#anyway I watched a video by albinwonderland when I was like 16 called ‘don’t check up on people’ and was like hell maybe | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

junglejim4322 · 5 months

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One of the best rules I ever put in place for myself since I was a teenager is I strictly and with no exceptions do not check up on or look up or ask about anybody I don’t have contact with anymore unless I have the express intention of getting back in contact with them again. No exes no ex friends no family members nothing. I do not check if they’re doing well or dating someone or even if they’re alive because there’s no reason I need to know that would do me any good and it amazes me how much significantly faster I got over things when I started sticking to this and how quickly I stopped thinking about things that happened or people entirely after. I don’t even just mean things that ended badly though that’s where it made the highest difference but anyone who is no longer in my life even for completely innocuous reasons too. I don’t need to be thinking about what they’re doing or what they’re up to or how things would’ve been if we still knew eachother because they don’t have anything to do with me anymore. Etc

#it actually made the biggest difference with family honestly after I stopped looking up people I no longer talked to/no longer could talk to #abusers too that was probably the second although there is someone I would want to know if he died #anyway I watched a video by albinwonderland when I was like 16 called ‘don’t check up on people’ and was like hell maybe #I’ll just stick to this and then did forever lmao #wall of text. always means I’m TOo sober

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