project and feel attacked, get defensive, and then "fight ghosts" opened my eyes, and it makes sense. there was almost no info abt the guy beyond not listening to the woman, and then asking for something she already told him no for, while saying it should be natural for him to have an "exclusive fwb" situation (which doesn't make sense). for some reason, the person that got that post trending related it to them, and then turned it into an aro issue, which it wasnt, and then ppl on tumblr got enraged over smth not even happening

I was also thinking wouldn't it actually be offensive to be lumped in with the guy trying to get away with ignoring a woman's boundaries and objectify her? that can't be what being aromantic means, right? you wouldn't want to sit with this guy?? it reminds me of guys on dating apps trying to say they're in an open relationship or are poly, but really want to be with multiple women, not letting the women they're interested in do the same (which makes it unequal). i wouldnt call them poly or want to interact with them, why would u call the poll guy aro